(parents only )would you let a 14 year old have a boyfriend?
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I think they are being a little over protective. As a parent i do understand that, but also have to realize that they have to make their own decisions also. You have to trust, (as a parent) even if it eats you up inside. To answer the question, yes i would because i have to trust my little girl, and hope she makes the right choices.
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They're just doing what they think is best for you. I would talk to them about letting you have a boyfriend over with their supervision. Show them you are responsible. The way you're asking seems like you don't just want to have him over or go somewhere for sex because that's probably what they're mostly trying to avoid.
No. Age 16 for 1-1 dating. Age 14 is okay for group settings. Maybe you should poison them!
I don't think a boyfriend at this age is a good thing. 99% of the time it just spell future heartbreak. It is best to have many different "boyfriends". And yes they can call the house if some rules are followed. They can call no later than 10. And not repeatedly.
I think 14 is young for a boyfriend, but I don't understand why they won't allow Friends that are male. That is crazy... maybe you should start them off by going out w/ a mixed group of friends, boys and girls. After they get to meet and know some of your friends, they may come around. Good luck. And great job in school!i would because i think i could control the situation. Nope you are too young. No child good or bad in school should be allowed to have a boyfriend/girlfriend until you are at least 16. It was that way with me & it will be that way for my kids. Just relax. Sounds like your parents are doing a good job.
I'm a parent and I wouldn't not let my 14 year have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Concentrate on keeping your grades up and dating should come later. I do agree though that 16 would be a good age. You have plenty of time. Enjoy being a kid. It won't last long believe me. Good luck in school. Keep up the good work.
You must understand straight A students get pregnant too, your parents are worried about the peer pressure of you having to go to the next level! You must sit down and talk to them is at all possible, it may be your religion or it may be a fear that one or both of your parent have experienced. Maybe if you have a heart to heart with the parent that you can talk to the best you can understand the thoughts going through the minds of both of them that way you can make at least that parent understand that you are growing up. Then in turn you have an ally that can probably talk to the more strick parent. Maybe they're waiting till you get 16 or 17, the only way to find out is if to talk to them or at least one of them!!!Source(s):
Speaking as a mother with two children!
I am the biological mother of two young children and the step-mother of a 15-year-old girl who lives with my husband and me. You should be happy that your parents care enough about you to set rules and limits. Many teens today seem to grow up with very little and sometimes no partental guidance at all. Talk to your parents and see what their reasoning is behind some of the rules that you do not agree with. Although it may sound corny, your parents love you and want what is best for you. You ARE only 14 and have many, many years to have a boyfriend. Don't grow up too fast. It's a tough situation.Now I'm a mother and the feeling is so strong to want to protect my child.Know that your parents are doing their best.Ask them if you could have a friend(boy you like) over for lunch on a Sat and you prepare everything.Tell them you just want them to meet.After the lunch date sit them down and say you would like the opportunity to see him again with their approval.Tell them you would like to start dating even if that means the dates are supervised.Tell them that you are a good student and daughter and would like a chance to prove yourself in other ways.Tell them that you know they don't want to lose their little girl and that you will understand whatever they choose.And you have to respect their choice.But if they say no ask them exactly when can you start dating.Good luck
Generally, yes, they're being overprotective. But consider: you're 14. Is your prospective boyfriend also 14?
If he's age appropriate, you may want to start a dialog with your mother. You'll need to agree to:
keep your grades up
let her know where you are and who you're with, at all times you're not home
do your homework and chores
not stay out past, say, 9:00, on school nights
introduce your date to your parents
not tie up the phone or computer for hours on end
Also -- since you're 14, you and your prospective date will need an adult to drive you (unless you both live within walking or biking distance of wherever you go for a date). Ask your mom or dad for a ride. Parents are always more comfortable if they get to meet the guy.
Good luck.
Wow! I am a parent of 2 girls and a boy my boy is the youngest he is only 07 my girls are 14 and 13. They both have boyfriends. The boys call the house. At times they come over to the house. No one is born a Parent. We live and learn. After seeing the answers on here I think I need to rethink things. I got married when I was 15 but never went with a boy my own age. I thought it would be okay since the boys they see are the same age as them. You r parents are trying to do what is best for you. They love you and are just trying to protect you.. When you get older you will understand.
Be patient and try to be understanding.
Good Luck!
Their not over protective, they just don't want you to hang around with boys as much. They don't feel that it is the right age for you to have a boyfriend yet. Or maybe they want you to have a arranged married and they don't want you to create ralationship with a boy because it could turn very messy. They love you alot, they don't want your life to be ruined. I'm sure they are just trying to keep you as young as possible. However, I believe at 14 you should be able to talk on the phone to a boy and also go on parental monitored dates. Such as you and the boy going to a movie with your parents..this sort of thing. This will allow you to show your parents you are ready, and also for your parents to teach you the do's and don't's of being a lady while on a date.
I reasoning's behind this is that I think if we offer up our children monitored life experiences, they are more likely to stay honest and not sneak them. Plus, dating, and the protocol that goes with it are things that teens need to learn in order to prepare for adulthood, and if parents want to raise great people then who better than to teach these skills to our teens? I mean, good dating skills are what will lead to choosing your husband.
Good luck!
yes they are over protective to much parenting can drive a child 14 away to do much worse stuff than a boyfriend just remember abstinence is the best birth control and say no to drugs even cigarettes maybe,maybe not.
I would not let you go in a car with a boy,until you are at least 15 1/2.I would allow you to have a boy come over,and to talk on the phone.
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