Almost 4 STILL not potty trained?
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the delay may be related to several things:
any big changes or other family factors (moving, divorce, new job, new day care. (i'm assuming she's in daycare & not @ home w/you 24/7. if she's home, i suggest finding a playgroup)
in some cases, it's a sense of security or link(like a blankie, pacifier, bottle...)the one thing that still allows her to receive special attention
also common is the fear of forever losing a "part" of herself when you flush (yep, even her pee & poop-one thing she's had since birth that she hasn't outgrown, been weaned from)
try placing her potty next to the big one. always take her with you when you use the restroom & explain your steps (i.e. "i need to (potty). now i have to wipe...etc)
and (this gets old but she'll catch on after about the 57239th time...throughout the day, regardless of what she is doing-playing, watching TV, whatever- KEEP suggesting "let's go to (her name's) potty!" *she may not quite know yet how to stop what she's right in the middle of to get to the potty in time.
in normal non-potty-related activities (like driving/riding, talk, ask questions...can you use your potty?-whats wrong with it?-is it scary?-(maybe another child told her something that scares her now).
last, not least--be patient with her-she's not being devious-and dont worry, she'll train fine.
Other Answers:
Some kids are just scared to use the potty. Just keep encouraging her and it should go smooth.
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I babysit
Maybe get a second opinion just to be safe.. and maybe contact some mommy groups in your area and get some advice from them...My daughter learned because her friends were doing it and she wanted too also.I also gave her special mommy and me time when she went, a story or makeup time,it helped it along....God Luck!
I just potty trained my daughter who is also almost 4. It took a lot. I felt like such a bad mother b/c everyone told me that she had to be potty trained. But I just kept asking her every 3 mins "do you have to potty, lets potty." and made sure she was on the potty every 3 mins and wake her up still 3 times a night. and I know that is something you have probably already done, but I made sure that I did it when I had nothing else to do for about 3 days. She doesn't have an accidents during the day, now the night time is a different story, I just don't let her eat or drink anything bigger than a quarter after 6:30 P.M. It worked. She really will get there. Don't give up. And don't feel like a failure, b/c that is just what prolonged my daughters training. GOOD LUCK, YOU BOTH CAN DO IT!!!
Potty Train Your Child In Less Than a Day
What You Need
• A doll that wets
• A potty chair
• Big boy/girl underwear (instead of diapers)
• Lots of liquids for your child and the doll to drink
**Note that the following instructions using liquids also apply to potty training for bowel movements.
Consider Before You Begin
• Development: The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests waiting until 2 years of age to potty train.
• Modeling: You can demonstrate or have the doll demonstrate the process of "going potty."
• Motivation: Find out who your child's superhero is. The hero will provide the motivation in this process.
Step 1: Teach a Doll That Wets
Your child will learn by teaching the doll how to go potty. Have your child name the doll and give it something to drink. Then walk the doll to the potty chair with your child. Pull the doll's "big kid" underwear down and watch the doll go potty together.
Step 2: Throw the Doll a Potty Party!
When the doll successfully goes potty, throw a potty party! Make it a big blowout with party hats, horns and celebrate. Give lots of attention to the doll so that your child understands that going potty is a good thing.
Let your child know that when he goes potty, he will have a potty party too. Not only that, your child gets to call his favorite superhero to report the good news!
Step 3: Get Rid of the Diapers
At the beginning of the process you placed underwear on your child's doll. Now it's time to take away the diapers and put underwear on your child.
Step 4: Drink Lots of Fluids
Give your child plenty of fluids to drink. The sooner he has to go potty, the sooner you can begin potty training.
Step 5: Ten Trips to Potty When Accident
Ask your child if he needs to go potty. Your child might say no and that's OK. Because you've given your child plenty of fluids, he will soon need to go.
If your child has an accident in his underwear, don't scold him. You want this to be a positive experience. Instead, take your child to the potty, pull his underwear down, and have your child sit down. Do this 10 times. This builds muscle memory and your child will eventually go.
Step 6: Let the Celebration Begin!
When your child successfully goes potty, throw him a potty party. Most importantly, your child can now call his favorite superhero and tell the hero about what he just did! Enlist the help of a friend or relative to play the hero and take the phone call.
When your child has an accident, simply take him/her to the bathroom ten times in a row as you did before. This will continue to build muscle memory. And don't forget to keep up the positive reinforcement.
http://drphil.com/articles/article/264/
DO NOT GO AND WASTE YOUR MONEY ON EXPENSIVE DOLLS! YOU DONT NEED TOO!!
Just get a potty which I assume you already have and put it in your main room.. aka the living room.. then let your kids run around without anything on.. undies will still give them "protection" and they will still pee in them..
Then.. every 10-15 minutes put them on the potty and if they dont go try again in 5 min and if they do.. do it again in 10-15 minutes.. YES I know its a lot of work on your part.. but it works.. so bare with me.. DO NOT ASK IF THEY GOT TO GO.. THEY WONT TELL YOU... TELL THEM ITS POTTY TIME...
If they have accidents.. Do NOT tell them its ok.. Think about it.. that is sending mixed signals.. Its not ok for us so its not ok for them.. explain that to them and if they do pee on the floor.. they get in trouble.. however you do that.. My son gets spankings others get time outs.. but whatever.. do what you do to punish them and then make them sit on the potty for at least 3 minutes.. Do this with every accident unless it was a "real" one where they tried but didnt make it..
After doing everything without undies on for a few days or so.. put some undies on them and keep it up.. every 10-15 or whatever.. by now they should be catchin on..
Then when they are finally going on their own and they have been for a couple of days.. let them watch you move their potty in the bathroom and explain that this is where they will be goin from now on..
This worked for us in less than 3 weeks and my son wasnt even quite 2.5 so the key word to all this is CONSISTENCY and the work in on YOU not THEM...
ALSO... for bedtimes.. stop drinks an hour before bedtime and make them go pee before they go to bed.. we hardly ever have night accidents.. cuz we dont give him drinks after 8... good luck
I think if your daughter went into her closet and pooped on the floor, on purpose, she DOES recognize when she has to go.
Having said that, Sensory Processing Disorder can cause a child to not recognize the feeling. Does she love to spin? Swing? Jump? Does she have a high pain tolerance? Here's a link to a good online checklist: http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/sensory-processing-disorder-checklist.html
My son with sensory issues just finished potty training. He also has low muscle tone so I wasn't sure he would be able to "hold it" in addition to my doubts on if he could feel the need. We let him run around bare-bottomed, set a timer for 30 minutes, and sat him on the potty when it went off. He got a sticker if he pottied, nothing if he didn't, and we tried again in 15 minutes. He became a little dependent on the timer, holding it until it went off (and having accidents if I forgot to set it, or tell him when to go) and ultimately it was the SpiderMan underwear that he received for being dry two days in a row that did the trick! That's not to say that we didn't still have accidents, although we haven't had one during the day in over a month.
Good luck potty training your daughter before school starts! I thought I'd have to start buying Depends, and never have tiny underwear to fold (they're so CUTE!)...but it did happen. :)
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mom of a recently potty trained special-needs child
My sister-in-law made her four year old change his own diapers. After about a week or so of this he decided it would be easier to go in the potty. See if that one works for you. Make sure she is the one to clean things up.
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