I need help on how to discipline my daughter..I believe she has ADHD any help?
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Well first of all if she does have ADHD the only thing you can do at this point is be patient.
I have a 15 year old son with ADHD and I think my 3 1/2 year old daughter has it. Discipline is difficult to determine for ADHD kids and is usually very different between them. What worked for my son does not work for my daughter.
Also check in your community for pre-school programs for her. Putting my daughter in pre-school actually helped out a lot. Doctors usually will not diagnose a child before the age of 5. Putting her in a pre-school will give a doctor records to look at about her behavior.
You could also talk to your local Social Services office. Sometimes they know of special pre-schools for hyper children.
Check these sites out to see if they can help you.
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hi to answer your question
you could try cutting down on her sugar intake thats a cause of hyperactivity.
try taking her to the park or swiming that may help her spend her energy.
you may wish to consider taking her to a specialist who will have a better idea how to help you both.
good luck
bets regards erikasguy2004
ah, bless her, she has not a clue she is like this. She really needs diagnosing pronto. They will help you cope better, as it is a massive strain on you. But please try to be patient, to her this is normal, she doesn't know she is winding you up. Just breathe deep and count to 10.......good luck
Have you tried to put her in School?
My son now 7 is soo very hyper too and just never sits still. He will fall out of his chair while we are eating. Jump up and down while watchimg tv, etc...But at school, he does fine. Sure I get the occasional note telling me that he fell out of his chair or soemthing, but he has never been in trouble. They understand these things at school and teachers are used to it. They know what to do and how to handle it. Ok, let me give you the names of some natural things that alot of parents with ADHD kids use. You can check them out and research them if you want to make sure you would want to use them, But I think its way better than medicine. I had my 9 year old son on medicine because he has Aspergers Syndrome and concentration problems, and the medicince gave him tics, and made him like a zombie, which I couldnt stand seeing. THe names of thes are Memorin(for clear thinking and focusing) and Attend(for adhd and moods) Check them out and see if they will work for her. You never know. You can find them at health food stores
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If you do take her to a doctor and she ultimately is diagnosed with ADHD... keep in mind that a second opinion is always a good idea... children are diagnosed far more often now with ADHD than ever before...ask yourself why that is... good luck!
My cousin was exactly like this. He couldn't sit still for more than two minutes, even in school. His mom refused for the longest time to get him help because she didn't want to admit something was "wrong" with her little boy. He was a compulsive liar (kids with adhd don't know that they are lying though because their minds convince them that THEY are the ones being wronged and that they are telling the truth). Cutting down his sugar didn't help, especially since kids with ADHD tend to be underweight in the first place. The best way to deal with children that have this issue is to practice patience and understand that many times they can't understand that they are doing wrong, and when you try to explain why their behavior is bad their attention is already wandering (Not her fault) My advice get a diagnosis pronto before she starts school. It helps TREMENDOUSLY. Otherwise her lack of attention span will cause her to fall behind academically.
my cousin has adhd and he is very hard to control. my aunt had a lot of trouble handling him before she took him to the doctor and had to put jim on some medicine which helped calm him a lot. i'm not sure what advice to give u on diciplining her but i would take her to the dr to get adhd ruled out. The doctor could probaly give u better advice on how to deal with the child. Maybe even being around other kids with u right there may help her.
Hi - do you have a set place where if she misbehaves? If not maybe think of somewhere where she has to sit for 1 min per year (4mins) and if she gets up she goes back to that place. Has her diet changed recently or for that matter anythign happened to make her feel she needs to seek your attention? This can affect a childs behaviour.
She just needs some help learning to get into control HERSELF. I used to run a nursery, and had great success with `playing games' that put control in, in a fun way. Example: mock up a game whereby she has to hold onto something, and stop it from moving. Not only is this fun, but she gets the idea that she can control something and it's a small win. Next, after having fun with that for a while, have her play a game where she has to sit in a chair, (you play a tape of some music of some sort) when the music starts, she has to `sit still' and when the music stops, she has to move like mad!! Lots of fun, and it gets some control happening, on a fun level, hope this helps!!
Good luck with that!
She may have ADHS or ADD. If she is tested positive tell her.Do not keep it a secret from her. If you tell her about it she will be more self conscious about what she does.
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Hold on! Stop with all the going to the doctor and getting your child drugs to slow down being a child.
I have two daughters (6/5) and both are very active( I am a single DAD). The key to discipline is consistency, not cool with her behavior today and then upset the next.
Though she may have a short attention span, do you have a verbal communication level with your child during the discipline phase. Do you speak with the same LOVE tone as when giving a gift or do you express frustration/anger to what your child is doing? Children have to have an understanding that your love for them is not just in clothes/gifts, but also in discipline/correction. And as a parent you can't go all crazy when they do wrong - remember they are still learning who you are as a person.
I suggest prior to getting the kid all doped up try mentally slowing things down for your sake when discipline is needed.
Put aside the embarrassment or other negative feelings related to the situation and do the following:
1. Speak firmly yet calm and clear when telling your kid they're in the wrong!
2. Ask the child do they understand what they did was not what you the parent approved of. Allow the child to express what they believe they did as best as they remember, but do not allow them to be untruthful concerning their actions.
3. Once they have finished explaining at their level let them know as a parent its your job to raise them and your job to discipline them - Do all of this with love and not fear.
4. I am not one to spank my girls bottom, but I do spank their hands, but first I ask them how many taps they think they should receive. Surprisingly they offer a fair number between 1-3. I also add one more if in the situation they told a fib/lied/untruth about their part.
5. Give many of hugs after the child cry for moment. And again being calm and firm I tell the child you LOVE her and because you love her you are concerned for her behavior in the house and when we're away from each other.
Assure her that nothing she does good/bad will stop you from loving her, but discipline is love.
** Try learning to communicate with your daughter verses allowing chemicals to alter her natural energy - it will take time, but its worth it in the end.
Hope this help!
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the age old help for over active, short spanned attention children, is piano lesson it teaches patience concentration and self disciple...they also develop self confidence
it sound like she has a d h d she may have to be put on medicine
First of all, go to the bookstore and buy about a hundred books on parenting and child development and read them all, memorize them if you have to. Next, go find a good family counselor or therapist and get practical personal advice and ideas from him/her. If you have to quit your job and go on welfare for a few years to handle this problem do it. Your child is by far the absolute highest priority in you life, so act like it.
I really don't think that Drea person has kids, that was a bit harsh, I really hate it when people act like they are better but have no idea what you are going through. People suck!!!!@!
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