I need help on some age appropriate chores for my kids.?
Answers:
I think whatever it is that you had planned for them is probably fine. Your 12 year old is behaving like a normal, whiny 12 year old. It's good that you're teaching her responsibility now, she'll get out of the whiny stage earlier.
Other Answers:
Seriously, it sounds as if they are little housekeepers!! Get a housekeeper, I would never have my children doing all that work.
that is just apporpriate enough, im a 17 male, i was at 10 doing dishes, taking out trash walking the dog, and cleaning my room thats just right for there age i think well hope this helps
I think those are good as they are. Although you might want to buy a little stool and let the 7 year old rinse the dishes off, playing in water might not seem so much like a chore to her.
you should listen to your 12 year old.... that way she's happy and theres an even workload to age equivilant.
Sounds like you 12 yr. old has a Great Idea...that way she doesn't feel like she is the only one doing the "Dirty work and Bro. and Sis. can help too. When I was 9 I was standing on a stool to wash dishes. I have My son's 9 and 13 take turns taking out trash and doing dishes together (not every night) I also let them help plan and cook meals (they love this). My 9 yr. old folds towels and wash cloths. my 13 yr.old does the hanging clothes. It works out Great cause it keeps them busy and teaches them responsibility. Also they both Dust and Vacuum.
They learn good things from "work around the House" that can help them in the future.
Do you have pets? You could make the 10 year old responsible for feeding the animals and the 7 year old could keep her room clean. You can't ask for much from the 7 year old....but my kids have chores, too! Let the 12 year old know that she is not the only one with chores.
My 11 year old does the dishes, takes out the trash, and keeps her room clean. She complains also, but so did I when I was that age. I think it's good for them to have responsibilities, and to understand what it takes to keep a household clean and running!
I would say for the 7 year old to take clean clothes to their respective rooms to be put away by the others, or gather dirty dishes and bring them down to the kitchen, or something else simple like taking clothes out of the dryer.
The 10 & 12 year olds should be fine doing dishes, sweeping, vaccuming, taking trash out, etc. Of course, not ALL the chores, but one or two of them.
Source(s):
Helping to make dinner together is also fun and it helps you out too!
Good For you MOM, Chores are a necessity in structure for Children.
I would like to suggest that the kids do chores they can do together. One washes, one dries, one sweeps etc... it will teach them to work together. Make the chores fun for them and they complaints will minimize. Keep a chart and also try giving them a time limit and see if they can beat the time and do a great Job for extra bonus points or cash on payday. Weed picking, raking leaves, taking out the garbage, vacuuming and my grandchild loves to Swiffer with me, we sing the swiffer song and she does the low areas and I do the high ones. Have fun!
Source(s):
personal experience
They can do a lot more than dishes. They, including the 7 year old, can put away some of the laundry. The 12 year old can at least fold towels and shirts. They can take out the garbage, dust, vacuum, wash windows, dishes. Have everyone involved with the dishes. One can wash, the other dry and the 7 year old can put them away or have the 7 year old dry. If she can't reach then get a chair. Make it fun for them and have them listen to music while they clean. Have a family meeting and try to decide what chores would be fair for everyone and get everyones imput. That way your daughter feels that she is being heard and that she isn't swamped with everything because of her being the oldest.
The 12 year old should do the dishes because of knives and breakables. I give my children 1 chore each other than their own messes and rooms. ! gets the bathroom, One gets the livingroom, and 1 gets the kitchen. If they all want to help eachother fine, But being the parent is hard and your 12 year old will realize it when she has children of her own. Also having to do the dishes is hard so maybe up her allowance.
Source(s):
experience
All of them should be responsible for cleaning they're rooms. They should alternate days that someone cleans up and sweeps the floors this day while on the same day the other two child do the dishes. And then it switches.....They all should have an assigned chore to do each day....with a check list and time frame to do them by. That is how my mom did things with my brother sister and I. That is how my brother manages his four children. It seems to have worked for all of us. Give it a try. This way not just one feels that they are doing everything, but that then everyone gets a turns at something different. And try to even things out between them. It will be a nice house cleaning learning experience for them all. So when they are older....they will know dishes and cleaning is done everyday...not just once in awhile. Good Luck!
Your daughters suggestion is totally appropriate for the ages. Children need to learn responsibility and it seems that the breakdown she came up with is appropriate for each child's age. It also gives them the added benefits of learning teamwork, which is all so important, and they have that extra time together to spend with each other and bond.
Well for starters I don't think that it's approriate for a seven year old to be putting away silverware, but sweeping the floor seems like a chore that a ten year old would be capable of. You could have your 7 year old daughter help you fold clothes after you do laundry. That's something my mom use to do with me. Good Luck
=)
How about letting the 10 year old do the dishes (wash rinse dry and put away) and the 7 year old to set the table and clear the table along with the sweeping the floor.... OH did you think I forgot about the 12 year old? Okay her chores might be something like this
She gets to take out the trash, cut the yard and sweep after the cutting.... and she gets the pleasure of keeping the bathroom clean (which ever bathroom they use if there is more than one in the house).....
They should all be responsible for keeping the rooms cleaned and things picked up.... and they should have to put away their own clothes....
My daughter is only two and she picks up her toys and puts things away in her room (within reason of course) and she is really good about keeping her room clean. She already wants to help clear the table, so I let her take her plate and put it in the dishwasher and once everything is loaded she puts the tablets in and closes the door on it and then starts the dishwasher... Lol
She tries so hard on her own, I don't have to encourage her to do her "chores", lol
good luck on finding a fair way to divide the chores among the kiddos!
I think you are right on with the chores. I believe you are helping them for the future. Let her whine now, she needs to toughen up..and it's going to be beneficial in the long run. It's seems like kids these days are getting lazy and weak.
what the hell do u do all day???? if ur kids have any responsiblite is to keep thier rooms clean, pick up thier plate,
*take turns throwing the trash out
*take turn helping U with the dishes
HAVE THEM PICK UP AFTER THEMSELVES
Explain to your 12 year old that she has the most chores, because she is the oldest and that as the younger children get older, they will be responsible for more.
If she hates the dishes so much, then go ahead and get all three of them in on it, and give her a different chore to do on her own.
12yr old: Help with dishes, keep room clean, keep all of her own things picked up throughout the house, sweep kitchen floor twice per week.
10yr old: Help with dishes, keep room clean, keep all of his own things picked up throughout the house, run vaccume over living room floor twice per week.
7 yr old: Help with dishes, keep room clean, keep all of her own things picked up throughout the house, dust furniture in living room and den(or dining room, or kitchen, whatever)
And you can add things like feed the dog, give the dog water, brush the dog, scrub the toilet, wipe the bathroom cabinets, clear the table after dinner, etc... as you see fit.
A 12 yr old is almost a teenager and should be responsible enough to keep her room clean . Doing the dishes is a very simple and fast chore to complete. A little girl the age of 2 should not be putting away dishes The boy should be the one helping her by putting away the dishes. A good chore for the 2 year old is to just to ick up toys after a play time
Source(s):
my mother
well.....unfortunately I didn't give my sons chores and now one is rather lazy...but if I could do it over again I would have given chores....it teaches responsibilities...I'm sure you are being fair about the chores....the 12 year old should be told that someday when the other 2 get older they will have the chores she has now but in the mean time they are hers...and then start alternating certain days when they get chores...so they can all have time for fun and be a kid....And of course when 12 year old is older give her different chores, like maybe watching the other 2 every now and then...
First, it doesn't sound to me like Saffronangel has any kids. Once you've picked up after kids, a husband, and a pet for so many years, you have to teach them how to do it and finally have a break for yourself. Not to mention it's only right that if they're big enough to use the items, then they're old enough to clean them up, or at least help. My kids are 3 and 5 and they help clean their own rooms, pick up any messes they make anywhere else in the house (including mess from meals, coloring, toys in the living room, etc.). They don't always like it, but they know that if I have to pick them up every time with no help, then they will no longer have them to play with. I'll store them in the attic until they're ready to help pick up. I think a 12 year old girl should be responsible for the dishes. I was going them younger than that. The 10 year old boy should be getting all the trash from around the house and taking it out. And the 7 year old girl needs to clear the table after dinner and help her sister put away small dishes. They should all be cleaning their own rooms with no help by now. That leaves you with laundry, vacuuming, mopping, bathrooms, etc. It may not seem like they're doing much, but it helps a lot when you don't have to worry about the little things.
im a 12 yr old and it kind sounds like u make ur kids do a little too much. ur kids should take turns doing the dishes and they should all [not constantly] keep their rooms clean. u should do the floor. and make sure the twelve yr old do the same amount of work and the boy a little less, and the 7 yr old the least amount. but, as every kid dreams...u could give them no chores (just saying that u could).
Your 7 year old is not really ready for any chores yet but she can start with her room and keeping the room that is less messy for her make that be one room. Both your 10 and 12 year-old kids should help each other to clean at least 2 rooms in their house that isn't theirs(bathroom, kitchen, living room). Let your children understand that basic chores are good to know for the future when there off to college or if unfortunately they have to clean their own houses. This will also help them appreciate hard work.
My two brothers, my sister and I had our chores to do when we were younger, and it never hurt any of us one bit.
We each had our bedrooms to clean, And we had a room other than that to clean.
My oldest brother was resposible for the kitchen, my other brother the dining room, my sister the living room, and me, the backroom and the stairways.
We would sweep, mop or vacuum. Then we would switch every four months, so we wouldnt get to tired of the same room all the time.
We would take turns doing the dishes, the two girls one night, and the boys the next. One would wash, the other would rinse, dry and put away.
My son is 7 and he does from picking up his room, taking the trash out, washes his bathtub, sometimes he asks to vacuum. So I thinks these are somehow perfect chores for his age, he asks if he can do dishes but I tell him he is to young to do dishes, and he asks why? and I tell him glasses and knifes are dangerous for him, so sometimes I let him rinse the plastic ones. Its good to tech them and let them know to be responsible, and that if they make a mess they will have to pick it after.....
Kitchen duties are hated by most everyone including our kids. Just so long as they are all responsible for their rooms and their stuff. Making chores even across the board is a good idea. Who clears the table? who sweeps and mops the floor? who does the dishes? who puts away the dishes? One can wash and another dry, while the other can sweep n mop. Make sure to alternate these chores so no one gets stuck with the same chore, that would be a fair solution. Alternate weekly.
More Questions & Answers...
- Does anyone know where i can get a 3 wheeler twin pram?
- i never had emotions how do i deal with that having kids?
- is it wrong to move and leave my 6yr old son with his dad?
- How do you teach a little boy that having wet dreams are perfectly healthy?
- How old is too old to breastfeed a baby or is there even an age that is too old?
- Is it ok to let a 5 year old watch King Kong if you explain before-hand that it isnt real?