seperation anxietry?


my baby is 17 mos. old...he has been going to daycare 2-3 times a week since he was 8 wks old....and he seems to be fine with it...now he screams and cries when i drop him off! can i assume this is a phase??? he clings to me

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It's just a phase. My son has been in daycare since he was 3months old. My pediatrician said that a lot of little ones around 18 months old go through this. My son was in a home daycare and he still went through it. It only lasted a couple of months. Just make sure you give him lots of hugs and kisses when you leave in the morning and reassure him that you will be back soon to pick him up. If you can, try letting him take a favorite toy or blanket. Maybe something that you've sprayed w/your perfume or something else that he associates w/you. Don't worry though, it is just a phase and he will get over it. It won't scar him emotionally either, as an earlier answer suggested. I know what you going through, sometimes I think it's harder for us that it is for them. It will pass and you'll both be fine. Good luck!

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It's a phase.

Both of you will get over it.

It could be a phase, but just to be on the safe side, I would drop in on the daycare unexpectedly, and see what is going on. Mabye things aren't going so well for your child. At that age they can't tell you what is going on. I don't want to scare you, but just check. I would.
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Mom of 4 beautiful children Check to see if their is something going on at the daycare he goes to!!! Because that's kinda strange that he has been going since 8 weeks and now starting to scream for you not to leave.


It is not going to affect his adolescence, good grief. It is probably just a phase and hopefully it will be a short one. My advice is to make your goodbyes short. The longer you hang around and let him cling, the longer he will cry. Also, he probably stops crying the minute you leave. He's trying to make you feel guilty and get his way. Of course he wants to spend time with you before a day care worker, you're Mommy! Keep taking him and soon it will pass. Call the school and check in later to reassure yourself, but chances are he's fine. With that in mind though, just keep your eye out for anything unusual at the daycare, or any new teachers, just to be on the safe side. Good luck.
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Me, a mom and former preschool teacher.

It sounds like a phase. I have a 1 year old that has been in daycare since 3 months and a 2 year old that hase been in daycare since 18 months. They usually love going and don't make a fuss, but every once in a while, they try to throw a fit when I am leaving, but according to the caregivers, as soon as I am gone, they are off playing and having fun. It seems that they just do it to test you every once in a while.

phase I have a two year old and the same thing is happening to me! Before i even pull up to the daycare she starts screaming, at first i thought maybe the daycare was the cause but i did some research and it is perfectly normal.(I hope it doesnt last long!)


check to see if there's something going on at the daycare or maybe he's finally realizing your gone now that's he's older.

Yep... probably just a phase. He's figured out that he's not actually physically attatched to you, and it probably scared him a little. It will pass... my son went through it between 9 months and 15 months. I had to learn to NOT sneak out the door to go grocery shopping- it only made it worse. If you act calm, so will he.... after a while.

But, if you suspect any kind of abuse at daycare, drop by for an unexpected visit on your lunch break, or take a day off, etc. It's better to know. Yup...it's just a phase and he's right on track to start having it. It will pass with time.

Good luck!
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