Is punishing a child wrong? Should physical punishment be used and when is going too far?
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corporal punishment can be good as long as you make it clear to the child why is he/she being punished. punishment should also happen at the right time, do it as soon as he/she has done something wrong and not punish the child the next day because of something that the child done the previous day. the most important thing is what i've said first, always explain to the child why are you punishing him/her or else punishment without any cause may lead to something else.
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As a last resort spanking can be necessary. It goes too far when parents rely on it because it's easier than trying to talk to your kid and explain right from wrong.
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Usually telling them not to do that again is sufficient. Babies are not very good at talking, but may know what your saying. (I find baby sign language kinda fastening), it's proof that a baby can communicate without having to talk, well at least if their taught how.
Then the next step, is a smack on the hand (not a hard one).
I don't think children should be spanked, it sends the wrong massage. It sends the massage that someones allowed to punish you when you do something they don't like. (and may cause them to allow ppl to be abusive with them.
I think reasoning with a child's the best answer, tell them why they should or should not do this or that.
Well at age one or two, the children do not have much understanding of what they are doing. I dont use hitting at that age unless it is a saftey thing. Like the child is playing under the kitchen sink with chemicals or sticking things in outlets, playing with the hot water in the bathtub. In those cases I smack to get the point across real fast because I would rather they have a small amount of pain by me instead of possible death if they drink bleach.
If the child is just being 2 and playing in the plants, ripping papers and stuff like that, I say no and then distract them to do something better. Like color a picture, play with this toy instead. Works well and saves yelling for when it is actually needed.
good luck, kids can be a big handfull.
no it does not it is wrong to physically punish a child because it has no meaning. what you can do to stop a child behaving badly is to do something fun with him or her like... playing football, going to the park,having ice cream or go to a fun fair. thats what i think. if this is not a good answer, well sorry to have wasted your time
Earl, 12
I like to use the word "discipline", which comes from the word disciple- a student, or follower- one who learns. So, when you discipline your kids, you are teaching them...
My church teaches that punishment, discipline, or correction is important- for everyone, grown-ups too. It needs to happen as soon as possible following the inappropriate behavior, and if you show an increase of love afterward, there is less chance of hard feelings. The recipiant of the correction knows that you didn't like the act, but you still love him.
I figure that there are a lot of methods that parents can use to discipline/teach their children. Corporal punishment is only one of them.
I watch/care for the small children (18 months-3 years) in my church while their parents are in their classes, and I've found that a (VERY) small amount of harshness is pretty effective. I cringe at the idea of hitting/using corporal punishment on someone else's kids.
When one of the children gets a little out of hand, I verbally remind them that particular behavior is not ok. I usually go over to where they are playing, take their hands in mine to get their attention.
If/when it happens again in the same day (I only see them on Sunday), I take them on my lap and make them look at me(again, to get their attention). I tell them again that the hitting, banging, throwing, whatever, is not ok- "We don't throw balls, we roll them... Do you promise to be nice/gentle with _________?" Nobody's ever said no...
I tell them I'm glad they're going to play nice, give them a quick hug, kiss on the head, then I set them down and they're usually ok for the rest of the time- 2 hours.
If there's still a problem, I have them sit on my lap for a little bit- usually less than 2 minutes.
Just remember that you're doing what you're doing because you LOVE your kids, and let them know it.
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I'm confused about the same thing. My 22 month old dauther hits me in the face, and I think:"Well, I can't SPANK her and then tell her that hitting is WRONG because it might confuse her." SMACKING a child (like in the face) is EXTREMELY wrong. Try swatting her butt (or thigh, where the diaper doesn't cover her!) or smacking her hand...And telling her "No".
Watch "Super Nanny"...She's got really good techniques that seem to work on punishing children (using time-outs and what-nots...)
YOu can spank if it is something that is necessary. IF the child has done something really bad or dangerous. Now if it ia something small, you can talk to the child or put them in time out, although this does not work for all children. Every child is different. There is a difference between spanking and abuse. Spanking is a swat on the butt to let the child know what they have done is really wrong. Abuse is kicking, hitting, pushing, slapping across the face hard, leaving bruises, welps and scratches. If my child does something wrong and I swat him on the butt once, he does not do it ever again. He learns quickly that way. However, if I try to talk to him or put him in time out...(its ridiculous, it doesnt work for him) However with my other 2 boys, they will sit in time out and I will take things away from them such as tv time, or their gameboys. THat works great on them. I learned a swat doesnt work on my middle child. He could care less. SO every child is different and they all need different ways of discipline...But not abuse of course as some would call it.
i am a mother of 4 children and i have never used spanking to disapline my children i use the time out method and it works for my children depending on what they do i some time take away some they like toy tv something like that but i believe spanking is never a good thing
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physical punishing for kids is like u beating up a homeless person with no arms they are defensless they kick and scream but other than that physicall punishment is not nessacerry if u have a girl and she gets preg in her early teens the physical punishment should be kick em out but other than that no physicall punish ment is nessacerry
Kristen
My child is 3 years old and very smart. If I have to tell her no 3 or 4 times I will spank her ***. She knows when I say no it means no. Or if she hits another kid or something like that. I just don't immediately spank her every time she does something wrong. Some people might not agree with it but I got spankings when I was a kid and never felt like I was being beat and knew I deserved them because I had done something I knew I wasn't suppose to. But I would never smack a kid anywhere but on the butt.
I never spanked my two girls until I thought they knew what choices they had and opted to do the wrong thing knowing it was wrong. Spanking a child that does not understand that they have done something wrong is abuse.
So, saying that, I make sure they know why the are being punished. I use discipline and punishment together at times.
When is a spanking going to far? When the spanking could have harmed the child.
1. keep all rules simple, the main rule in our house is this (keep Dad happy) of course this rule easily encompasses Mom because if Mom's not happy I'm not happy.
2. Spanking is fine BUT it should be done CALMLY with intent
3. Also this, when they're little (1 to 4) a quick swat is the BEST way to handle some issues, like playing with a plug in, or running out in traffic, thes are issues that could save they're lofe so done moddlecoddle them on stuff like that
Good Luck and GOd Bless
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