What is a good way to disicpline young children without being too mean or too soft?
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I have to agree with the "beat them" response. Not literally, but spanking worked for the first zillion years. If you spank them early you don't need to later.
However, ADHD kids don't respond to punishment. They respond to overwhelming praise when they do something right. Kind of backward, but that is what I've been told by probably the world's leading expert in ADHD.
Other Answers:
Beat them
Be firm and consistant and show them love & respect.
take away things they value, such as toys, tv. Kids learn quickly and will know to behave if they believe you will take away what they care about.
My dad used to send me to my room or put me in the corner. If I was mibehaving at night, outside the front door I would go untill (as he said) I was ready to come in and go to sleep.
depends on jus how young
time out = one minute per year of age
but herodavid is right - take away things they like
be consistent & do not feel bad when they cry after a punishment, don't be a sucka!
tru tru dirty - positive reinforcement will do wonders also & should be used in ALL cases
if they only know what is wrong, they will not know what is right
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Being firm give the children the sense of your authority but at the same time, no insults or physical punishment is needed nor appropriate; once you don,t respect them, they will follow you bevaior and you won't be able to gain that respect back. And, I'm sure you don't want your kids to be affraid of you. Talk to the children, they are very smart and usuallly will understand why things are done in a certain way; also, listen to them many times you will know how to react to a situation if you know how they feel.
How young? I disciple my three year old much differently than my 16 month old. My 16 month old gets removed from the situation when she disobeys. My 3 year old is forced to comply.
For example, today she spilled her cocoa. I had told her if she didn't sit down with it, she would spill it, and if she spilled it, she would have to scrub the carpet. Well, suprise suprise, she spilled it, then refused to get on her knees and scrub the carpet. I took her by the hand, pulled her to the floor in front of me, then held her hands in my own while I scrubbed part of it long enough for her to get the idea. Then I walked away and continued doing what I was doing. Everytime she stopped before it was clean, we repeated the process.
With kids over 2, it's very important to NOT let them control the situation. When a child controls the situation, it's not just getting their way. If you stop everything and give them your undivided attention, you have let them control the situation. Dole out the punishment (it seems that butt smacks are more therapeutic for the parent than disciplinary for the child) then return to what you were doing. If you tell a child to go to their room and get ready for bed, and they refuse, take them by the hand and lead them to their room. If they scream they can walk on their own, don't let them. They have lost the priviledge of walking independently. Then tell them to get dressed for bed; if they refuse, dress them yourself. You might have to hold them down; that's fine. Once it's finished and what you said to do is done, then go back to what you were doing and don't discuss the situation unless they are willing to be calm. Then, don't scold, or speak about it negatively, just tell them matter-of-factly that next time they'll be able to do it on their own if they just listen. I've found this is the worst form of punishment for my daughter : she hates having her independence taken away more than anything. If she has to be dressed forcibly, it's very embarrassing and teaches her in a tangible way that she will lose priviledges.
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when my 4 year old acts "bad" you better belive its butt kicking time i strongly belive in corporate punishment! beat that butt, my father kicked mine! and it always make me think before i did wrong,after enough butt kickings i was good. lol im not saying beat them but a spanking always makes them think.
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