Why is my 1year old so clingy and cries every time I leave the room ...HELP PLEASE!!!!?
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He is a mommy's boy and doesn't want to be without you. It is mean sounding but let him cry and tell him he is okay every couple of minutes so he knows you are still there. It might take a couple days but it might stop. Don't give up on it.
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Based on my expertise in children gained from watching Nanny 911, I'd say you need to let him cry until he learns not to. That's what the Nanny 911 woman always does when kids do stuff like that.
how old r u?? u sound a lil 2 yung 2 hav a kid(no ofesnse) but my lil sister stopped doing that after a while, jus dnt worry bout it it will blow over, but it takes 27 time 4 something 2 become aa habit, so dnt go n take her everywere git like a babysitter or leave her there
In my opinion it is a manipulation tool. You underestimate the young. They get that when they cry they get attention. Praise him when he is a big boy (gets his own sippee cup) and ignore him when you know his cries are for no reason. Maybe even redirct him to an activity while you run to the restroom. I'd say practice. It won't be easy but you don't want to be that mom who gets called on the first day of First grade because her child ha seperation anxiety.
I SO relate! I have a 16 month old who is still going through it. I take it you are a stay at home parent? First off, take it in little steps. Leave baby behind the baby gate while you go somewhere else in the house but in view. After 30 seconds or so, go to baby and praise him/her. Interact and play together. Keep increasing the time until you can have baby behind gate but in view for 5 minutes and then go out of view for a tiny bit. Eventually, you should be able to leave baby with Dad or babysitter. But, my biggest piece of advice is to NOT prolong good-bye's. When you are leaving, give baby a kiss, say good-bye and leave. Baby won't waste away with Daddy while you are grocery shopping. when you come back, be non-chalant about seeing baby again. Hug and kiss, but then go on about your business. Hope it helps! It worked well with my oler son...
ours' does that too-it's a stage- in his little mind you are still a part of him. he can't diifrintiate between him and you-sound nuts, but true. You will just have to get a little less done-or how 'bout have your husband help out- what a novel idea.
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yer husband is partly right. if u hold him all the time now he will be less indepent later in life. u should just let him cry till he gets tired if it. then he will learn to play by him self. even though it is annoing try some earplugs. but u should just let him cry.
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Based upon my own experience with my children, I agree with your husband. I would continue to do what ever it is that needed to be done while he cries. Eventually he will learn that you are not going anywhere and that he can play by himself.
Your husband is right. It sounds like right now your giving in to the crying so that you can get things done in somewhat peace, but your also instilling in your son that crying lets him get his way. Although it was important to listen to every cry when he was a baby, its time to start setting boundries now that he's over a year old.
I'd try this, before you set him down so you can do your chores let him know what your doing.
"Honey I'm going to let you play here so that I can clean the dishes. Here are your toys, when I'm done I'll come play with you"
And then do it, set him down and go do the dishes. Don't bring attention to his crying because you dont want to give him positive reinforcement for crying. He'll eventually figure it out that he wont get what he wants that way and find something else to do, like play with his toys. Then when you finish that one thing go and sit with him for like 5 - 10 minutes and hug and love him play with him etc. Then go onto the next chore after telling him what your going to do.
At first he'll cry the whole way through, so be prepared for that, but it will get better and he'll grow from the experinece. He'll learn that your not abandoning him, that you always come back, and that he's okay without you right next to him. Also your instilling listening skill as well as verbal skills.
Yes, let him cry. If he keeps crying for several minutes, give him a few seconds of attention then walk away again. He will learn that you are still close by and care about him. When he understands that, he won't feel the need to cry, and will eventually start to play without your full attention.
What the others have said is true. You need to let him cry.
Look at this a different way -- he's not consciously manipulating you, but you're teaching him the lesson "if I cry long enough, mommy will hold me again."
You need to tell him in a calm voice that you love him and will play with him again soon, but now you need to do something else and can't hold him.
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Experience -- two children, ages 5 and 2
My baby did the same thing! It is very difficult to just let them cry. Consistancy is the key-let him know you will be back. Kneel down to his level so he can see you and say "mommy loves you and I need to do some things in the other room, here is a stuffed animal to keep you company". Extend the time out a little longer each time and when you come back tell him every time, "See I told you I'd be right back!" I know he is young but this helped with my baby. Turning around and leaving without saying anything and letting them cry could cause anxiety and make it worse! Good Luck-You will find what works for you!
He's not spoiled. He just loves his mommy! Separation anxiety can last longer for some children. I used to have to put my first in her high chair with wheels and wheel her around the house with me to get my house work done. Having someone else taking care of them helps. That way they get a little clingy to someone else and giving you and your hubby some time.
Okay, take a deep breathe.....your child is going through mommy withdrawal anxiety....don't worry though ALL children go through this to a point. When you leave you have to explain mommy is going to leave but I will be back. Never try to sneak out on a child, always be open and honest. I'm leaving for work now, I'll be back soon, Love Ya, Bye. And then leave. Do not linger or the child will draw it out. Tell your husband this is normal, it doesn't mean a child is spoiled, and seriously, I don't believe you can spoil young children, you can only nuture and love them.
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