5 months after my son was born my ex now is saying he wants to see him. What should i do ?

My ex went around talking alot of crap about me after I had my son tellin everyone the baby isn't his. Now his friend also has a baby and he sees how much joy that child brings him and he wants me to leave my home and move 3 states away so he can now see his son. He hasn't done a thing 4 my son at all he even came by my dad's while i was visiting him expecting sex from me. How can I tell him off n make him stay out of my life?

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I have 5 kids, 3 different fathers. I'm married now to a great guy & have a 5mth. old son w/him. I know EXACTLY what you're going through! As hard as may be for you, you HAVE to do what's in the best interest of your baby!! There's got to be something you can hold over his head........get him to back off! Threaten him w/having to pay child support....they run quick. He sounds worthless; anyone can be a sperm donor, but it takes a man to be a Dad..........he's not one. Don't let him influence your child; you have to be a Mom now & do what's right....tell the SOB to go make another one to play daddy to, but you're not going to let him ruin your child.

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E-mail him a picture

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get a good lawyer and bring your lucky 4-leaf-clover Does he pay child support? If not, threaten him with paying back child support. Also, we have paternity testing now, that the state will pay for, especially if youre recieving help from the state. He wants to see the kiddo, then make him pay for it.

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well, thats a tough one. i would personally tell him that if he wants to be a part of your childs life that HE needs to come see him, not the other way around. he needs to see him, pay child support, and be a FATHER before he even thinks about uprooting you and that precious baby. good luck!
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personal experiences...........

He sounds like a real jerk. If he had wanted anything to do with your son in the first place, he would have been there for you when your baby was born. Call his bluff! Tell him to get a paternity test, which isn't cheap, then tell him you want child support. Normally, if you hit them in the wallet, they'll back off! I wouldn't move 3 states away to make him happy. Stick to your guns, girl! Good luck!

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I WOULD DEVOURS THE EX, AND HE SHOULD EXCEPT THE CHILD, AT THE FIRST PLACE AND CONTINUED TO SUPPORT THE FAMILY. well, first of all, a test. you need the proof in the court of law for him bein the father. second, you need to bring in front of a judge the fact that he hasn't done anything for you or your child since he was born. third, if you play your cards right in the courts, then you should come out in the end with some money for the kid each month. and lastly, if he did that in the first place, what's he plannin on doing and what will you do 3 states away if he leaves again? no home, no family, etc. if he really wanted to see the kid he would move back home with you and/ or visit and show and prove he's trying to be a good father and not some dead beat dad. hope this helps, and best of luck to you which ever you deside to do.

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First, you make sure that you have custody. With that being said: Every child deserves to have both parents in their lives. whether or not the parent is good will be determined by the child when they are older. don't dismiss the father for wanting to be a father, but also, don't do all the work to make it happen. If he truly wants to take care of his child, let him make the first move. Let him come to the child. Let him get the pampers. Let him buy what's needed for him to take care of the child. You just make sure that your child is safe and has everything that he needs when he's with you. You will always have some kind of ties with him because of your child, whether it's good or bad. Never badmouth the father. If he is no good, the child will figure it out themselves.
All in all, let the dad have a chance to be a dad.
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My own experience with my children's father. We are now married with 3 children and one on the way. Hi evillama4eva,
After having a child by someone its not likely that he will just brush off. At some point in your childs life you may need this man if for no other reason than the health of your child. Stand your ground and tell this man that your not moving if that is your choice. If the man is safe to be around and he wants to see his son and you agree then have him come to you and in a place where there are other people around that you feel safe with. As far as sex, ask him has he ever heard the word " No " and understood what that meant. Good Luck: Blueladybug

if your son want,s to see him then you should let him go for a while
that,s what my mother does

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