What are some parents doing wrong?
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Children misbehaving in public is not a new thing in spite of what society says. The new thing is that parents who punish their children are now being turned into social services for child abuse. I do agree that some people should punish their children more, but how can we when there is always some nosy person on the next aisle waiting for me to do something "wrong." It is a catch 22.
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not enough time with kids. not talking to the kids.
HAVEING KIDS
There are many situations. Perhaps the child wants something the parent cannot get them. Perhaps the parent wasn't paying enough attention. There are many reasons but no parents are doing anything wrong for the most part. They do what they can, and we should be really grateful to them for it. =D
some kids don't get any discipline, even if it's a simple timeout. As a result, they learn they can do whatever they want, and/or just don't know right from wrong.
not spending enough time together and beating their children!!!!!!!!!!!!
Some people shouldn't have kids. Parents like that are too weak minded to have kids and should be shot. REMEMBER: Kids ARE the future. When we need retirement pay and other services when we are old, these screaming rugrats will be playing puppetmaster with us and the country. Thank you to all the Jackasses that call themselves parents to these kids...
For one thing, they probably weren't meant/ready to be Parents...
maybe the child has done something nasty and his mom had leave the place quickly to avoid humiliation
people are not utilizing discipline... parents nowadays are trying to be friends with their children....that's fine, but the problem is, they don't know when to be friends, and when to be parental. people are afraid their kids will "hate them". so they let their kids walk all over them. set some boundaries, some rules....something! those same children grow up to be adults that can't handle themselves, since they think they can get whatever they want by throwing a tantrum.
When you say Kuku for Coco puffs, you have hit the nail on the head. I think we sugar up our kids WAY too much. Has any parent here even looked at the food labels of things they buy for their kids to eat?? The majority of packaged food has a HIGH sugar content. Sugar can hype a child up to a point where they can't handle the energy and they "wig" out. Also with children being more sedentary in this day and age, the sugar is not being used as FUEL in the childs body, therefore it gets stored as fat. This is why there is an obesity problem with children. The kids however who are not sugared up probably get their way alot because the parents are not disciplining their children when need be. My 2 cents
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My own experience with my six year old who gets LIMITED sugar, discipline when needed and LOTS of love!!!
I believe it is not having control of your children and not making strict guidelines for them to act in public. Or if they do not behave in a public place or at home for that matter, they will be punished for their misbehaving. Its just bad parenting or just not having the skills to deal with a bad behaving child.
I think the new movement in parenting is to be your kids buddy, or friend. Which sounds great, but I think kids need a parent, an source of unconditional love AND guidance.
Parents try to shy away from negitive reinforcement, but I feel that while you can raise a functioning adult without corporal punishment, some negitive consquences must be applied to the misbehaving/underpreforming youth as an example of the negitive reprocussions that life deals out to those that misbehave (Prison, fines, death), or underpreform (poverty, depression, gluttony).
It is important that kids understand that anything of value must be worked and sacraficed for, and that while not being able to achieve every goal, they can, when real effort and dillagent study is applied even the toughest goals can be met and exceeded.
Well some kids are just more difficult then others but I think the biggest mistake that parents make is that they say no and when there kid keeps crying for whatever it is that they want they end up giving in, it is a quick solution to the problem with long term bad results! Once they figure out that if they cry long enough that you will give in then they will do it every time! The result is a kid who is crying all the time. If you don't give in to there cries then eventually you will have a better kid who knows when you say no that you mean no and even if they cry it wont help so whats the use! They will stop crying quicker and eventually (when they mature a little) not at all!
Lack of discipline in the household for the most part. Although sometimes even good kids act badly sometimes, they are just kids after all, and kids know their isn't awhole lot you can do in a public setting to correct them, even if they will be in big trouble later on, that's later- kids don't care. Sometimes it is not a parent they are with, maybe a grandparent, or aunt or uncle, and kids will behave differently are different people, they know who will let them get away things.
When my children try to act up in public thins is what I do:
First, take the child aside, and quietly, but sternly, tell them to knock it off.
Second, if they persist, remind them that their will be consequences to their actions at home ( whether it be time-out, spanking, grounding, whatever)
Third, leave. Just leave whatever you are doing and go home and deal with the child immediately.
Disipline definately. I look at my 2 brothers and my sister and that's all the proof I need. They weren't spanked or given limits as tiny children so now they scream at my parents and do as they wish and fight with each other constantly. I do what my mom says whether I agree or not. My dad used to beat me a lot for even the little things and I can tell you that straightened me out. But he and my mother divorced when my brother was little so he never got it. And my sister is my step sister, who is very spoiled and even if I help her and be nice she's still stuck up towards me. I don't recommend beating your children for every little thing though. I'm almost old enough to leave the house for college and I still cry when I visit my dad. I'm scared I'll mess up and he'll wip me, which he has offered to many times. I don't hate him, I wish he wouldn't flip out when he lost a game of Halo on the Xbox though. Anyway, I was heavily disiplined and I still threw fits in public. I would get a beating afterwards but that didn't stop me when I was a small child. Maybe I was a brat, but today I'm very respectful of other people. I think little children will throw fits every now and then, but a time out or two will help to how they will develop when they are older. So I say, spank them when they are little, then lock them in the most boring room in the house for an hour away from their fun stuff. Be sure to set boundries when they are babies and little toddlers.
the problem is state! if you are seen in public disciplining you child someone will call state. I know I have had it done to me 4 time. Once for each child. I was found unfounded each!!!! And each time all I was doing was paddling my child once on the butt. Like I was brought up. State said each time. It isn't against the law to paddle your child on the butt once. Its the nosy people around you that get involved! Thinking they are doing the child a favor. WRONG!
People cannot mind their own business. A clap is always with 2 hands. Attention seeking might be a ruse, more often it is the lure of a toy/food etc that triggers of the tantrum. Adults are supposed to possess the art of reasoning which the child does not. It is real fun to try psychological warfare on a kid. For e.g, when my kids do this all I tell them is that I shall discuss their tantrum with their school teachers and friends and ask them if the tantrum was right or wrong. This immediately opens up a dialogue!!!
Not quality time with the children, not listening to the children, ever. Emotional child abuse, child neglect.
The parents had a bad upbringing and consequently they're not tolerant enough. I've some times been at the market,
someone was there with the kids or daughters, or with daughter and her friends. Every question to the parent got verbally shot down, by the parent (the kids got balled out for asking the questions.).Parents aren't reading parental help books.
My son throws fits in stores on occasion, he's 2 it's what he does, he dosn't get the toy or the candy he thinks he needs so he tries throwing a fit. They are out of control of their enviroment and temper tantrums are a very vocal way of trying to control said enviroment, I ignore them and they typically go on about 2 minutes, he stops and then we start talking about something else, he's realized Mama is in control around here, but he has to test that limit. I think a lot of it is that, and the fact that you very rarely notice the kids that are being good. I think parents are wrong in worrying so much about what others think do what you beleive is right for your kid and as long as you aren't physically or emotionally hurting them you're doing what you can.
I will be one of the first to admit when my children are acting out in public because i told them they cant have something i will get onto them. I dont care who is around or what others say. They are my children and they have to learn that they cannot have everything they want. My children are spoiled but not with material things they are spoiled with love. they know that if they are good and behave the proper way then they get extra things but i will not and refuse to reward bad behavior. I dont care if htey are screaming at the top of their lungs in the store for something they are still not going to get and the most they are going to get is grounding or spanking depending on the meassure of their behavior. i dont spank unless the punishment calls for it. which most of time they are put in time out or ground from the tv or xbox or things they really like. I talk to them about what they did wrong and try to show them the right way. I am not here to be their "friend" i am here to be their parent and teach them right from wrong and to raise them to be nice respectful people when they grow up. I dont care if people agree with me or not. I do believe my kids need to learn that if you want something life work for it. done expect to throw a fit and get what you want cause thats not gonna happen especially with me. I am far from perfect as a parent i make mistakes and i learn from them. some parents need to step up to the plate and be parents. kids need friends this i know but thats not our job our job is to be parents. love unconditionaly, disipline when needed and most of all teach them the right things. i want my kids to love me just as any parent does but also i know the more they hate me becuase i try to teach them the right ways and wont let them get away with the things they try the more i know i am doing my job.
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