why is it when u tell a child NOT to do something they do that very exact thing?
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They are testing their little boundaries. They want to see how far their little selves can push your big self, BOSS! LOL. You knew the job was dangerous when you hired them. It's in their job description. You hired their cute little selves to do exactly what you advertised for! :) Do what I said NOT to do. They take this stuff pretty seriously, as they know their little futures depend on it. That way, they learn just how far they can push people. And they look for buttons. Little ones are always amused by things with buttons. We, as parents, fall into that category. We are life support for buttons. If you're smarter than the average bear, you won't let them ever see your buttons. lol
Seriously though, they are learning to push their limits, to see what they can get away with. That is their job. lol. Someday, if they keep it up with proper guidance, they will be signing Bill Gates paycheck! lol
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Kids are happy with just grabbing our attention, any form even screaming at them. So when you say No and they do it anyways and you get mad they still get your attention Bingo!
So if they do it anyways, give them the worst punishment( according to them)time outs for smaller kids and go to your room technique for bigger kids Yes, it is more fun to do what you are told NOT to do. Some kids grow up to be adults that do this exact thing. Also, it is difficult for a child to just "take your word for it". Sometimes, they have to learn by experience (Even if it is the hard way).
You might want to try telling them WHAT to do, rather than what NOT to do.... kids (even some adults) are excited about what they dont know.. Chances are if you said no.. There is a reason... So they want to find that out... A lot of times kids don't understand the word "no" they now what it means.. but they don't know why.. You need to give reasons... Rather then saying no.. Perhaps try taking a different approach.. " We can't do that right now because..."
Let your kids touch and explore with you when you have the time... Therefore, the curiosity isint so high and they get over the thrill when they realize it wasn't quite so exciting. It is frustrating and it's okay to be concerned.
It's possible if you are always saying no to your child, then he tunes you out because he thinks you are stopping him from doing something that he thinks is fun. Try redirecting his behavior to something that you approve of and that is safe for him to do instead of always telling him not to do something. Show him what he can do.
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