My children are about to be 3 and 2 and i cant get them away from their pacifers. can someone plz help?
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what worked with my boys is, talk with them about it, it's hard for a child to give up something they use for comfort. explain your a big boy now and it's time to put this away, ask them to help you find them and throw them away...and say now lets go to the store and get a big boy toy.
once all the Binky's are gone, and they helped you. then it's turned into a good experience by getting to pick there new big boy toy.
my boys never asked for there Binky's ever again even when there cousins or friends would come around with there's
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Who is the parent here? You just need to be firm with them and tell them no. They are going to throw a fit, but after they figure out that you aren't going to give in they will give up.
Don't worry about it. They will give it up. THat's why you never see teenagers with pacifiers. Let them have it. Don't stress. Give up your craziness. THere's no reason to be crazy it's perfectly ok. Defintiely your 3 year old should be off them by now! Offer a trade - if he/she gives them up, they can have something in return. (A teddy bear to hold, or something else....)
When I was little my mother told me that a doggie had taken my pacifier away ! and apparently I never asked for it again..
And on an episode of Nany 911 , The technique she used was almost like the "Tooth fairy" instead, "The Pacifier Fairy" , You go together with your babies and hang a little bag somewhere (with the paci's inside of course) and the next they you could all go see what the fairy left them in return..Give it a Try ..And do it before they go to sleep so they dont get too desperate!
dip them in vinegar.. and if you have anymore children, don't get them started with the pacifier, i learned my lesson..lol It is so difficult to take away their comfort object once they have become used to it. My children all had pacifiers. When I took my oldest son to the dentist (he was 2 1/2) He recommended to just letting him have it only for night time and naps. When he cried, I would read him a story or give him a snack. When he turned 3 I cut holes in them without him knowing. When he figured out something was wrong, I just played dumb and told him they must be broken. He got tired of them because the sucking wasn't working with the holes. Eventually he gave up. Don't listen to people who say "Who's the parent?" Obviously they don't understand how attatched a child can become. You can't just rip it away like cold turkey. Sucking is a natural inborn characteristic babies have. Doing that will just cause stress for both. The best approach is to ease them out of it. I studied child development. Good luck. Check with your denitist too.
don't worry about it we all need our own security blankets. they are only little and if their dummies help then thats all that matters. all 3 of mine had them and when they got to 4 years old they were old enough to understand that they were not babies and they left them out for Santa Claus to collect and take to the new little babies that needed them. I had no tears and they felt grown up and proud.
This is a situation that has no easy or quick answer. For starters, just taking the pacifiers away cold turkey will make EVERYONE cranky, I don't recommend that route. Anyone who recommends that has never had a child who needs a pacifier to go to sleep. I have 4 children, 2 were pacificer babies. My oldest just turned 27 and she had her pacifier until she was about 3 1/2. My youngest is 8 and she had her pacifier until she was 5!! (She was a surprise baby born when her siblings were 18, 15, and 12 and we let her get away with an awful lot the older ones didn't get to do) So, I know the frustration you are going through. What worked best for us was to gradually put limitations on when and where the pacifiers were allowed. One small step at a time. We started when each started to talk, to ask them to "please take the passy out when you talk". Then we went to "leaving it in the car" when we went shopping, just so it "won't get lost". Eventually it stayed home all the time. Then we said the pacifier can only be used in bed and that is where it needed to stay. Near the end, we bought a couple new pacifiers and announced that these were the last ones we were going to buy. My oldest stopped completely when we were going away for a long weekend and we could not find a pacifier anywhere in the house and we told her she would have to go without it for a few days. She just said OK and never asked about it again. Later, when I found one behind a bookshelf, I just threw it out when she wasn't looking. When my youngest was 5 1/2, we planned a week long trip to Tennessee for Spring Break. We told her that the pacifier couldn't go with us. The day we left we threw it in the trash and put it out for the trash collector. By then it was all nasty and had a hole in it. The pacifiers were easier to break then my middle daughter who was a thumb sucker and she was well into elementary school before she stopped (or at least I didn't see her do it anymore).I was lucky that both my children never used them. But.. its the sucking that comforts them.. Try starting off during the day with ice pops, carrots with dip.. something they can suck on.. that won't hurt their teeth and they get a flavor. And for now.. let them have them only during the night.. or nap times..
I do know that if you force them before they are ready, they could go to sucking their thumbs.. its a comfort thing..
My son was completely attached to his pacifier. it was like his third arm! Anyway, I decided one day to try wean him off. Problem was, I didnt realise that i needed to wean MYSELF off giving them him. I would always take them with me when we went out 'just in case', but i see now that it was detrimental to the whole process, as he would soon find them. plus, there was always the excuse of something coming up in his life, after which we would wean him off.
one day, we went out of town. only once on the bus on the way back to home (2.5 hours) we realised that we had lost his pacifiers somewhere on the way. we kept him entertained and busy, and he barely noticed it. when he did remember to ask about the pacifier, we told him that we had left it behind, and that we were counting on him to be a big boy and get home without it...
I realised them that if you want to wean your kids out of bad habits, y ou have to wean yourself off them first. It was so easy to just shove it in their moutns, or in their bags to take to preschool, but i made up my mind to be firm - with myself
I took their pacifiers away, and they know that they only get them back in the night when they are in bed. my son knows to give it to me in the morning adn to ask me for it only when he is tucked up in bed.
if you choose this tactic, you have to decided which is best for your kid- to discuss it or to just take it away. i discussed it at lenght with my son, partly because he is a control freak and partly because he is very observant. with my daughter, who is in her own world, i just took it away without making a fuss. she clued in eventually, but by then was used to it.
they still sometimes ask me for them during the day, and the "big boy now" method oftens backfires. i just stand firm to the rule that we have pacifiers only at night.
good luck! Have them give the pacifiers to the peditrician to take to the hospital for the newborn babies.
Have them give the pacifiers to the Easter Bunny, Santa, Tooth Fairy....
Make a new rule. Pacifiers only when you're in your bedroom. After a few months limit the use to only when in bed. They'll eventually give the paci's up. no nobody can help
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