4 Parents Only: Now that your children are grown, if you had to do it over, what would you do different?

We learn so much from our experiences in life. I was just wondering what would parents do differently if they had the chance to do all over again.

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sometimes i have thought about this question. i was a stay at home mum and thought i was doing the right thing being there for them for anything they had on at school and being able to get them to outside school activites such as swimming and ballet. now i hear them say, they wouldnt mind if i had been a working mum. personally, im glad i was there for all their events even if it meant not having so much money around. at the time they wanted me there now they are saying it didnt matter. if i had to change one thing, probably would be not being so fussy about how they kept there bedrooms, i spent a lot of time yelling at them for not having tidy bedrooms. now i know its not that important.

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spend more time with them.

I would relax far more and stop trying to get it all perfect. More quality bonding time and far less "by the book" parenting

I raised four children. Two are autistic. I had a time when I was single with the kids and times were difficult. I would have been more verbal and asked people to help
me, I would have grown food so we didn't starve.
I would have asked politicians to give the many many
parents like me more support, and mostly I would surround
us with people who care.
Source(s):
See the Movie "Miracle Run" on LIFETIME TV
about my family

spend more time with them , be more patient , and most of all be more open minded and understanding

I would of gotten a better education first. I would of had my first one a little later. I think raising two alone I did a great job. Both are great people and I'd never change them.

what a wonderful question!!!!!!!!!!
first thanks for asking.
lots of things,
I would never never choose to stay with my in laws.
I would make sure i could get a job so as my value would be more then it is now though they all know i do work hard to keep up with my 4 kids and hubby.
Good now at least we live away.
this list could go on for ever but i should think this is enough.

now that my children are grown, and I had to chance to do it over, I would stay in one place and not move so much. And let the stay in one school district. and be more stable that's what I would redo if I could.

spend more time at their schools and with them.

Fortunately I didn't have to wait for my children to grow up before I realized that what may seem important is not necessarily so. It was through someone else's tragic loss of their child I was able to see that nothing was more important than my family.It did not matter if my daughters wanted to wear shoes of 2 different colours, or there music was not my style and I allowed them to make choices along the way. We had rules and accountability.They learned and grew into confident and successful adults. They knew we were there for them and we are still close.Value one of the things you cannot buy back and that is time. Children want to fit in, to experiment and make decisions.Allow them to be their best by allowing them to grow.( parameters of expectations and behaviour are allowed)

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