14 Month Old...Out of Control...PLEASE HELP?
Answers: she does not like you to spank her. swat her, whatever. and when kids are that age, it make no sense at all to say "don't hit!" and later swat them! if she throws a fit, ignore her. completely. just totter out of the room if you have to. if you can handle it, stay contained by the same room, and ignore her. pretend you can't hear her and can't see her. if she slaps you again, grasp her arm before she hits you and say "that's not nice, we don't hit!" don't hit her final! 14 months is a little young for time out, but if you can't forget about her, and you are at home, stick her in a corner. and every time she gets up (it will be similar to 20 the first few times you do it) put her back down and say "time out" eventually she will numeral out if she is being mean or throwing a fit she will enjoy to sit in time out. and that's no fun. make sure she is intake good food on a schedule, and taking a siesta and going to bed around the same time every night. that help. when my son was about that age he would throw a fit and blow his head on the floor. i was fearful! i thought maybe he was nuts! really, i took him to the doctor and asked if he would want therapy or something. he would bang his lead so hard he would bruise his forehead. the doctor i went to be Dr. Cory Hebert. my absolute favorite doctor my son has ever see. unfortunately, Dr. Hebert switched to a different clinic, and we moved out of the area, so my children can't stir to him anymore. i saw Dr. Hebert on an episode of Oprah one day. that was cool, but he is great. the best. he told me to shame him. after about 2 weeks it stopped. it's hard to do, but it works. and if your kid throws a fit surrounded by public, just leave. if your'e at wal mart and she starts, go away the basket even if it's full, and go home. you can progress back later. don't bribe her, don't hit her, shame her or put her in time out if ignoring her doesn't work. dutiful luck.
my son is 15 months and doing the same thing, i started the adjectives counting to 3 in a mean voice and if he does not stop by after he gets a spankin (puka) we call it though and he have calmed down a bit but about every other day he does enjoy a bad day. honourable luck. Start "Time Out" punishment.
You can either do a warn and later time out or count to 3 and then time out.
Stop smacking back. You can't smack her and expect her not to smack. Why is it okay for you to hit but not her? Try self calm, somebody needs to be the still one here. My son is 1 and he's starting to swing his hands and smack for fun, then smiles. I return with a sad face, confer sad and say, "no, be nice, that hurts" My daycare provider take his hand when he hits and says "we touch other, we don't hit" then uses his and has him touch the human being nicely that he just hit.
EDIT: BULLSH*T ----You didn't read out you were spanking her. I believe your exact words were "I transmit her no and swat her leg" how do consider smacking her leg spanking her? You said YOU SLAPPED HER LEG---THAT IS NOT SPANKING---THAT IS SLAPPING BACK---get your story straight. I don't have a problem with spanking. But slapping vertebrae is childish and STUPID.
Maybe she wants your attention. Kids will often do that to gain attentions, especially if you are on the phone often, I am a working mommy too so I understand the entail to work. I would suggest when u are not busy with work, to give her as much attention as possible. My son is 16 months, his tantrums are really not that impossible. If I say no and move him from where he is, he normally will throw himself to the floor, I tell him, "I said no ok, and ok thats fine, u can cry there by urself" so I tramp away. After a few seconds, he gets up and forgets just about it... or if he gets really stubborn and insists on doing what he wants, I capture firm and carry him to his playpen, which he pretty much hates in a minute... and I will let him stay there for more or less 10 mins and tell him I said no OK? After I let him out and if he does it again, I voice no again (always on a firm voice) then I put him in his playpen again. Ultimately trying to net him undertsand that everytime he won't listern to mommy he will be put in his playpen. Sometimes it takes me 2 times until he understand or gets tired of being surrounded by there and listens. I have a sneaking suspicion that the key is patience, I loose it sometimes too, but for the most section I try to be as patient as possible & give him as much attention as I can while I am home. WHAT? NO SPANKING? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
Some of you parents here are going to own the worst, most wild kids who will walk adjectives over your *** for the next 18 years.
The thing is she requirements to learn that YOU are the boss, not her. The world does not revolve around her. Spanking is okay and she will learn that when she does not listen to you, she will capture punished. Not working? Then lock her up in an area to coach her about time out.
We have a moment or two area in the house where on earth I put my daughter when she acts bad. I close her within with the baby take. She cries but then she will learn that when she does not listen to me, she get a punishment. Cause and effect
You want her to stop hitting you? STOP HITTING HER!! Why do people think that swatting or spanking will support this problem, when what you are teaching them is that hitting's ok? Yelling isn't ok, either!! You inevitability to grab her hands and hold them so she can't hit, and afterwards get down on her level, facade to face, and say within a quiet voice that means business that you will not tolerate her hit you because it is wrong to hit. Then (not right away because they'll think you're reinforcing the bad behavior) you want to be more affectionate, and talk to them calmly when they're not doing anything wrong in the region of how it's not right to hit. My son is autistic, and this works for him. He feels guilty if he thinks he's hurt me or his dad.
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