Terrible twos - Is there a good book for parents to deal with it?? PLEASE HELP!!!!?
With this background, can anyone tell me if there is a good book on parenting a 2 year old, and surviving terrible twos.
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Don't take any notice of people telling you not to work or to go part time, for a start. They know nothing of your family circumstances. I am going through the same thing at the moment with our daughter who is exactly the same age as yours. She is bright and confident and an absolute joy, but she can also tantrum like the world is ending over the most trivial thing (like a pebble). She can be disobediant, willfull and just plain awkward.
I love her so much, lavish cuddles and attention on her. I am firm and offer direction and enforce my rules. She still beats the hell out of me!!! Sometimes I'm so frustrated I want to chew my own arm off!!!
She's 2. Thats what they do, its their job. We will get through it, it'll all be alright in the end. Reflect on the good times. Go and quietly look in on her when she is asleep, to remind you of what a precious angel she is.
Take no notice of some of the numpties on this (like bobbathejobba - required by who in the UK to go part time? what are you on, fool?) trying to tell you how you should run your life.
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Toddler Taming was good and full of common sense stuff we already knew for ourselves. Forget who wrote it. Why worry? You never see her anyway.
Lots of love and understanding. There is no substitute for loving parents to nurture the child.
The child is testing you, to see what your limits are. They are finding their independence.
books don't help,just be very patient and don't give in if you want her to do something stand your ground she will soon get the message. (mother of 5)
Dr Benjamin Spock's book on Baby & child care!
you just have to have alot of patients and pills around for your headaches.
I also recommend "toddler taming"
Routine and consistancy are what is needed.
Good luck with this. If you think the twos are bad, just wait for the threes!
Best I've read is:
"Secrets of the Baby Whisperer for Toddlers"
Tracy Hogg
She's really got her head screwed on.
Can I be honest - a lot of it is often attention seeking - it might be that she misses you and is expressing it through this behaviour - does her behaviour change when on holidays or weekends (when she sees more of you)? If so, going part-time (which is a legal requirement in the UK) would be an option.
1, 2, 3, Magic!!!
You have just got to grin and bare it,every child goes through the terriable twos,i should no i'm on my third one!! But you just have to be firm and not let them win cause if you do your life will be hell forever!!! Goodluck
"Raising kids Gods Way" saved the day for me. Things turned around within 2 days of following that advice. I cant find it right now or I'd tell you the author but you can get it at christain book stores or online I am sure. I have had it for years so I dont know how available it is now but look for it. It was the most helpful thing I ever read in my life.
The New Strong Willed Child by Dr. James Dobson - I don't really like religious books, but this was recommended to me by a friend. It has been a big help. I have a 3 1/2 year old. I think he is still in his TT's. ;)
Well I'm a granny now and don't remember my 2 kids at that age being a problem I think because I gave birth to my son a week after my daughter turned 2 so I made her my little helper and that worked a treat with her and my son was just one of those 1 in a million 2 year olds who you could leave a couple of saucepan lids and a wooden spoon and he would play for hours now, although my daughter now has a 3 year old and has almost committed herself into rehab about every other day heheheh lol, she was truely going around the bend and about 12 months ago she got Dr Phils book ,can't remember the name but its about children ,anyway she followed it to the letter which wasn't easy and there were set backs from time to time but now ,she has a well behaved 3 year old that actually can behave and is a loving little man who is a pleasure to be around where as before he was a screamer if he didn't get what he wanted he would kick and punch and bite now he is 100% changed , but you must do everything the book says and follow thru always follow thru
Get three copies..one for you, your husband and your caregiver....this way you are ALL doing the same type of discipline..behavior modification...the book is called:
1-2-3 Magic : Effective Discipline for Children 2-12
by Thomas W. Phelan Ph.D.
you can buy it used on amazon for $2.96 or look in used book stores or the library.
the premise is simple...it is pretty much the one the supernanny uses..and IF you (and the other "authoritarians" in juniors life) are CONSISTENT..it WILL WORK!
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tamer of a very, very challenging child
Perhaps there is a lack of consistency in discipline and/or the addressing of behavioural problems. The Nanny 911 book is pretty good.
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