Is there any way to get your child to grow out of seperation anxiety?


My 21 month old daughter is petrified of strangers. She's been like this since she was 3 months old. If she sees a stranger and they say hi to her or try to play with her she freaks out and its kinda embarrassing. so does anyone know a way to get her out of this i'm so shy stage??

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My son was exactly the same way and I empathize with you on the embarrassment part. Time and patience is your key. Every child is different and some take longer. He stayed that way through about the first month of first grade. Someone has said not to make it an issue and that is really good advice. Don't make your child ashamed of what is going on or you'll have a much bigger and deeper seated problem. Don't let anyone else make him feel bad either. Does your area have any play groups where he can be around other babies his age (or hers). They usually won't mix with a group but this allows the child to mix one child at a time! If you spend good quality time with him and he feels safe that will help too.

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well im 15 and i say that not bringing it up so much and trying to do fun things may help.. somtimes i forget really important stuff when im having fun ///.... let me refrase for that well u can try meeting new ppl one by one and show her that metting new ppl isnt half bad and teach her right and bad
Make sure you show them you are there for them - but don't fuss over them when this happens, it just reinfornces the behaviour and will encourage it to happen.
Source(s):
Pavlov's theory of behaviour
I think you should just enjoy it..kids grow up so fast..my daughter was like this to but she will grow out of it when she's ready till then enjoy her wanting to be near you cause she's gonna grow up eventually and you'll miss this time.
Before you leave her with someone first allow her to get used to the person first then when you do decide to leave her she won't cry as much. As far as for strangers that will be something she'll have to grow out of that.
Its a good thing that your child has a lslight fear of strangers. this will keep you from having my problem. My 9 yr old was super friendly when she was littel. Sayign hi to every stranger and as long as she knew their name, they were no longer strangers. I had to have her in sight ALL the time. Even the scary stranger stories didnt stop her till she ws almost five. Give her time. Start talking to more ppl you dont know at parks and friendly places, so she sees that you make friends with ppl you dont know, allowing her to see that new ppl arent bad ppl. Always give her an adjustment period veofre wanting her to go to someone new. hold her and let teh new perosn talk to you first then to her....when she starts to get more comfortable, shell make her own way into the conversation.
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Mother of two...one shy one friendly

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