How would you enjoy handle this type of behavior?


I had my friend and her family over for supper finishing night and I fixed a dish that I was told a favorite of their family's: Chicken Parmesan. We sit down to eat and everyone loved it...except for their son who is 6 years old (they individual have the one child). He looked right at me and said, "I HATE this stuff!" without even taking one bite! His parents give an uncomfortable look at him and then at me, but said zilch. I was shocked that nothing be said to him, but I said to their son "This is what is for supper tonight so you can either eat this or get the impression free to not eat it and be hungry". He pushed his plate away and got up and moved out the table and again his parents said nothing! My oldest daughter, who is 5 years old, asked me why he did that and I couldn't muse of what to say so I told her we'll talk subsequent. I left it at that and we didn't speak of that incident again for the rest of the night. How would you enjoy handled this? Should I address this with my friend?

Answers:    True no parent like to be told that they were wrong, but since this behavior may have directly impacted your daughter I would say-so on that basis alone should you address her on this. She is your friend so she has to fathom out that the influence on your daughter from her son was not a good one. I probably would enjoy said something to the boy just as you did since his parents were appreciably embarrassed and weren't going to address it then and near by saying "I'm sorry you feel that course, but you could at least try a bite rather than utter you don't like something you've not tried yet", and then not here it at that.

But I would say something purely (if for no other reason) because your daughter seemed to be impacted by her son's movements. Don't read her the riot act, but do let her know your concern within. Hard situation, but necessary to address.
Completely ignore it. Although it's unyielding, it really is a matter of child-rearing. I would talk to your children something like why that was inappropriate behavior, but give up your job the correction of the other child to his parents.

Anything you say now will simply bring hard feelings and will appear like you are trying to tell your friends how to bring to the fore their child.
It is possible he was trying to be manipulative, in which luggage it is sometimes best to ignore behaviors like that. Yeah, he be rude, yeah, he left the table. But if he was trying to obtain attention, he didnt get it by what you said. When kids are being manipulative, you cant bequeath them what they want. Kids will be kids. I would not take it to heart. Tell your daughter that he simply didn't want to eat what you made. What is wrong beside saying that? I am sure your friend felt fruitless, but don't make her feel worse. I don't muse that you should have said something to the son because it really wasn't your job.
You own two options

1) Address the mother and tell her u didnt appreciate that behavior and convey ur children that what he/she did was wrong and they shouldn't copy it.

2) Leave it and tell ur children that be a wrong thing the boy did and they shouldnt do that at their house or anyone elses.

I think u should do #1 but is really ur desicion

Hope it help
Dont allow this situation to impact your friendship. I wouldnt even bring it up again. You never know what may have triggered his actions. he could own had a very impossible day, could have be tired, could have not been premonition well, etc. Im sure your friend was freshly as embarressed by the situation as you are upset. I would ignore it but definately talk to my child almost that kind of behavior.
Maybe they were extremely embarassed and somehow feel that disciplining him would make things more uncomfortable.

What you said to him be perfect.

If that ever happens again, do NOT present anything else! (like you didn't). If the parents ask, tell them no, this is what you made.

I would tell your daughter that sometimes citizens are really rude and you ae glad she is not that way.

The embarassed look says it all--they know they did wrong. Criticizing them very soon will do NO good. Leave it be.

I'd think again previously inviting them soon--maybe the time passing in between invites will also convey the message you were not happy just about being spoken to that way.
although you enunciate she's been a close friend for a while her behavior doesnt exemplify that. Perhaps later you can own her over and bring up the incident. Tell her you were wondering why she didnt say anything to her son. Turn it around and ask her what she would enjoy done had the situation been reversed. If she say she would have fixed your daughter something else tell her that you would fairly she didnt and that you are trying to teach your child to have worthy manners with adults and that anytime someone does something for someone else i.e. dinner invite: you should be appreciative and let it jump. I like your response to her son. Thats what I would have said. I would unambiguously address your friend. Instead of making it seem as though you are trying to tell her how to put on a pedestal her child just inform her that you dont appreciate her son acting that way surrounded by front of you or you daughter. You felt disrespected on both her part and her sons cog and you dont need to be treated that way within the comfort of your own home. If she chooses to take it harshly and it effects your friendship than I don`t know that person is someone you dont need to enjoy around. Im only 21, and my friends who are much older than I hold children. i dont let them disrespect me in anyway. If i be in that situation i would have address it just like this. (dont laugh) "Come caca pues!" ( which resources 'eat **** then' or well poop. My mom used to say it to us when we be little. and when they got up and walked away i would enjoy said "alright then, next time you come to me wanting something dont expect to return with it! Not with attitude like that!" after i would have sat down smiled and continued to put away.
I'd leave it alone. Obviously she is fine with him behave like that and embarrassing her surrounded by front of her friends. If he's like this at 6 and she isn't reprimanding him then she is for a rude awakening when he's a teen. If it's really bothering you probably urge her to be a bit more firm with him that way he know he can't always have his path in life, a much more useful lesson that letting him do and say whatever he wishes.

But if I were you, I'd be grateful that he wasn't my child because that boy is likely to be nil but trouble in 6 or 7 years.
Hmmmm, tricky because no parent, friend or not, wants to be criticized on their parenting "skills". Although surrounded by a roundabout way ask you friend if her son has other been a picky eater and how do they handle going-out situations. Keep it indefinite and don't bring up that night at your house unless she does. Let her make the first comment and if she asks your belief, then tell her it upset you, but otherwise it's not really a place to utter anything. That kid, though, has them wrapped around his pinky finger if he's willing to throw a fit at someone else's house. My kids might not close to the food that's being served, but we always make clear to them to keep their opinions to themselves and chomp through what is served. They probably felt really embarrassed and even though you are appropriate friends with them, they probably did not feel that they could criticize their son in front of your family close to they normally would at home.

I would just forget about it. He's only 6 years old, so I would not agree to it bother me. He's their son, not yours. I frankly don't think I would have said what you said to him. It's not your place to correct him whether or not your be the hostess. Let his parents talk to him even if it's in a more private place, approaching at their house. I would consider the subject closed, I would not talk about it to your friend.

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