any experience with this ? my son is 2 now?
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I have not been through this and I really have no idea of what to tell you. I just really want to commend you on being so strong for you and your children. It takes alot of courage to do what you did and I think its great that you stood your ground with him.You need to take a minute and set back to pat yourself on the back and think of how much stronger of a person you will be and how much better off you and your kids are. Congrats on the baby and never lose your courage and inner strength. You will do great. Good Luck and my prayers are with you and your children!
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It sounds like you made the right choice for you and your children. It will be easy for the dad to blame you because he won't accept the responsiblilty of the situation.
Your first responsibilty is to you and your kids! When your children get older and the they questions. Tell them the truth. That your dad was dangerous and you needed to protect them. Not that they shouldn't care about him. But he was abusive to you and you needed to protect them.
I hope he will come around and get help.
Best wishes...
I've been through a divorce. Yes its hard. Be glad your child is still young. They will not remember. What ever you do don't blame yourself. I doesn't matter what you said he had no right to lay a finger on you. And your child should not be around that. All you can tell your children later is you and daddy didn't get along. You don't have to go into detail. And you don't have to lie or place blame on each other. If he could get some help and learn to control his anger that would be the best. But you can't make him change if hes not ready. And Im sure you already know that. Im sorry. Your children will understand when they grow up. And they wont hate you for it. Would they rather have a mommy or a daddy and a hurt mommy? Why are you asking about this on a forum??
Go and see a professional.
As to what to tell your kid, he is 2. He will never ever remember what happened right now when he gets older.
I have not gone through that but you have to be strong. Your children will understand in a period of time but you need to know that he was in the wrong by pushing you while you were pregnant. It is better you solved this before your children had to go through seeing that happen. if you would have waited to have a split up until after the children were grown to the age that they could understand that you two were spliting up they probably would have blamed themselfs for it. that is what happened to me and my brother. my parents beat eachother and when they finaly split i blamed myself for it. i had even tried to kill myself cuz i thought i ruined my parents life. I wish they would have done what you did. i am sorry if i did not help. but may god bless you and your children. you will be in my prayers.
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