15 Year old son?


My son lives about 1000 miles away from me. Lives with dad but, would like to live with me and his sister. He won't leave though since, he lives in a small town that has all his friends and activities that he enjoys. I have explain that he can have all of this here as well but, he will not leave the Town that he has been raised in. Any comments? I call him twice a week. He is an excellant student that is also well behaved.

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I think it's great that your son can talk to you about how he feels. It sounds like he misses you and his sister but is torn between his life and friends where he grew up and being with you guys. I also think he needs to make the decision on his own or he won't be happy in the end ~ he needs to be ready. Friends are important right now more that ever (I have a 15 year old too). Who knows, maybe you could suggest he come for a couple of visits to look for colleges in your area and move in with you after high school is over. Good luck!

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I have this problem i'm 16 and live with my dad 100 miles from the rest of my brothers and sisters. As much as i want to go back "home" i cannot deal with having to leave all my friends and having to start anew while halfway through highschool. plus i view it as this in two years i will be off to college and will not see these new friends i meet again so y bother loosing the ones i already have

You're divorced, I take it? Shouldn't the kids be living with the mom instead?

Well, in any case, he's too young to know the importance between you and his friends/activities. You can wait till he heads off to college in a big city or somewhere near where you live, and really HAS to say good-bye to all those beloved people/things in his life. Then he'll realize he'll need you more than ever (or more like your wallet, hehe). Patience is virtue. :)


Then if he doesn't want to leave then...I guess wait until he's 18 he is 15 he is old enough to make this decision on his own , you explained everything to him, nmow you are just going to have to wait and let him decide for himself.


Sweety don't worry about these next few years. He'll either have a falling out with his dad or best freind and come running to you or he'll become an adult and will see you as often as he wants. Kids that age change their minds in a New York minute so don't stress yourself. Best Wishes

MOM??????
just kidding
find out how he feels
i have alot more fun with my step-dad
than my mom
sorry to say

Leave him be. As long as he is happy and well adjusted where he lives, there is no good reason for him to move to be with you. I know you think that being with you and your daughter are good enough reasons, but I beg to differ. At this age, boys need to feel secure and confident with his community and peers. He has that. If he moves, he would have to start all over again in developing these important relationships and status, not to mention the difficulty he would have in leaving those friends he has been close to for years. Having him move to be with you would be for your good, not his. As long as you stay in contact with him and he knows you love him (by far the most important things you can do for him), then leave him where he lives. After high school, maybe after college, he might feel the need to move closer to you and that would be his decision to make, not yours.



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