1 year matured throwing resentment tantrums?
Answers: I know exactly what you are going through. My daughter (now 4) and I lived with my parents for the first 13 months of her natural life. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart beside mom. Explain to her that the tantrums don't happen when she's not around. Acknowledge her feelings nearly her granddaughter and acknowlede that your mom is acting out of love. Make a deal with your mom that if she let your daughter cry it out for a half hour (and if she doesn't stop after a half hour she can rescue) for one week, if your daughter is still routinely throwing tantrums, she can stir back to giving in. However, if grandma doesn't provide in for an entire week, your daughter will figure out it doesn't work, and things will be well brought-up.
Oh, and make sure you let your mom know you are appreciative for her help.
Good luck
First things first.YOUR HER MOTHER, HER GRANDMA ISN'T!
Okay now that Ive gotten that out, you involve to lay down the law with YOUR mother. Regardless if your living next to her or not. That is your child and YOU make and set the rules.
In my opinion your mom is crossing the flash by not listening to you and undermining your authority. If you do not take control of the situation presently it will only get worse.
With adjectives that being said, there is your solution to your problem, your mother wants to stop and you need to stand up for yourself and take control.
Who is the child's parent you or your mother? You are going to enjoy to lay down the law to your mother. What she is doing is enabling your daughter's tantrums and they won't stop. Your daughter WILL bring worse. The only problem with your situation is that you live next to your mother...you're in a tough spot and could find yourself being told to head off. honey as a mother of 3 and babysitter of over 5 from infant until they were 3 years old.. i meditate my advice would be valid. so here goes.. transmit mom to back off... BUT that anyone said. your going to have to be diplomatic about it. almost to the point of it anyone her idea...get books, read the internet, lately talk to her... if that doesn't work remember.. stand your ground...your the mom now. your doing the right article, so she obviously raised a smart daughter. suitable luck to you :)
Tell your mom when your daughter is not around that from now on when she throws these little fits that both of you need to bearing out of the room and ignore her. You do not want to raise a monster. You better spank that *** lol lately kidding so dose my little girl there is terribly little you can do right now until she is older.
This sounds stern, but you may need to tell your mom that you are the parent and ask her to not interfere near your parenting style. Give your mom a break hey, she is probably just doing what she did for you many years ago...and it turned out okay didn't it?
When I first started reading this I thought that possibly it was just an instance of need to give grandma room to be grandma. That is until I read that she lives with you. Now is the time to put the boundaries down. She's intervening within your discipline and undermining your authority. This needs to stop or you will not have the honor and respect you call for in order to put on a pedestal your dd the way YOU see fit. . .especially as she gets elder. Those tantrums will only gets worse once she data out she can play that card and win every time. That said, talk to mom gently. Grandmas do hold a hard time seeing their grandchildren "hurting". But children also know when they can play grandma. She had her opportunity to incline you. Now it's your job and she's got to swot to respect that space. It must be nipped in the bud and soon. And nearby is room for compromise here. Does your mom ever keep her while you are gone? If she does, then that would be the time to pick her up when she have her tantrums. And I would allow that. I allow my parents room to do things I wouldn't normally do around my children. My kids know it too. LOL!! But the general rule should be that as long as you are around you are mom and you must discipline her as needed. If not and grandma keep intervening, it's going to create hell on earth for you when discipline really starts to counts (which it sounds like isn't too far stale.) Put those boundaries up but be gentle.
God Bless.
mom of 5 w/ #6 due Nov 08
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