How do you break your 4 year old out of crying?
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Well, first of all, she's only FOUR! She's essentially a baby. She's not mature enough to handle her emotions at such a young age. Try changing the way YOU handle the situation, because there isn't much you can do about her reaction at this stage. Stand your ground, don't give in to whining. Completely IGNORE her whining, and remember to compliment her when she is behaving in a way that you approve of. Any time you remark on her BAD reactions, you are actually encouraging more of the same behavior. Place more emphasis on the good behavior, and you will soon see more and more of it. Children that young really just want to please their parents. It's the parents' job to show them how.
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show her somethin that will really make her cry.....
Try distracting her right after you say no, it will train her into when you say no to find something else to do.
Read a Love and Logic Book it will help
Try several diferent things. I know someone who used to have a toddler who cried for no reason. When he did that, my friend would throw water in his face. It didn't hurt him, it just shocked enough to make him stop crying. When I was a toddler I had these two or three hour tantrums, sometimes more than once a day. Finally a woman at my day care just ignored me and I started using words to say what I wanted instead of screaming. Of course, she didn't ignore me if something was really wrong. Both of these might seem cruel at first, but don't worry. They'll be a shock at first, but your child will be fine in the end. These suggestions might not work; it depends on your kid's personality.
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People that I know that have had more experience with kids than me. That is something every kids test. Cry to get their way. Ignore the crying and reward for good behaviour. That's my rule for my 6 year old. I put him in his room (where I know he's safe) and close the door. No TV. After a while he figured "hey i lose more when I cry".
She may be using crying as a tool to manipulate you. On the other had, it may go deeper than that. If she is crying a lot "for no reason" there may be underlying issues that need to be uncovered. My daughter used to cry a lot for no apparent reason. We didn't give her her own way when she cried but she still kept at it. I discovered that she is very sensitive to the emotions of others. When anyone was upset, she would pick up on it and project it through her crying. Now that I understand the cause, I am able to go to the source and either remove her from the situation or comfort her properly. This has made an amazing difference. If this is what is going on with your child, let go of those feelings of guilt about your child's frequent unhappiness. You're not a bad parent. You just have a child with a somewhat unusual gift. Things will get easier as you learn to help her deal with it. Those around her will have to deal with her a little more gently than with an ordinary child because she is extra sensitive to any nuance of negativity. Below are some links you amy find helpful.
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http://www.geocities.com/christabelle67/TheEmpathReport101PtI.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy
http://www.feminist.com/resources/artspeech/insp/positive.html You might consider having her hearing checked. Sometimes children react more when they can't hear or understand. What is her verbal level? Maybe she doesn't know the words to express her anger/frustration. My son would scream and fight. We found out he has some hearing loss and could not hear certain sounds. Between taking care of that and some speech therapy, he calmed down and started being able to use his words instead of crying.
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