14 year old cousin is running away from home,how do I help him??

Question:

My cousin is 14 years old and his father died last month so he and his 3 year old brother has been living with us for a while.He has been seeing a counselor and is doing great in school. The first couple of weeks after his father's death he was really depressed,then he cheered up and was his old self again.Last week he ran away from home and we called the police,he did it again two days afterwards and stayed gone untill the next night,and when I asked him why ,he said he didnt know.I'm really scared for him because I do not want anything to happen to him.The police say that if he runs away again they can take him to a juvinile dentention center and he will be put on probabtion for being an unruly child.I dont him to mess up his life but he won't talk to us,how shoud I deal with this??

Answers:
Well, sweetheart the only thing that I can tell you right now is to trust in GOD. Be sure to know that I will be praying for you to be strong during this situation.

Sometimes God allows for us to come to these forks in the road simlpy because He wants our attention. Your cousin is having problems dealing with such a great loss & just doesn't know what to do with himself, he is searching for meaning to his life, but by RUNNING AWAY gets more frustrated because he realizes that he can't escape the problem that way.

My advice to you is this: PRAY, PRAY, PRAY! This answer might make you think of me as some crazy, religous preacher, but I tell you this because I have seen it in my own life. Give your life over to God and let Him show you just what He can do IN & THROUGH you!

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." Proverbs3:5-6

Other Answers:
sit him down and tell him that you have a friend that is doing the same thing and that her life is geting messed up and she is regreting it badly and is you need or him nedd to talk to me more im here.
blue_dragon_1963@yahoo.com be supportive and let him know you are there for him but dont crowd him or smother him, he needs time to grieve he may just need some time to himself to sort out his emotions. let him have a place in the home where he can be by himself without being disturbed. It sounds like he is looking for a thinking spot. if you know of a safe secluded place where he can go near the home show it to him. you have to realize that the strongest person he knows just died and he may not feel safe or secure for some time. I have seen similar behavior after someone experiences an earthquake for the first time. their core beliefs are shaken. the ground their firm foundation moved and wasnt so firm. that takes getting used to. give him time and try to be there when he needds you without imposing. other than that let the councellor handle it.

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14 year old cousin is running away from home,how do I help him??

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