is this normal for ac 2 y/o child?
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oh i feel for you that is what we call the terrible 2s. my son just turned 3 so i understand. you have to be firm they are pushing there boundries. be patiant, try time outs and taking toys away. always show love u will get through this
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Get her outside and run her little fanny off. Introduce her to new friends. Sign her up for play groups. Arrange play dates with neighbours kids.
yea, but make sure u raise her rite. she can grow out of it and she can be raises to be better than that. its a tuff but 2's a fun age and u'll want it back someday so try to relax and hav fun as much as possible. i guess its obvious that i've never been a parent, lol. and am only 14
well i have a 2yr old sister and she isnt like that but like if i pick on her she gets mad and starts crying then my mom says go beat her up and she comes beat me up thats about it so i cant realy help
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They don't call it the terrible twos for nothing!
This is a somewhat normal thing for kids that age to do, but (and I know it's easier written than done), you need to make sure she doesn't fall into the mindset that whenever she yells and screams she gets what she wants. Sometimes you just have to ignore her, or tell her no and not care about the tantrum, just to make sure she doesn't end up... well... spoiled, I guess.
I know you're probably doing your best, so just be patient, and make sure you establish a pattern (on a day in and day out basis) where she'll learn that screaming is not all right.
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Yes. My son is sometimes like this. I think that it is because his sitter during the day pretty much just plays with him and the other child she watches all day. Sure, that is awesome, but she has all day. When I get home from work, I love to play with him but there is so much else I need to get done sometimes. It is pretty sad, but unfortunately the way things are for us.
Anyhow, what I do is just play with him as much as I can so I can spend some time with him. If there is something I need to get done, I just let him help (or let him think he is helping when it is something he really can't do.) He is spending time with me and also learning things as we count how many eggs we are putting in the pancakes or learning the colors of the things we are picking up... etc.
If I really can't do something with him, unfortunately I just have to let him cry. Tantrums are a part of a 2 year olds life. AS long as he won't get hurt, I just have to let him throw it. He normally gets Boerd crying and finds something to play with.
Oh...right there with you. Same story at our house.
I'm finding that the judicious and timely use of the time out, very clear rules and expectations, and a giant dose of humor are the things that get us through the day.
It IS funny, if you can step back enough to see it. And if you laugh, they usually do, too.
Plus, clever as your daughter may be, she's still a baby. So distraction is as useful of a tool as discipline, as long as you're the one calling the shots, you know?
ok, this is age of terrible 2's.
get her in different environment, show her how to watch birds, other things. this truly fasinates kids.
does she have plenty of toys? they love watching people, get her around store or park.
sounds like she is around mom too much.
you might try getting her interested in bear/doll. to occupy her.
You need to elt her know who is boss. If you run to her everytime she has these fits she wins.
She is also bored. You need to find something that she enjoys, get her an easel and art supplies, a toy that promotes motor skill usage, toddler computer games with sounds and movement....anything that she enjoys will keep her occupied and happy and you can join these activities with her.
Does she like any movies? I know some people don't agree with putting your child in front of a tv, BUT...When I absolutely needed time to do chores around the house I had to get my children interested in something. I always used learning dvds. My daughter learned her ABC's from watching Barney when she was 18 months old. (i know "barney" bleh) but it worked. Her and my son were mezmerized with him and they learned alot. I would pop that tape in and "poof" quiet time for as long as barney was going. My children have outgrown him of course but there are a lot of other educational and interesting DVD's to choose from now. It's worth a try anyway. Hope it helps. Oh yeah and what the 14 yr old said about one day you will wish she was 2 again...she is sooo right. You will blink your eyes and she will be in first grade. They grow so fast. Enjoy every moment.
I would say she has the terrible two`s.my daughter`s three year old wouldn`t concentrate on nothing i had her on omega 3 fish oils for three weeks and did she improve, i couldn`t believe it.try to be firm and don`t give what she doesn`t need.Otherwise you could have a worse problem of her being spoilt. try going for some help if it gets to bad good luck
a good lesson i've learned with tantrums is let it go. the more you try to reason with a screaming toddler, the madder they will get. its for attention anyways, so walk away for a couple minutes, eventually the child will see they are not getting what they want and stop. then you can try distracting them with something else.
i know what your going through, my daughter is 2 and a half, shes my only child...she loves to sit on my lap or sit right next to me, she loves my attention all day long, if i don't pay much attention to her she starts acting bad and gets into things! once in a while she'll sit or lay on the couch and quietly watch one of her movies and sometimes she does play by herself, but most of the time she wants to be stuck up my butt all day long! are you a stay at home mom? i was a stay at home mom til my daughter was 14 months old, worked til november of last yr got laid off and was a stay at home mom again, up until 2 weeks ago, now im back to work again, my daughter gets sooo attached to me when i am home all the time with her, she has to have my attention all day long. shes not sooo attached when i have a job! but sometimes she doesn't want me to go to work, she wants to be with me all day long!
it's called the terrible two's...sorry but they all go through it. some more then others. my nephew went through the same thing. he's actually still going through it and he's three. all you can do is give her attention, but don't spoil her. let her cry sometimes..she has to know that it's not always goign to be this way. God bless and take care!
I feel your pain!
I found that most of the whining came out of frustration...from not having the vocabulary to tell me exactly what he/she was feeling, wanting, etc....
SO....we enrolled in Kindermusik "Our Time" classes and "Sign and Sing", too. Both of these classes helped us to expand his vocabulary - along with sign language - and gave us the together time he was craving. I also met many other moms and kids at the same stage we were at.
About the whining....I would always say "I can't understand you when you talk like that" or "use your big boy voice" every time he would whine. This helped tremendously. He realized he would have to talk in a "normal" voice to be heard by me. I was very consistent.
Also, a word to the wise: Do NOT give extra attention for whining and tantrums or you are in for a long road. Give the extra attention when she is doing something good.
They do what works...so if begging gets them what they want, they will keep doing it. When they know the rules, and how to get what they want by acting nicely, then will comply. Consistency is they key.
Good Luck!
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Yes, it's normal. But you can start helping her learn how to act more mature. Just don't expect it to "take" right away!
First the whining. Teach her how you want her to speak to you if she wants something. Then ignore the whining and reward the correct behavior. If you react in *any* way to the whining, you are rewarding it!! Instead, if she asks nicely, answer her. Get down to her level (it's hard being down on the floor when everyone else is up high!), look her directly in the face and tell her yes or no.
Try to avoid the screaming. Usually, this is a sign that the child is tired, hungry, or frustrated. Make sure she's getting enough sleep, and give her regular meals and snacks. Try to limit the frustration level in whatever way you can. (Take away toys or puzzles that are *way* above her level, for instance.)
Don't expect her to play on her own just yet. But find ways she can "help" you. Everything will take twice as long, but that's not as bad as it taking *three* times as long because you have to keep stopping to deal with her!! If you are cooking, let her have a little bowl and give her a drop of each ingredient to mix for herself. Or let her mix the "big bowl". When you wash dishes, leave a couple of plastic dishes for her to do. If you have a double sink, let her use one and you the other. Or give her a plastic bowl of water to wash her things in. Plan on washing the counters and floor when she's done.
That sounds exactly like our two year old. Being the sibling to teenagers, she's been quite spoiled over the past two years. When she's freaking out, I bend down to her eye level and ask her to stop and listen (what a feat that was in the beginning) and when she finally listens to what I have to say I tell her she can't (have something) or (do something) because (I tell her the reason) then I give her an option. If you do this, these are the consequences, and then I say now would you like to do (and I suggest something else) The trick is to be firm and mean what you say. Give in once and they've got you wrapped aroound their finger! lol... this is the stubborn stage just keep telling yourself it's only a stage! Next thing you know she'll be a teenager and I tell you, what a stage that is!!!!!
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