i m 3 y/o stepmother and only mother but we seem to have serious issues?

I am frustrated, having had 3 children of my own, who are no longer in our hme I never thought this was going to be a problem. She thinks I am her real mom, so that is not the issue. But she is obstinent, lies, acts sneaky, is defiant, plays emotional games between my husband and I....I am growing extremely frustrated. No matter what punishment form I have tried nothing has worked, and trust me I have tried many. Anyone wanna give me some suggestions? Her biological mother is in the process of getting clean and sober and will get visits eventually if she continues to be sober, this child believes I am her mother, although we try to be honest with her, I think she is too young to explain it all to. But that really isn't the issue anyway. It is her behavior. In front of others, she makes me look like an ogre. She just refuses to follow the rules we have laid down and at times her father does not back me up. Sometimes I wonder if I don't expect too much from her. I don't know.

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Then treat her like your own daughter..You are the parent whether step or biological you call the shots she doesn't !!! You tell her what she is to do and if she does not do it then punish her...Ground her , take away her TV or Computer and make her realize that you will not be treated like that and she will obey you...After a while she will see that you mean business and tell your husband that he needs to back you up or she will not listen to you at all..

How old is this little brat?

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