?do i give up full custody of my 14yr daughter who has chosen to live w/her father/he was just given phy custy
daughter is suffering thru parent anelanation syndrome -she doesn't wany to be with me @ all -i lover her to dealth and have gone thru so much hurt trying to fight to keep her and now she holds that against me -i dont know what to do --my
ex-is also making me pay child support (200.00 more then he use to pay me) and i havent seen my daughter in 2 months! please someone out there help --my family and friends only tell me what they think i want to here. thanks
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As a 14 year old she is going to butt heads with you, and at this point in her life it so much easier to get what she wants from her father, whom (if he is anything like my dad) she will be able to wrap around her little finger. My parents recently got divorced and my little sister is doing the exact same thing your daughter is doing. The only thing I can suggest is to make sure you let her know that you love her no matter what and will always be there for her. Make an effort to see her, but don't force her to do things she doesn't seem to want to do. Hopefuly, once she matures, she'll see that she's hurting you and stop being so selfish. As for the child support, is there some reason you are paying more than your ex did? If there isn't a legit reason, fight it.
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That's bull you paying custody. I think your daughter has been brain wash ur ex mate be the course of that. You have the full right to see your child for god sake u r the mother. What is a child without the mother a father can be ok but the mother is most important in the child's life.
dont give up, your daughter is young and confused and from her point of view its difficult that her parents are not living together. her father is bad mouthing you but sooner or later she will grow tired of it and see it as a form of abuse towards you and she'll realise that none of what he says is true. i used to rebel against my family when i was that age and stay out till all hours but my mum just gave me time and now we get on better than ever, give her time to calm down and not be mad at you and she will turn around and change her views.
child support dont deal with visitation. so go back to the court that gave him custody and address the issue of visitation. Child support is set up according to the non custodial parents income (yours now) you must make more money than he did.
as far as giveing up your rights you wouldnt have to pay child support but i dont think it would be a good idea. she is your daughter and you said you love her dont stop fighting every 6 months keep going back to juvenile court and file a petition to get full custody back she will probably be tired of liveing there anyways by then. its just a phase but never give up on her she means toomuch to you and i am sure you mean too much to her she just isnt showing it now. i wish you the best of luck in this
I am sorry to say that it is all to do with hormones...Be calm and wait she will grow up slowly and start to see the light...She will come back to Mummy when she is hurting,...They always do...Just let her go for now...
If I Were you I would never gave up custody of any kind.She is only 14 and at that age they think they know it all. She will grow up and mature.She will realize how much you love her by fighting for her.If you give up she may come to dislike you anyway, when she is older and a mother herself.
i hope this helps.
There is a site on parent alienation syndrome. I hope it gives you some answers. I am sorry to hear that about you r daughter. I know how I would feel. That age is a rough spot anyhow-kids frequently "choose" a parent even when the family is together. Also, if you have any visitation rights then he CANNOT keep her from you. Call you atty and ask what paperwork you need to fill out to see her when you're supposed to. If you can no longer afford the attorney, then there are ways to find the paperwork yourself. Call the courthouse or look on the net for your state laws. It should be a gov site. They should have the forms on-line for you to see, or look for a free site on the net for legal forms. i had to do this for my husband concerning his kids. It can be done. I wish you all the best sweetie. Good Luck
Source(s):
http://www.deltabravo.net/
http://www.state.wv.us/wvsca/rules/FamilyCourt/index.htm
hope these help.
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