18 and want a baby???????????...
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I think that you need to figure your life out and find yourself before you have a child. There are a lot of other things that you need to focus on before having a baby....do you think that it is fair to bring a child into this world when you are a "mess"?
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Doesn't sound like a happy place to bring a baby into
your boyfriends grounded with privilages taken away and you want him to be a father?
why not wait a few years for you kids to grow up a little, and get out on your own. When you can support yourselves without your parents help, then your ready for a baby...
..you dont want to a be a parent too soon. You'll miss alot life has to offer, and most of those things come during a time when you CANT be a parent...
I'm glad I waited, because i would be missing so much in my life, and would be in a harder place than I am now. Right now, paying my rent is hit or miss.. I either do or I dont... if I had a child it'd be so much harder...
You really need to reorganize your priorities...
Please do not bring a baby into the world until you are ready (emotionally, financially) to take care of it. Every child deserves to be wanted and loved by both of its parents.
Find a stable man, get married and then think about starting a family.
For you, I'd suggest a pet.
I'm in the same position as you 19 had a miscarriage 2 months ago, only diff my bf is 24 has a career and he knows i had a miscarriage and he wants to try again. don't be stupid if u couldn't even tell Ur bf u were preg and had a miscarriage , how are u ready for a baby
I say GO AHEAD.
Please listen to me I got pregnant when I was 16 had my son and 17 I was with his dad for two years no on again off again two straight years when he found out I was pregnant he left. I got pregnant again at 18 and had her at 19 again I was with the guy for a very long time and he still denies her even after the DNA test came back I found a man and married him I am 21 I had third baby at 20. Please wait I love my kids to death but I feel cheated go to college make something of yourself so when you do have kids you wont have to feel the pain of not being able to get the things you need for them. Make sure the guy you have a baby with is the guy you want to be with for the rest of you life cause even if it don't work out you still have to deal with that child's father for at least 18 years
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went through it
You graduate in 10 days. You have your future to think about, as well as your health. If you were to have a baby now, think of all the things you will miss out on. The opportunity to earn a good education, the chance to grow into adulthood instead of being forced into it, and the insight it takes to becoming a responsible parent. 18 is a very young age to have children, and I realize you are very much in love with him. Trust me, if he loves you as much as you love him, he will be supportive of decisions you make as you get older. He will appreciate you for wanting to have a suitable surrounding for a baby. If he doesn't, he probably isn't the type of man you would want for your baby's father. Don't rush into anything...you have a lifetime.
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a mom
HOPEFULLY WHEN YOU DO HAVE A BABY THE FATHER WILL NOT BE GROUNDED SO HE CAN BE IN THE DELIVERY ROOM W/ YOU.
YOU GUYS ARE TO YOUNG TO HAVE BABY.YOUR BOY FRIEND IS STILL GETTING GROUNDED. IT'S KIDS HAVING KIDS.
BABY'S ARE HARD WORK. IT'S NOT LIKE YOU SEE ON T.V
IT'S 24/7
That's great that you want to have kids, and someday you will make an awesome mom. But why the rush to have a baby now. Obviously your boyfriend is in no position right now to be a good father if he is still being grounded by his parents and if your parents hate him that would only put more stress on you if you were to become pregnant. Being a parent is not a walk in the park. Once you become a parent your whole life is your children. Everything you do concerns them. I got married at 19, had my first child at 20 and my second at 22. I love my children more then my own life and will do anything for them but I do wish I had waited a little bit longer and gone to college and had some more me time before giving my life over to my children. Are you really ready to do this? Give your whole life over to a baby? Can you afford a baby at this time? Baby's are very expensive. Can you provide Medical Insurance for a baby? Will your parents be there to support you and help you should your boyfriend decided later on that he really doesn't want to raise a child and it's too much responsibility for him at this time? These are some of the questions you need to ask yourself and do some deep thinking before you decided to have a baby just because you want one right now.
Even though a family is ecenial to life I am saddened by the way that most families are stuctured toady. I had my first daughter when I was 20 and even though I would not change that I often look back on my life and wish I would have waited. Now with 2 little girls My life is fantastic, but it took a while before I could actualy afford to have children. In todays economy and morally bankrupt socioty, children need to be planned out when a couple are emotionally and finacialy ready, even though children are the most wonderful things in the world, no child should be brought into this world with out serios thinking about where you are at in your life.
my advise to you dear, is to wait. there is no hurry in making a baby. All that you need is a perfect timing and the right person to father your child.Finish your studies so that you can achieve that goal in life, then after you can have as many babies as you need
First of all let me say congrats on wanting a baby.
But let me fill you in on a little bit of it. I am 21 and about to be a father of twin boys. I didn't think that i'd be ready for it because of finances. Baby's are a lot of money and require a lot of attention. I have already spent well over $4,000 on baby stuff, and that's just to cover the basics. You'll need diapers to last you for over a year, a crib, a bed for when they're out of the crib, blankets, towels, washcloths, car seats, and a LOT of baby-proof stuff like locks and a stair door gate. Even if you shop at a thrift store it can be costly. if you have a job you're going to have to take a maternity leave or quit it. i am working full time at my job and my wife is working part time and we're not even close to being ready for our babys. If you think that having a baby will make your life better you're wrong, it will enrich you life but it actually makes it harder. don't read into that wrong, i'm excited about being a daddy and i'm happy as all get out, but i won't sugar coat it, it will be very difficult. are you willing to devote 100% of your time with this child or are you going to leave it with your parents whyle you go out and have a good time at night. You need to be ready for whatever comes at you like medical bills and such.If you put the fathers name on the birth certificate and you're not married, you have a $6,000 dollar hospital bill to look forward to as well. But i'm not trying to discourage you from doing what you want to do so don't think that i'm being aome kind of ogre, i'm just telling you that the road will be very difficult and trying. But if you feel that you are ready then by all means go ahead and have a baby. But think about this, do you really want to have a baby with a guy who's grounded at eighteen with no privilages. He doesn't sound like a guy who would be able to handle a baby.
i've been where your at. you first need to be happy with yourself first. you are looking for others to make you happy and that may make you happy temporarily but as you grow you'll learn that you have to learn to entertain and find things that make you happy before you can take on parenthood etc. once you cross over and become a parent you can never be free again, you will always worry. for now enjoy other peoples kids and take care of yourself..it will happen.. when its time
PLEASE WAIT!!! There is much more to just having a baby. They grow up. I had my first child at 18. It was a real wake up call. You have your whole life ahead of you. Figure out what you want to do with your life first. Don't do it and try to raise a child at the same time. Your baby deserves better than that. Nine months is a very short time to figure out where you will live, who will buy milk, diapers, medicine, clothes, etc.
LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE FIRST!
i feel like you shouldn't ask your doctor nothing , you should be scouting colleges or going to the military and think about a future, i went into the military at 18 and i had my son when i was 20 yrs and then my other son at 24, but even though i brought my kids up in a single parent home at the time, i was able to provide finacially and emotionally, when it comes down to kids gurl ,believe it or not it takes alot out of you that is something you got to be ready for, to be honest my 1st one it was a struggle so think before you make a move, you need to go talk to a counselar before you make any life altering decisions
honey child,
You have plenty of time to have a baby so don't rush it. First of all what is it that you really want that you think that a baby can give you? It's not the baby's job to give to you but you to give to the baby. Maybe you are really in need of wanting someone to love you as you think a baby would love you. You have plenty of time to have a child and if this is really what you want then make the best plan that you can. So when it's time to have the child you can have all the other things taking care of so you can really enjoy your baby. Like for one get a good paying job,where you can take care of your needs first then get your own place and start filling it with the nice things you would like to have then once you have your place furnished start saving alot of money because baby need alot of stuff that cost alot. To get an idea of what it will cost get a baby buying check list and go to your local stores and check out the prices and you'll see what it really takes. then get invloved with a planned parenthood group and take some parenting classes because you'll need all the child info you can get then get serious about the man you want as a spouse and father. you'll want to have a man who is mature and knows what he wants in life and has a good job and is stable at it and isn't in school because if you or him are in school or just getting out it will take a little time to get set into a job you'll want to keep for years to come and thats important because not only does the income count but also the insurance and the ability to take off time to have the baby and be able to have your job back after the baby is born and you'll want to have a good man who loves and supports you and the baby to have a good job to pay all the bills and the baby extras while you're home with the baby. It takes alot more then just a want to have a baby and you need to be prepared as much as possible. You also might want to think in terms that you will have to do this all on your own because not ever one is wanting this baby and if you have it now you just might be on your own and when you do have the baby you will want all the support you can get so plan and plan well. If you think that all of this takes to much time then you really are not ready for a baby because it really does take all this and then some and if you don't have it then you'll soon resent your baby and I know you think you won't do that that you'll love that baby but the truth is it takes alot more then love to care for you and the baby just ask your parents. Yes they love you and nothing will change that but they will tell you that it took alot of money and time and support to get you where you are now. You have to be mature in your decisions and not emotional because what feels good now will go away 2am and 3 am and 6 am in the morning when your baby is hungry and wet and needs your attention and you have to be at work at 7am how do you think you'll feel then or to get a better idea is to set your alarm clock at those hours and get up for 1/2 hour each time and then go some where for 8 hours at 7 am and see how ya feel. honey child I'm not trying to scare you but tell you the hard core truth because at one time I was 17 and having a baby with no family support or the father's support and all alone trying to care for a baby when I couldn't care for myself and it was hard and I lost what was the best years of my life because I thought I wanted a baby. So give your self time to stop being emotional and rethink what it really is that you want to do before having a baby. sassiebutterfly
You and your partner are not married and the both of you have been caring on an unstable relationship which is not healthy for a child.
Secondly, in your second sentences you stated that he was grounded for having bad grades which gives me the impression that he is still living with his parents. If he is still getting grounded and doesn't have his own home and can not get his grades up what makes you think either of you need to be thinking about having children?
You need to slow down and think about what you are doing. You are trying to create a life into an already messy situation you have described.
You and him need to first finish school and land a good career not just some lame job. You then need to work on your relationship considering you and him are on and off again. After that you all can talk about moving in together. Once you have your lives straight then you can think about having a baby. You are currently making a very bad decision.
Do you really think you are ready at 18? I doubt it. I am 29 and I am barely ready. I have a cyst. Eat right, take your pills. YOu will be fine and fertile in your late twenties when you are financially and emotionally ready to have a child. Don't waste your potential by having a child now.
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