14 and pregnant?
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Oh honey you are so very young, I am so sorry that you have to go through this. There is no *right or wrong* answer that anyone can give you, this is a decision that you and you alone must make, with help and guidance from people who care about you and your well being. If you have yet to talk to clergy or a professional counselor I implore you to seek out an impartial voice to help you. A decision you make now will no doubt impact your life forever, it is up to you what you can live with. My personal opinions are-1)I do not beleive in abortion period. 2)Adoption is a wonderful gift to both the child and good people who wish for a child. 3)It is your body and you must endure the changes and sacrifices not your mom(who im sure is thinking of you very much in her wishes..........I hope whatever choice you make is the right one for you.......my prayers to you!
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If you can keep it and give it all he needs, I would keep it. But it isn't easy to raise a baby and certainly not when your 14 years old, you still have a whole life ahead of you. Maybe you are going to think a lot about the man who raped you, but if you carry someone inside you for 9 months, I think it's one of the most beautiful things there is in the world. And you won't be able to give it up for adoption! You cannot say to give up something without trying it, and again you won't be able to give up your baby and leave it with other people!
Although you are 14 and should finish your school first, go out with friends, have parties, your first love,...
It's a difficult choice but maybe you should think about it a little longer, but not too long!
I wish you all the best, and I hope you make the right decision!
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Your query is very tough. Anything like that's a stumper, bro. ... Me, myself, and I EMAIL ME or IM ME!!!!!! i was raped with my son, and i kept him. i know exactly what you are feeling, i went threw it. my son will soon be 2 in july. please contact me and i will help you. Kileysmom6202@yahoo.com if you email me though, i have a tendency to delete things that i dont know where they are coming from, so in the subject put something like 'raped and pregnant' something like that. i promise i will help you with this. there is nothing better than talking to someone that has went threw this.
Don't abort...if the baby causes you pain to look at, give it up for adoption. Try to keep it though, the baby may give you pleasure from such a terrible ordeal. It is a blessing and may bring you love. If not, at least you could give it some couple that would love it.
Don't kill it, you would regret it.
personally i think that you should have an abortion i know you dont want to kill it but you just dont realize how much it will hurt you everyday to know that this child was made by you being raped, and then if you give it up for adoption that will be even harder on you, i really think that you should consider the option of having one you also have to remember that your mother will be doing the financial support so it is her decision too so you need to talk to her becasue raising a baby is very expensive i think the baby deserves to live. put the baby up for adoption.its not the childs fault.dont i would not keep the child in my own house hold because the child is also alot of emotional baggage for you.but then if you carry your child for 9 months there will be some sort of attachment there between the two of you.use your heart and pray a ask GOD for direction.
Hu raped u??? Stranger or someone u noe??? U r only 14 u r gonna hav a tough time gurl. Its best u talk about dis wif ur parents. Its a bad thing to kill a baby, da baby is innocent. If da person is someone u noe, find him, he hav to take da responsibility. Hope u will solve dis problem, good luck.
keep itI know that you may be scared, but have peace. Email Kiley's mom - she knows what she's talking about. If you need to, read up on abortion - it's wrong, and if you do it - which I don't think that you will - you will feel guilty for the rest of your life. Remember that God loves you AND that baby, and this happened to you for a purpose. That baby could be the next Martin Luther King, or the next President. Pray about it, and God will direct you as to what to do. If you need to, email me. I won't mind. I'll pray that your mom has a renewed mind about all of this. You are doing the right thing. If you think about adoption, make sure that it's an open adoption, so that you'll be able to come and visit. That's all I got for now. Oh - read Tilly by Frank Peretti it's short, don't worry - and read Choice Summer by Shirley Brinkerhoff - it's about a girl like you. --StarKitty14k i was raped when i was younger and if i were to have become pregant i would not ba able to give up the baby but i think that everybody is differnet maybe some people like your mother would not be able to look at the child without hatred you on the other hand seem like you would be a good mother and as long as you can give the child what it needs keep it sure some people may say your too young but if your heart wants you to have this child go through with it because you might regret later on about what you have done
Listen to ya mom cuz no body knows what best betta than ya momma.
Wow. That is quite a load to deal with there. Go see a counselor - if anything, just your school counselor can help you out. There is nothing wrong with giving a child up for adoption. Going to a counselor and dealing with the feelings that came from getting raped is really important.It sounds like you wouldn't mind letting the child be adopted. Your school counselor or church can help you find an agency to go through. If you feel abortion is killing a child - then don't do it. Giving a family who is unable to have a child on their own a child is a beautiful gift - and then something wonderful would come out of this awful event in your life. There are open adoptions available, where you could have contact with the child if you felt that was something you are interested in.
This is a really big decision to make for someone so young. Listen to your heart, and talk to a counselor. You need to take care of yourself and deal with these emotions. I wish you the best of luck. You have a good heart, The baby is not at fault and you should consider giving it up for adoption and let a family that would love it a great home and if you wasn't to get to know this child try open adoption you would still know the baby
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