I have very oveprotective parents. Can i make them loosen up?

I have very overprotective parents, mainly my mother. If i have to go to the mailbox she instists on watching me. This would be fine, IF I WAS 6! But i am 13! I have many friends but i have lost close friends bacause everytime they invite me somewhere i cant go so they invite some1 else and that ends up being their new close friend and they dont consideer me a close friend anymore. I cant even go to school functions like games. I have only been to hang out at the mall once with my brothers fiance and her mother and my neice. She is much older than me so it wasnt something i was excited about. While was there i saw some girls i knew hanging out and i really wish i had the opportunity to do that. I cant go to a friends house or have a relationship. Ive tried asking my friends for advice but none of them deal with the same problem so they say things like "oh well" And my mom never has time to talk to me about it, as if i'd want to. This makes me feel sad sometimes. Can anyone help me?

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I too have very protective parents. My suggestion to you is to prove that your mom can trust you. Talk to her and explain everything you said in your question. Tell her that you have lost friends because of this. Try to meet in the middle with her. Maybe she can take you and your friends to the mall but she stays in the food court and you walk around. This way she can build up trust and see that you are mature enough to have some freedom. Let your mom meet some of your friends moms so she will know the type of friends you have and not have to worry about them being a bad influence. I understand that this is alot easier said than done, but this is what I did and it worked. The freedom will come overtime but you still have to remember that you are still young. Just remember that she isn't doing this to be mean and probably doesn't eeven know how it is affecting you. In her mind, she is just protecting you because she loves you. The first step is talking to her, not yelling or sneaking around behind her back.

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All I know is that once you get away from your parents (e.g college) you'll probally become a big party girl because you'll no longer have the constraints of your parents on you.

just try and talk her into letting you go to the mall or movies with some friends and if yo u have a cell phone or your mom does than just ask to borrow it if u have ur own then just say u can contact me and I will have it on at all times... trust me my mom is the same way sh ebought me a cell just because I get to school early and to check the mail i have to bring a walkie talkie even though my phone is a walkie talkie phone.
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My over protective parents Live with it or try to change it but trust me if she means it she wont stop!! I was given the same advice?!

you are probably a very pretty girl and they want you safe she most likely was accosted as a child and wants to prevent it with you

Have a rational discussion with you mom (no yelling, and really listen to each other before speaking). Ask her what she thinks will happen if she loosens up a bit with you. Try to compromise.

I am an overprotective mom of 3, my oldest being 12. My husband and I don't let her hang out at the mall because it isn't a hangout. However, we also don't let her roam unsupervised around the Internet. We don't look over her shoulder, either.

Your mom lives in fear.
My only question to her would be "Do you think your a lousy parent?" It sounds horrible but listen. Her reply
"No!" - well then if you trust your parenting abilities why not trust me? Give me a little freedom and see how I can handle it.
"Yes." - Why do you feel that way, mom, look at me. Your doing a great job rasing me. Look at how I've handled... (such and such situation). Can't you see the values you placed in me? Give me a chance to grow please. You have given me a good foundation but now I feel I need to build on it. Let me have a little freedom to at least do (such and such).

Anyhow you get the idea. Talk with her that's all I'm getting at.
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Kid's that don't have the opportunity to fail in small things early on often fail in large things later in life.

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