How can I be a good mother to my kids when I have a really jacked up temper toward them?
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I am a new mother and sort of have a temper too. But everytime I get upset, I remember another woman who had four kids all ages four and under. When I asked her how did she do it and not be frustrated all the time, she just said that it must be even harder for the kids. They can't even talk to tell us what is wrong. I try to put myself in that situation. What if I was trying to tell you something and you just couldn't understand me?
So maybe your kids are older? The same should apply. Just imagine. Someone who is so much older than you and obviously so much smarter expects you to be on the same level. Obviously, you wouldn't expect a six or seven year old to act as mature as a sixteen or seventeen year old, why do you expect them to understand something their learning minds cannot grasp?
If these questions don't help you, maybe you need to take a breather. From work, from kids, from home. Get somebody to watch them for you for the weekend and get some me-time in. Send the kids packing to Grandma's while you go stay at a local spa or hotel and enjoy being free and relaxed.
Other Answers:
Control your temper.
you must be young. i waited till i was older . please look at them as you would want to be looked at at there age.
i know its hard my 3 year old possibly has ADHD and is possibly bi-polar i know where you are coming from just remember count to 10 and breathe
try to control your temper. I was like that once especially when my kid was 2 yrs old, then i tried to calm down, think before i react to what ever he does then it goes well. And one more thing, PLAY WITH HIM and ignore the mess.
Just take a good look at the pain on their little faces when you behave like this and that should cure you.
The way that you want them to perceive you when they become adults is how you treat them when they are young.
BUT there are times when parents get harrased let them know it is you not them and your just having a bad moment.
Kids are so forgiving and loving.
i have the same problem and i feel so bad after i have shouted at my little boy, i have tried to control my temper so much but nothjing works so now i just walk away form him
I think it is easy to get really cross at your own kids very easy. You love them more than the world, but can get so cranky at them.
Try to think how you would react to them if they weren't your kids and you were just looking after them, you wouldn't smack or yell at someones child as much as you yell at your own. Think about that one. It might help.
Perhaps read a book called " A child called it"
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mum of 3
I went to the DR and was diagnosed with chronic depression. Im on wellbutrin xl and its the best Ive felt in years. Im on an even keel and can handle my 4 year old better.........and as a result my son's mood improved as well
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