Is it normal?


Is it normal for my 2 year old to get mad when tell her no and hit things? When she wants something and I tell her no she will hit the wall and scream at me "my dad." Well I am a single mom and he dad left the state about 1 months ago and since then shes been all about her dad. I know she misses him. But shes 2 and I cant explain to her to make her understand thats hes gone. But she gets mad and she hits things, and screams "my dad" every time something dont go her way. She has hit me a few time and I dont know what to do. People look at me funny when we are out in public and shes starts doing that. What should I do? Does she need help that I cant give her. HELP ME SOMEONE!!!!

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She misses her dad that's why she throw tantrum at you. You can explain that her dad is working somewhere very far, so it is just you and her. Try to be sad when she hits you. When she hit things tell her she is hurting that things. I have a child and I always make him believe that things he throws or hit is actually hurting the things.She will be okay believe me I have gone through .

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For the situations she's in, I'd say normal coping. She misses dad. It won't be easy, but you'll have to do things to help her cope with not having dad around. I'm not exactly sure how, since I've never dealt with this before. I'd say show her plenty of love and affection. Soon she should get over it. It might just be a faze but it could be something else.Try to get her mind off of him spend sometime with her. Make her relize that she can have fun with you. And when you say no say it nice and calm.


be patient,,, all that you can do is show her love...and attention that she needs, little kids need understanding... they are very innocent in what theyre doing...

Sounds like Terrible 2's! Stay firm and do NOT let her get away with being a brat. You need to win back your authority. Teach her that she won't get her way by whinging.

I think she does understand that her dad is not there. When she starts hitting stuff, ignore her and let her hit without you being there. If she follows you and keeps hitting things, just keep walking away and don't watch. She is drawing your attention by her tantrums. If she can't get your attention, you will end up being the parent again. Right know, she is the parent. it's ok, it's normal, she's two, my two year old is the same, she will miss him, but she'll get over it, she uses my hubby the same way, if she doesn't get her way, she goes crying to him. She's just learning boundaries snd loopholes, it won't be long till she forgets him if he's gone. ( lost our cat, baby's best friend, she's finally forgotten after 3 mos) good luck!


While alot of her behavior is typical for a 2 year old, she is also stressing about her dad being gone.
I strongly recommend getting her into play therapy. A child therapist uses play to express emotion and can help her get through her confusion and whatever other feelings she is trying to cope with.
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I had my daughter in play therapy for anxiety. It worked wonders.


That is very typical of the "Terrible Twos"

Luckily, my neice never went through them.

She will eventually understand that her father is never coming back. You could always tell her that "Daddy is away on a very long trip, and won't be back for a long, long, long, long time".


very normal but hitting is not ok she is bullying u.
she is only 2 years old. she can't understand why dad is not around. try to explain to her often when she is in a better mood. give her lots of love, hugs & keep telling her that u love her. when she tries to hit u, stop her & tell her u love her but she is hurting u & it has to stop NOW. no more hitting mummy. i know it's tough, very tough but hang in there. she is getting older day by day she will mellow down sooner. also watching supernanny helps. i hope u find some answers to yr situation soon.


Your daughter seems to have alot of frustration with her father not being around.
I would speak to her doctor and explain the situation and ask their advice. see if there is a councilor that you and your daughter can go to to help you with things to do to tame the behavior . also check into some single parenting support groups.
she may think his leaving is because of something she did bad. make sure you take time to praise her when she does things [good] and give her extra hugs and kisses . reinforce the fact you love her . she may be afraid you too will leave and be acting out . choose your battles and try to redirect her instead of telling her NO tell her ' hey that is not a good choice , lets do this instead ' and maybe have her help you with a task or stop for a few minutes what you are doing and spend a few minutes with her doing something she likes to do .
even at 2 kids are much smarter with seeing things have changed then we expect. they just dont know how to tell the difference between daddy left because oF _____ , and daddy left me . all they know is daddy left and soon they may feel it is their fault .


Try to come up with a different word than "no". If you're in a store and she wants something, instead of saying "no", you can say something like "i'm not buying that today". Give her a verbal explanation of the reason other than just saying no. The dad thing will pass - when she is upset, comfort her and validate her feelings.



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