How can I feel less guilty about leaving my toddler?
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get back together with the dad and solve a lot of problems.
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Bribe her with cold hard cash and ice cream.
Get some weekends for you and your child, and let her dad have some week days. It is normal to feel like this, as it is not natural to leave our kids. Does your employer support working parents? Some have added a day care for employees so they can touch base with the kids through the day. You are a GOOD MOM. take care ~A~
PS it is also not uncommon for little girls to bond with their dads. My youngest and oldest girls were daddy's girls all the way. Hard to take till I got more experience. Sons bond with their moms at that age as well. Smile you are doing the best for your child and in time she will let you know you did good.
i think that your feelings are normal because she is so young. I cant imagine going threw that but guess that i would feel the same as you. I think that since you are feeling guilty (which you shouldnt) just try and spend some extra special time with each other. I am sure that it will get easier when she gets older. hang in there! good luck!
ps i thnk you aer a good mom also.. keep up the good work!
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mother of three
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Just make the most out of each day with her, have lots of fun, read to her, take her on an outing at least once a week if you can. See if you can re-negotiate the visitation so you have a weekend once in awhile too, see if you can at least get one weekend a month. It's normal to feel guilty, this is a hard situation for all of you. Good Luck to you and your daughter.
Well, I think that you should try to find time to share with your two year old girl but don't feel guilty girl!! You're way better than females leaving their kids behind or even worse... aborting them. So keep your head up and next time you drop her off think about that.
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Most people don't do much with their kids to begin with. Maybe you feel like you want to do more with her so she'll like YOU more than her father. Since you get nights and every other weekend, I'm sure you do enough, but don't feel like you have to compete for your daughter's love.
You get every other weekend with her right? And the whole week? As long as her dad isn't a jerk who doesn't deserve to spend time with her it sounds like you have the better deal. You get to have dinner with her every night, read her bedtime stories all week and get every other weekend to do weekend activities. Why should you feel bad about giving her dad time to do those things with her?
I sympathize... I get that feeling when I drop my 3 yo boy at preschool just for the day! Just know that it's tough juggling a job, home and family (not to mention your personal life), and if you're giving at least some of your time to your girl, it goes a long way. You can't be hers 24/7, but when you do have time for her, make it count.
Don`t worry about the guilt .You are doing the best thing for your daughter and that is letting her see her father.
Be thankful you have her 5 days a week.When you are with her, the most valuable thing to give her is your time.
Forget lavish gifts and trips they are both either get broken or forgotten.Read her stories ,cook together ,let her sleep with you if she is young enough and have tea time with her .
That`s what she is going to remeber.
Well when she comes back after visiting her daddy then you have that whole time to make up for what you think you have missed doing with her. Make sure to make a list of things to do with her while she is away with her daddy. Then when she comes home you have this long list of things that you thought of while she was away. Good Luck
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Mother of 2yr boy and 4yr girl
That's totally normal. The best thing to do is to find a special thing you can do with her every Thursday...like go feed the ducks at the pond, or put on a puppet show with her, or take her to the aquarium or special park. Something really special that you can think of during the time she's gone. I know it's hard but think of it this way...most mom's feel guilty about the time they don't spend with their kids after their kids have already grown up. You have a chance to be reminded every weekend how special every moment with her is. In the long run it might just make you and even better mommy.
Good luck!
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Don't feel bad. Try to remember that she needs time with her dad too. As valuable as your time together is, so is her time with her dad. It's perfectly normal to go through a wide range of emotions when it comes to your kids. It sounds like you have a strong emotional connection with your daughter and that is great! Just before you take her to her dads, give her lots of hugs and kisses (and maybe some tickles) have a good giggle together and let her go. I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it doesn't. Just lover her as much as you can and she'll feel it!
Well, I don't think theres much you can do. She'll always be your little girl and you'll always worry when it comes to her. You can always make things up. This could be just a shot in the dark, but do you think some of that "guilt" you're feeling stems from you maybe feeling like shes gonna have a better time with her dad than you? Or that shes going to forget about you somehow when she's away?
If so, I wouldn't worry. If you do everything you can for and with her when you get the opportunity, you really dont have much to feel guilty about. Besides mom and dads each have their own special talents and things kids like to do with them. While its not always at the forefront of their attentive little minds, it almost always kicks in with the time is right... and they just know noone gives piggy back rides like dad and noone throws tea parties like mom. Its just the way kids are. There will always be things between you and her than can't be topped. Hoped this helped, Good Luck.
Of course you feel guilty! I do everyday when I drop my 2 little ones at Early headstart! It means you love her with all your heart and soul! Your doing a great job mama! And I'm sure your little one feels the same way about you!
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