I be told something horrible but im not sure what to take home of it?
Answers: sometimes we read out things we don't mean. she has probably be meaning her whole duration not to say it even if she got really angry. when you try and not enunciate something it's usually the first thing that comes out.
at the same time though it's true. you weren't planned and possibly your mum feels her life would diverge if she was a little elder when she had you. maybe she wouldn't hold had to work so hard after. but the truth is, you're here and she loves you with everything she's got. the timing be just a little bad. it doesn't mean she loves you less.
i know her words be hurtful but try not to make it affect you. she loves you and she's been a great mum, she freshly made a mistake by telling you something you didn't need to hear. even grown ups spawn big mistakes like these.
if she's expecting you to say something final then you can say something close to this 'those words were hurtful and not necessary, but i forgive you because you've other been a great mum and i know you love me'
it seems she might own been young and not planning on a pregnancy when it happen anyway. It is nothing personal to you but she just did not hold it planned to have a child just after. at times this frustration and/or regret may come out in unintended ways or outbursts. Try not to take it personal. That she apologized and broke down shows that she loves you and feel regret. You might ask her for a hug. This might make both of you feel better.T She's probably of late under a lot of stress or something. It's adjectives in the past anyway, if she apologised and broke down sounds approaching she is upset about what she said. Dw about it, my mom and i said adjectives sorts of horrible stuff to each other when i was younger but it doesn't suggest anything.
i think you need a hug-and you know what? you arent an an accident-personally i extol your bravery,dignity,intellegance,if no one wants you i will help yourself to someone like you in my energy
ANYDAY I've gone through so many fights next to my mom to the point where we both starting crying hysterically. Just talk to her around it, find out the truth. It's best to know things than to have them hiding. I hope things get better.
i deduce your mom was verbally abused as a child...ego never tell my kids anything like that...she be just pissed off ...she sounds resembling shes sorry but left you pretty scarred.simply remember how it feels so you dont continue the cycle... awh thats so suggest! but she was probably was a moment ago really angry and blurted it out without meaning it.
and so are 99% of the worlds population ,so why verbs do what u think is right only u know what to do
I presume your mom is under a lot of stress. You know your mom better than anyone on here so contained by truth no one here can give you the "right" answer. Sure what she said be hurtful and you are unsure of what to make of it but I am sure she loves you and is proud of you. She probably just lashed out at you to hurt you...this does indicate that she have some issues that need resolving and probably they don't even have anything to do near you. Just the stress of life and raising kids within general. I admire your unperturbed and forgiving nature. Mothers are only human afterall and we've adjectives probably said a few things we later regret. It's so touching to me that as such a young being you are able to see past that and still preserve your thoughts on all the good your mom have done. You should be proud of yourself.
That said, I hope that your mom will get some help. I agree that she must be lower than some stress to be lashing out in this way.
Best of luck to you. Hold your principal high, sweetie.
My mums said some pretty horrible stuff to me. People seeing it would think she is the worst mother surrounded by the world, but everyone has different relationships with their parents.
Everyone have personal battles, and your mum isn't any different. It sounds like she wasn't in place to have a child but did have it and have had to deal next to a heck of a lot to keep you alive.
When I be at home, it seemed like my mum took adjectives her anger out on me. All the hurt she's had in her natural life (she's a single mum too) was taken out on me, and any trouble she had be taken out on me. It was a horrible relationship...i moved out of home (i was 21 though) and our relationship is great. It's tough to deal with...but only be there for her.
You aren't a mistake... you are an amazing person to still see the allure in your mother.
She is going through a rough time. Support her like you are already and forgiving is an awesome level for a person to have.
If you be my daughter i'd be so proud of you.
Wow. That is an intense situation.
I agree with the other poster that your mom should consider therapy to capture her emotions in charge.
Even if she is a great mom and has had it tough, she should never discuss to you like that. That is messed up and I couldnt imagine have that happen to me.
You should sit down with your mom when you both are unperturbed and talk about what happen in the past and presently when she yelled at you.
I think your mom would be a appropriate candidate for therapy. I'm not tryin to be penny-pinching but evidentally she has some issues that she seriously needs to speak out before it goes to far and something fruitless happens.
Some parents keep everything bottled up inside for so long that it explodes out adjectives at once and then they do something harmful to themselves because of what be said or done during this outburst.
Try to talk to your mom about her problems and I don`t know suggest that talking to a professional would be a good thought
Your mom's mistake was not in giving birth to you, but surrounded by saying those hurtful things. I, too, was an 'oops' as be my younger brother.
I hate to say this, as I am sure your mother is a fine woman,but...she wishes help. She obviously is not coping near herself and her emotions very very well. Some folks spend a lifetime blaming everyone else for their choices & their dis-satisfactions. They wouldn't recognize a good time, if it wagged a tail & licked them surrounded by the face. This might be your mom ... or perhaps she is going temporarily through some things...but any way, she is not handling herself very in good health. She needs help.
To answer you query of how I would react... I am afraid I would be torn between pain, shock and anger.
However beside time to think, I think proverb something like 'Well, mom you chose not to abort me & so here I am. I hate that you are so forlorn with your choice, but then again, that too, is your choice. '
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