**Need help with my sons bed time!!!!!**?
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My daughter is 7 and I just this year broke this habit. I thought that is it! it is ruining my nights, I end up all upset, if I have company I have to excuse myself and hope to not fall asleep with her. No way just too ridiculous.
I put her to bed and told her what was happening. I turned her radio on low for her, made sure she had gone to the washroom, had a drink...everything and anything that would be a logical excuse to get up. Well the screaming commenced. The first night it was about four hours worth of horrific screaming and pounding on the floor. I sat at my computer and put on some music and put the headphones on. The next night it was about 30 minutes, and after that???? nothing!!!!!!!!!! she had already realized it ain't happening!!! I told her that her door could stay open as long as she went to sleep if she continued to scream the door got closed and that was that.
Your wife is not doing him any favour or yours and her relationship. She needs to realize as I had to that it is important developement for a child to be able to calm him or herself and go to sleep. It is selfish to want to take that skill away from them for our own reasons.
I would start at an 8:30 bedtime at first, let your wife come home and she can spend the time reading a book before bed, then it is time, no questions asked.
I have also done the star reward system. After five stars (one given for each night there is no problems going to sleep) She can get a treat, not expensive by anymeans, might even mean a trip to the dollar store.
Good luck, I know the strain this can put on a marriage, and it really shouldn't.
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my son went to bed at 10pm....now adays it seems to be a semi normal thing....lots of parents i know also send their kids to bed late....itll be okay
I send my kids (8 and 10) to bed at 8pm just so me and my husband can spend time together before he falls asleep lol I think 9 o'clock is okay for a six year old if he has no problem getting up in the morning. He should be going to his own bed though. Doesn't your wife feel guilty about neglecting her husband too? I would. How are you ever going to have another child if your son sleeps with you every night!!!????
It's common but not normal for the kid. The longer you leave it the worse it will become to stop it. Just put your son in his own bed. If he get s up gently tell him it's bed time and return him to bed. If he gets up again just gently tell him bed time and put him back. If he continues just palce him back in bed with no speaking. The first few nights it will probably be a nightmare. But usually within a week he should be happy going directly to his own bed. Better for him better for you and your wife. Maybe you'll get back that bit of romance too.
Do something to make HIS room more exciting and interesting to encourage him to sleep in HIS room. Then if your wife needs to, have her lie with him in his bed until he goes to sleep and slip out of the room.Bedtime stories work too.
For as long as your wife is prepared to do this for him, he's going to press all the buttons to make her feel guilty if she refuses. He's a smart kid, clearly, and will get what he wants that way.
It's not abnormal, and wont do anyone any major harm - but it would be better for all concerned to make bedtime more regular.
Jo Frost (TV's Supernanny) has some good ideas about what you can do, it might be worth reading some of her books.
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Bed at nine, and let him cry himself to sleep. a lot of kids do that. it sounds like your wife is really tired, and would probably go to sleep around the same time, anyway, though. back to your son...the longer he sleeps with her, the worse it will get. My cousin slept with her mom until she was 16 years old--that may be a bit extreme, but it does happen.
The bedtime isnt so bad but the fact that there isnt any "bedtime" for you and your wife isnt ok. Your son needs to be in his own bed at bedtime. But habits are hard to break and if she isnt willing to help you do it you may have to start making him go to bed befor she gets home to show her you serious. Its time you put your foot down. We all love our children and want to take care of them but our marriage has to come first to maintain a happy household.
NO, it is not normal. Put him in his own bed and be done with it. There are so many issues this will create if you don't stop it now. And I don't mean to suggest anything illegal, but just emotional issues, I'm sure you love your son very much. I have to stop or I will start ranting and raving. His bed time is too late, not overly but still late for a 6 year old, how late will he stay up when he's older. There has to be a limit now. He has to sleep in his own bed, period. Neither one of you are doing him any good by allowing this to continue, at best the worst issue is that he can't fall asleep on his own, that is not normal for his age.my brothers bed time is 8:30 - 9:00 and he is 6 years old i think that is good if he doesnt listen you have to put your foot down.
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me you know i have the same problem even the age i really don't know because i tried everything have you tried just keep putting him in his bed after and after after awhile he should stay in bed once he understand that your bed is off limits,it really don't work for me because my husband wants him in bed.
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