A bully but a scardy cat?

My nephew is a real bully, he is 3 years old, he picks on the kids all the time, but we have just been to our local festival and he is soo scared to go on the rides, whereas kids his age and younger were loving the rides.
Tell me how these 2 different personalities can belong to the one child. There has to be some reason for him to bully!

Answers:
Hi There

Bullies are usually scared, insecure and quite sad people. They are usually craving for love and attention. The reason for the behaviour is just frustration and they foster their own fears onto others.

Stay safe

Dirky

Other Answers:
IT'S NATURE DEAR, IT'S NOT A GENETIC SURGERY.

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Is he an only child is my question, if he is then it is just him being spoiled and at 3...he will grow out of it, just as long he is told it is wrong! He is afraid that no one will like him or he thinks he is different from everyone else. He should grow out of it unless his parents' baby him too much.

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Most bully's are scaredy cats deep down. It's that insecurity that causes them to lash out. Just be patient with him and explain what he's doing to others each time he starts to bully.

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5 moms dish the dirt... http://blogs.chron.com/mamadrama/

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Most definitely these personalities can belong to the same child. Most bullies are afraid of something and somewhere along the line, they were told that boys and men shouldn't show that they are afraid. Comments like "Stop crying! Are you a girl?" don't help either. Maybe he's afraid that other kids would discover that he's afraid of something and either use his weakness against him OR he's afraid that they won't be his friend or respect him. Sounds complicated for a 3 year old but it's not. They think deeper than adults give them credit for because they don't express it as easily or verbally as we do. Try finding a friend for him or talking to him and helping him realize that to be friends with someone, you first have to be friendly. Help him to remember "the golden rule"..."do onto others as you want them to do onto you". Hope this helps. Best wishes and take care. It is not good to allow a child to be a bully, it is much better to teach them loving ways of dealing with people and life.
I wouldnt allow my children to be around a bully!

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