need some ways other than spanking to control the terrible three's.?
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Sounds like attention-getting activities to me. I would try to use time-out. Have a certain spot or chair specifically for time-out that the child goes to when they disobey. Make sure it is away from other distractions (ie, don't just send them to their room). I wouldn't leave a 3 year old in time-out longer than 5 minutes.
After the time is up, go over to them and calmly ask them do they understand why they were sent to time out, then ask for an apology.
After a few times of this, they'll get the message and begin to be more respectful.
Good luck!
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Time out. It works for me. Make a naughty boy/girl mat, and make him/her sit on it when he is bad. If he/she gets up then pick him/her up and put him/her back. It takes patience but it will pay out in the end. Don't let him/her get up 'til he/she tells you what they did wrong and what's going to happen to them if they do it again.
sit him/her in the corner for a few minutes and up the time every time it happens and make sure he understands what he is in the corner for do it until he stops.
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Put locks on the cabinets and fridge.And 4 punshment take stuff away from them.(snacks,toys,etc).
This may seem a little cruel but Iv'e always know food to be a great motivator. Don't make the food taste so good, stop giving treats as often, cut down on the t.v. time and tell him straightforward."No! You've been a bad baby! No cookies, no cake, no yum yumms, here have a nice carrot or a nice warm bowl of collard greens" That'll straighten his little butt out!
Violence is never needed. That becomes a conditioned response for the child and they exhibit violence. Time outs are the most effective. If the child will not cooperate, take away something ( favorite toy, ect...) and continue to do so until they understand. ( of course tell them what is going on before you do it so they will not feel betrayed and not trust you.) I guarantee this works. However for this to work, it can not be a one time thing. You must make it a patterned reaction of disipline so that there is an effect.
A lot of patients & a lot of love. Try time outs give the child one min. per yr of age (3 min. for a 3yr. old) this seems to work, for us. On hitting I usally sit him down & ask him if he would like it if some one hit him there ,the answer is no most of the time. Then I tell him not to do anything to anyone that he would not want done to him.If he helps himself to say a yogert in the fridge we take it away , he won't get one for at least 1 hour. GOOD LUCK JLW
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I think you want to do some preventative work regarding childproofing those cabinets and your refrigerator. You might also let him have a "special space" and let him climb in that cabinet and play with what might be in there -- pots and pans, tupperware.
I don't think you want to term any child "bad." They are not bad. I think that you might try checking out www.parentleaders.org. I took a class with them and also bought their very cheap pamphlets on line regarding the temper tantrum/meltdowns, playful parenting and etc. I still reread them when I begin feeling a little lost and keep them right by my bed. Regarding your child's response to your correction, I think you might try holding onto him and reassuring him through his anger and letting him know that you are with him but that you will not let him hit you or anyone else. Hold onto your child and try to make reassuring sounds "You sure are angry. I can really tell your angry. It's OK to be angry but I can't let you hurt yourself or me. It's OK. I am going to love you anyway" When your child starts crying, then you hold them through that and try to guess what might be going on with them. When you get it right, they are going to think that you are the greatest mom in the whole world. Try to remember that a three year old cannot put his feelings into words and that in itself can be very frustrating. The mantra I often use when I see trouble brewing is "Use your words." Good luck
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You have a very active three year old, they are in my family too. I was babysitting and the four yr. old came and told me her 16 month old brother was standing on the kitchen table and sure enough he was. I didn't know he had reached the phase where he knew enough to push the chair to the table and climb on it. Now I turn the kitchen chair upside down, two together and put them between the table and diswasher and he doesn't go near them. I learned to do that with the chairs on the same day, after he started and then shut off the dishwasher and opened it. The chairs prevent him from getting on the table and having access to the dishwasher. All four of the children is this family were climbers. Spanking doesn't work with most kids and it just teaches them to hit back. Tell him/her if they want something to eat to ask and keep saying that everytime you find them near the cabinets. Put them on the floor and ask them what they want. Don't let them stand on the counter and decide. I have found that making them eat their regular meals until they are pretty full, cuts down on the amounts of snacks they want. I also offer them snacks between meals. Let them know that you don't want them to climb up to the cabinets because they could fall and get hurt. When they hit, you tell them no hitting and tell them they will have to go to their bed, you can also do this with a time out chair but, don't hit them back. Wait a few minutes and tell them they can come out if they will stop hitting. Don't send them to a roon where they will be playing or watching tv. When they talk back tell them you don't like it when they talk to you like that and they will have to go to their bed or time out chair until they stop talking like that. You can call it being mean to you or being fresh. Just as long as you use the same words so they understand what you are saying. Wait a few minutes and tell them they can come out if they will stop talking to you like that. Since a three year old has a short attention span a few minutes in bed or in the time out chair is enough time. I make constant trips through the rooms to see where they are and what they are doing. I also close all the doors to the rooms they should not be in and the rooms they could get hurt in, like the other bedrooms and the bathroom. You have three problems to address so you might want to start with the climbing and the hitting first and then add the talking back problem later. Trying to tackle all three at once might be stressful for you. Try to stay calm and matter of fact while you are trying to change the child's behavior, it is a pattern of behavior they are used to. If you don't stay in control you might get frustrated and give up. You can change the hitting and talking back behavior if you are calm, in control and determined. Just to let you know, the climbing might not end until they are older that is why you have to constantly check on where they are. Good luck.
When your child does something good, praise him/her alot...let them know that good behavior gets positive attention from you. He/she may be acting out to get more attention from you.
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