10 YO step daughter argues me down about the size of a piece of lint and always has to be right...how to deal?

If I ask her for example to take her umbrella she'll ask why. Me: because it's raining. her: nope not much (even if it's pouring down she says this). Me: OK well take it just in case it does rain more. Her: No because I know that it won't. If you get firm and say "Look! I'm putting this umbrella in your book bag and you’re taking it. She'll throw herself on the floor saying "No I'm not! You are wrong!" This has happened over everything from Dr's office check ups to a red crayon. Husband says nothing to her unless backtalk gets on HIS nerves otherwise she is allowed to talk to me as she pleases. Bio mother is across the country, requested joint custody, doesn't speak English but talks with step dau. weekly. Never met step dau until she came to live 6 mo ago. Husband says "absolutely not!" to any counseling or discipline ideas. Do I say "OK fine you are right." about everything (unless it's a safety issue) and let it go because she's so exhausting? How would you deal with this situation?

Answers:
I have a almost 10 year old daughter, If she ever said to me "you are wrong" in a nasty attitude she would find herself bare bottomed and over my knee. She is still a little girl. her dad should be treating her as such. Never mind people saying stuff like your a control freak, gosh wonder what they would think about me, lol. I Have a 3, 7 and 9(almost 10) year old girls. My 7 year old hasn't been spanked in a while but I find my 9 year old is needing them on a weekly basis. From what I hear girls get worse around this age. just make sure her dad is doing the spanking since your the step mom.
Good luck

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spank her lil @ss and show her that she should have the respect for her elders

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