i have two loving daughters ages 1 and 4 but i always find myself yelling at the older one for nonsense?

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If you yell at your children you probably need counseling, or have your kids put in foster care.

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either you love the younger more, or your just a *****.

older kids will be like that always

Me too. Two kids is harder to handle. My baby screams and gets me all frustrated and I tend to take it out on the older one, but I am working on that.

Your children are at a wide enough gap that your older child remembers when she was the sole jewel of your eye and got all of your attention. Now that your attention has been drawn away and is shared with her sibiling, she may be a bit jealous. Her nonsense and mis-behavior may be a mild cry for attention. (Afterall, you do provide additional attention to her when she misbehaves.)

Make sure that you try and balance your time between the two children. Do things exclusively with your older daughter sometimes, take her places that are just for her, and demonstrate that she doesn't need to act up to get your attention.

Also, though another reponsder was brief, they are right. Older kids (especially at 4) are in the testing mode. They will try and see what they can and can't get away with. That's just the way they are. You're role here is to make sure they understand clearly what is and is not acceptable behavior.

Don't worry though... it will get better as they grow.

I am an older sibling myself and since I have no kids of my own I don't understand the whole mother thing. I'm the same way with my mom. But maybe your daughter, all things considered, is just a litte jealous. She might just be doing stuff because she wants attention. Like I said I'm not a mom so I'm just voicing my opinion from the point o the "older child". I can't give you any solutions but maybe I have given you ideas.

maybe your affection towards younger,makes you more possessive about her......because younger is always more close to heart.......as an advise....love both the girls equally which will help them in future to stay together happily & won't let any difference to grow between them.

I could say what I had in mind to say, but to tell you the truth 'not 2 sarcastic' hit it right on the head. Everything she said I agree 100% with.

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i have two loving daughters ages 1 and 4 but i always find myself yelling at the older one for nonsense?

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