i m going to be married very soon..Plz help me..bcz it is for my whole future...?

hi.. i m going to be married very soon.but i have a problem that i m not a virgin and i m an Asain girl.1st time i got bleed but in marriega night i know that i will not.. so i m worried that if my husband came to know about it..then wat would b his reaction bcz he has a very deep knowledge about SEX..he has told me about it that it not hard to know that this girl or that girl is being used or not.. now i m worried that how he could know it.. bcz of non bleeding or some more signs..?? bcz i will never ever tell him about my past.plz help me that if it is the only way to know about me bcz of non bleeing then how should i escape form it.. or tell him the reasons that if i m not bleed it is not bcz of 1st time sex.there would b some reasons but wat would b the reason i donot know.. plz plz help me bcz it is the question of my whole life...

Answers:
A man cannot tell if you;re a virgin or not by weather you bleed or not.

Many women do not bleed the first time that they have sex.. so there is no way to tell.

My guess is either, to tell the truth... maybe cover it a little....

Or you say nothing.. pretend nothing's ever happened and jsut get on with it

if your husband loves you he will understand!

Other Answers:
Tell him now that you are not a virgin and hope and pray he is understanding.

Tell him that you are not a virgin anymore,
if he really loves you he'll try to understand & maybe you two can work it out before the wedding...
But dont go with lies into a marriage!

What ever you do,just be honest with hjim and yourself. If you love him then you will really want to tell him whats on yor mind and on your heart. If you can't be up front with him, or he with you then getting married is a bad idea. Bite the bullet and tell him. Your going to get married and if you expect that marrage to last your going need to have trust. Your going to have to come clean and let the cat out of the bag. It will be better in the long run.

If you're going to have a good marriage you do need to be honest but you can't tell if someone is a virgin or not. Not everyone bleeds their first time and if he asks and you still want to keep it a secret tell him you rode bikes or horses a lot when you were little. But I'm still uncomfortable that he's OK with sharing his sexual experiences and you're not.

Hey, if you are not virgin and you tell him that and he doesn't love you know more, sorry honey but you don't need him, tell him that you made a mistake along time ago, never keep anything from the man you love, if you tell him, he should be understanding and love you even more for being open and honest with him. I hope if you do get married, you have a good marriage.

do you use tampons? tampons can remove the hymen which means there would be no bleeding. so when there is no bleeding on the wedding night make no big deal about it, just tell him about the tampons. Your only mistake swetie is that you based your relationship on a lie. Now you are stuck in this terrible position. There are cases where women who are physicaly active loose there hymen as children and don't bleed first time. Maybe you ride bikes a lot? You could explain it that way. Oh, and don't act too familiar down there...that will be a dead give away! I do understand the rules other cultures place on women and I think it very sad. The world today is not like it was 100 years ago. Women should have more freedom and I think it is ridiculous to expect chastity anymore. Good luck.

You can't base the foundation of your marriage on lies. The truth has a way of coming out. When your kids are grown, are you going to lie to your daughter about your first and if you were to tell her and not your husband than you are showing her the wrong example. I would tell my fiancee, if he can't except that than you shouldn't marry him. If you feel you must keep this secret for the rest of your life and not tell a sole than think of the burden that lies on your head.Honesty is the biggest factor of marriage. You can keep your secret but that's not my advice. It will damage small things throughout your life that you just haven't noticed yet. Tell him and explain the situation of how this occured. Tell him you regret your mistake and wished you had saved your self for him, and say sorry!!!

That is a difficult situation.
I'm no expert, but I think you should talk to your future husband about this. If he can't accept your past, maybe you shouldn't marrie him. There will always be a problem between you two.
So talk to him.

I wish you all the best.

i think u must tell the truth but if u want to lie it is very ease!!!!!!

tell him a story. once you were playing tennis. you fall down ........ it was painfull ...... and got bleeding............

actually it happened to one of my friend.

Tell him the truth. If he dumps you over somthing like that <<your past>> then he isn't worth it. If he loves you he'll understand. <3 there isnt a man alive (apart from a lady doctor) who can tell if a woman is a virgin or not if you wanna tell him, then do it, but if not, what he doesnt know wont hurt him

bleeding or no bleeding he will know this when he tries to penetrate you. A virgin is very hard to penetrate, bleeding is just secondary. I remeber spending around 30 mins and lots of lubricant just to penetrate my partner. It was really very difficult. This should be your problem and not the bleeding part.

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