should my neice foget about her dead grandmother?
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i think she should remember her g'mother because if they were that close, keep something to remind her of that love she had and is missing... noone can replace that love and teach her that her spirit will be around her to protect... it sounds like a fairy tell but we tell our kids that santa is real too, right? she can afford to have a small tale now so it can help her grow better than to wait and make her believe that g'mother is not around any longer...
turn her into an angel that looks over the 3 yr old and it might have good affects in the long run
and patience helps lots...
help her to believe the g'ma is still here if only in her mind... it cant hurt any worse can it?
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By all means, no...don't try to force her to forget. Her memories will change over time and you can use them to shape her view of her.
All kids have to learn about death. 3 is young but you have an opportunity to help her through a rough time.
You have to talk to your niece about grandma. It'll only get worse if you pretend she never existed. Bring out the photos and recollect your memories of grandma. Maybe a psychologist can help her. I guess if she keep seeing her grandmother pictures is not going to be bad for her. You has to explain her that she is not anymore with you. Tell her that grandma is God in heaven and explain her what is heaven. I hope this help.
No, this child is grieving. Talk about her grandmother, let her ask as many question's as she wants, and yes, sit down with her and make a memory book of her grandma together, and maybe place other pictures of family members in it as well. Always make it a positive experience for her.
No you should not make the child foreget the grandmother. Trust me if you make her foreget about her then when you talk about her around her she will look at you like you are crazy. Let her treasure the memories of her grandmother...Would you want her to just foreget you when you die like you were never there? Trust me...she will be okay. Just let her treasure the memories right now...LEt the poor baby have the picture...it will also help with the lose of her grandmother.If you make her foreget about your grandmother then that just shows you that you have no heart and you rather see her grieve about not remembering then grieving with her and sharing the memories...Source(s):
I don't remember how old I was but when my mom's mother passed away I just wanted to die. She was a major thing in my life and I miss her everyday... She was my best friend. She helped raise me when my mom was never around and she could tell you more about me then my own mother could...So let her treasure the memories because you don't want her to grow up and can't even remember her by the picture
I believe that nothing can be more beneficial right now than the love of family members. She's lucky to have you. Help her through this. Give her pictures and anything else that she may like. Costume jewelry or toys that she played with at Grandmas would be nice. Someday the memories will start to fade as they do for all of us and she will need these things to remember her by stories and love are the best that you can give at a time like this. Also remember that a child's memories don't start to develop until around they are five so you my need to keep the memory alive for a while. Don't get upset if she moves on sooner than you expect.
Also remeber that death is a normal process that we all must go through she'll have to deal with it again somday and this is a very good time to start the learning experience of life. Use it as a teching tool if you will. For example: by talking to her about how things are born. Good Luck
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No one should forget a lost loved one. You should give her pics of her grandmother and even tell her stories about her every now and then. Always keep the memory of her grandmother alive. It's hard growing up and not remembering a grandparent that died when you were really young. I was 3 when my grandmother died and I don't have any memories of her. But it helps ease the pain to see her picture all the time and hear stories about her. It's very comforting. I make sure my son remembers my mother because he loved her so much and I want him to be able to always remember her.
never let her forget.my little girl now 10 was 2 1/2 when her grandpa passed away.She remembers him sticking a dollar in her pocket and giving her permission to"knock her brothers in the nose" if they picked on her.She remembers his "big red vroom vroom"('74 cherry red nova)Those are sweet memories that shouldn't be taken away.
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