Ho I do get my 5-yr. old daughter to stop being greedy and selfish?
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You might want to try being firm, calm and consistent with your daughter. The next time she has a hissy fit, stop, face her, look at her, and tell her that this behavior is not acceptable and why. She will probably keep whining, but resist the urge to argue back. You need to be calm, and your body and look need to mean business. That's the only difference that I can see between how the children are in my class and how they are with their parents. The parents with the whinier children seem to ignore the children a bit when they start acting up a little, and then when the behavior gets out of hand they almost plead with them, argue with them, etc. They are almost whining at their children! You are mom, you are boss. You don't have to be mean. Just be clear about the rules, and speak slowly and without extreme emotion when you are addressing a problem. And catch it quick! It takes them a while to get "worked up." If I waited before correcting behavior in my classroom, it would be a zoo!
This will take a while. I've done this with my own kids since they were tots. The five year olds in my class have never met me before they came to school, so I am "fresh" to them and they learn right from the start that I adore them, but there is behavior that is unacceptable when they come into class. Give it time. She has believed this behavior to be acceptable to you for some time now, so it will be hard to change it. Just come up with a standard answer as to why this behavior is unacceptable (something more positive than "it's bratty" or "only mean girls say that", that will *never* be productive), and then be prepared to follow through everytime. Including when you are on the phone, washing dishes, driving.... doesn't matter. She has to see that this is important, and that requires your undivided attention.
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whoop her ***! ur the mom take some control over the daughter u raised! come on, how did u raise her in the first place? dont spoil her. let her know who has the upper hand!
show her that there are other kids who have even less. Give her lots of attention and praise whenever you see sharing and being friendly.
first say (which you probably already have) "you got the same amount as everyone else" and if she keeps complaining then say, "if you aren't going to be thankful for what you have then you won't get anything", and take it away from her. after a while she should understand that if she complains she won't get it and she should stop. and don't feel sorry for her!
Just let her know that sometimes life isn't fair and you dont mean to hurt her feelings but this is the way it is and then don't fall to her pressure and cave. If she gets her way sometimes, she will try harder to get her way.Try giving her a pet, like a turle or a goldfish. And reward her only if she takes care of it Get out the video camera, if you've got one and start filming her everytime she starts with the me, me, me talk. Then make her watch herself on TV. I'd keep getting out the camera every single time she starts up again. She'll find it annoying enough to stop.
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Mom of 5
Show her what she has and let her know and show her that not everyone has it. I don't want to quote my mother's "Life isn't fair" bit, but with my own three it has come into play several times.
spank her when she is out right rebellious, next time she says its not fair tell her life is not fair, she was born in one of the richest country in the earth and into one of the nicest families and thats not fair to all teh children that weren't. tell her no when she want stuff and dont back dowm , you googta be stronger smarter and bossier than her. otherwise she going to be a diaster when shes 13. your stonger bigger and smarter than ehr and once in awhile becaseu you care aobut ehr you need to let her knwo your the boss becaucse you care abut her.Hey whos the mother here sounds like she needs a good talking to and some things taken away. So she can appreciate what she has. Since she's acting self-centered, I'd suggest some activities that take the focus off of her for a while. For example, make a card for grandma or suggest making a present for all her friends. This introduces her to the sense of self satisfaction that comes with giving and allows her the opportunity to start thinking of other people and how she affects their feelings.
dicipline her... whoop!
My daughter is 4 almost 5 and she does the same thing sometimes. This is what I am going to start trying with her. We go threw her toys and anyone that she doesnt play with anymore we will give to goodwill, she has to go with me. Give her an allowance. She must donate 5% to a charity, also if she disobeys the rules of the house she get an amount taken away. We will also have a chores, if she does not do them she will have some taken away. Now I know this might sound like it is too much for a child this age, I dont want my child growing up o be a selfish person. I beleive this will work. I hope this helped.Just to add, I do believe this is normal for this age.
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