1yr old daughter earpiercing squeals - drives me MAD.?
Excuse the crudeness, but it sounds like someone has stuck a white-hot poker up her backside. She repeats it endlessly and stops as abruptly as she began. It cuts through walls without any problems.
She's had issues with her formula - but that's been resolved - and still the wailing continues. She has been checked by a Dr for other conditions, and seems to be an otherwise healthy baby. Although I used to have eternal patience, it is over-worn with the unecessary screeches. I've sought help for myself too (self control) but nothing seems to work. Others hear it, and do get upset after a time. It's driving me up the wall!
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I know you said that she has been tested for medical conditions, I just wanted to make sure a hearing test was included as one. If her hearing is fine, has she had frequent ear infections that could cause a build up a fluid in her ears that could cause her hearing to be muffled or causing pressure? If not, try this. I have a day care in my home and one of the babies I watch screams like that, too. She is also a year old. If I'm close enough to her when she does it I put my hand in front of her mouth and say in a firm voice, "NO, too loud". After she stops I put my hand down and say in a quiet calm voice, "Thank you, no screaming, good job." It takes a lot of time, but she's getting better about it and doesn't do it as often as she used to. Good luck, I know it's terribly frustrating. You can do it!
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maybe she is doing it to get attention. not that you aren't giving it to her, but maybe she is needing something more. Check out Dr.Sears.com. His books have helped me with everything about my daughter. and they aren't that expensive either. on his website you can ask questions and find out a lot. good luck.
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Sound proof the baby room. YOu can buy special panels that only filter high frequency or only low frequency. They are a bit expencive, but hey, you need your nights sleep, poor man!
If the squealing is just a way to get attention, she'll stop once she realises she's not getting any when she screams.
I say you give her something to scream about
how can you say something liek that ur her father try to understand he is 12 months old for god's sake dam she is a baby u seem to a reckless parent
Get some earplugs.
Seriously, a nicely fitted pair of earplugs from an audiologist can do wonders.
Next, when the baby is in the same room with you and you can see that she's doing fine, insert the earplugs. As long as you have her within sight, keep the earplugs in. If you can tell she's screaming but there are no physical signs of hurt, then ignore it. Read a magazine or something, glancing up to make sure she's still okay. If you turn your back or leave the room, take the ear plugs out.
It sounds like she knows that the screaming drew attention when she was sick, and now she's using it to draw your attention still, although in a less positive way. Before, you knew that she was not feeling well when she screamed like that; now you know that there are no physical reasons for her to be screaming, but if you still pay attention to her when she behaves in a negative way, that will only cause her to do it more.
Make sure that when she's NOT screaming you're paying attention to her, though. Play with her, have fun as dad and daughter. Once she starts up, though, get up and walk away, preferably taking the toy that she's got or whatever she's playing with away with you. Then insert earplugs and wait for it stop. The only reason you should show her attention at that point is if she looks like she's hyperventillating, which is never a good thing.
Is she screaming out of excitement or from crying? Before anything else let me just say that if there is ever a time you feel very frustrated, put her in a safe place such as a crib or playpen and let her cry/scream safely. I'm sure your an awesome parent, but sometimes parenting is nerve wracking and we can lose our temper and senses. That is when cooling off is a MUST. Crying won't hurt her, but a frustrated parent can.
Times like these,it's hard to see the bright side of parenting, but there really is! I found that when I was tense, my son could tell, and it made him more fussy. Even though I acted no different, he would be able to sense my frustration. Then one day I just "let it go" I accepted that I was tired and he was fussy. I accepted that it was hot and was going to be along day.I accepted that he was a high maintenance little boy. As I held and hugged him, this is what I said to him," It's ok sweetie. Mommy's here. I'm going to do everything I can to make it all better for as long as it takes."
In that, it seemed that he knew what I was feeling. My whole attitude and outlook changed. I somehow found patience that I thought had been long gone. I approached every frustrating moment with the same acceptance. I just loved him for all that he was. Did it make a difference?Yes! I don't know if it was my outlook, but he did seem less fussy for shorter periods of time. Eventually he outgrew it. He is still high maintenence, but in a different way now. He's now 16 months old.
I take him outside often, he loves it. The fresh air and openess calms him. Even though I may not feel up to it sometimes, but it's much better than being couped up in the house.
I hope this helps or gives another avenue to cope with your precious one. Best of luck...
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