4-5 years olds & same sex (boys) playing doctor!?

I received a phone call the other day from my son's friend's foster parent that over the weekend when my son was over at their house, they were playing doctor. Now, they were both fully clothed and it is obvious that his friend instigated the game. I asked my son how they played "Doctor" and he said his friend would kiss him on the tummy, his butt and pee pee (mind they were fully clothed), and my son kissed him on the cheek. Now this is a foster kid and his foster parent says he was never sexually abused, but has watched violent movies and most likely sexually explicit ones too. So I don't know what to do, other then the "doctor" incident, they are great playmates. Should I continue having them see each other or not allow my son to play with him? What would you guys do?

Answers:
I'm going to go outside of the majority here and say this is not "normal" curiosity. Yes, it's normal to be curious, but the kissing thing would have me worried as well. It sounds too much like imitation rather than curiosity. It smells fishy, and my guess is the child has been or is being sexually abused.

The foster parent may not be aware of a history of abuse, but let's face it--the kid was subjected to sexually explicit films. That in itself WAS ABUSE. The kid needs to have some counseling on "good/bad touch". The foster parent may already have the child in counseling based on his background.

I would allow the children to play together only if they are to be supervised by an adult 100% of the time. The foster parent is concerned enough to call you, so have a good talk with the parent before your child is allowed back at his house. Invite the child over only when you can supervise fully.

Have the "good/bad touch" discussion with your son. Curiosity is OK, but kissing butts and penises isn't.

spank the little pervert

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