how do u comfort a friend that just had a miscarriage?


my friend had a miscarrage and and shes shutting me out. shes taken this really hard. i no its sad to lose a baby but the timing was bad any way and there is a possitive side to it shes only 16 the father is 19yr old and already has a 3yr old son and all he does is pay child support for and her home life isnt that great so its not all horrible but how do i make her see that?
Answer:
when i conceived at 18 and miscarried, my best friend made the mistake of telling me that i wasn't ready anyways, and that it was better for the baby. and even though i would say that to make myself feel better, it was not okay for my best friend to say it. then i shut her out and we didn't talk for months all because of something so stupid. you still have raging hormones after having a miscarriage, so the things people say will probably just upset you more. i would let her have her space for a while and after a few months she will realize that it truly was for the better, and hearing it will not upset her as much. assure her that she can always try again, but like i said give her time to cool down first. after a miscarriage you take all the assuring words that anyone has and make them negative. yes you can try again, but you wanted THAT baby... in a few months it will all blow over, and even though you never get over a miscarriage it gets easier to move on with time.
Other Answer:
Just be a friend and be there for her. When my son died I used a web space which addy is groww.com it a great sight and has a chat space where parents can share their grief with other people who have been through it.
inform her that many women miscarry with their first pregnancy, and in the future, she will probably have healthy children. time helps, but not always helps. good luck.
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experienced this, unfortunately.

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