10, 15, 19 YO boys engage nightly in LOUD, obnoxious banter.They seem to NEVER stop talking. What to do?

Step mom to these boys who have been in the US with myself & their father for 10 months. Father almost always at work says “I can’t stop them. They R loud because they R normal boys!” & “Absolutely not!” to family/couples counseling. On more than one occasion I’ve literally begged them to either use an "inside voice" or to just give me a FIVE MINUTES of silence before I go insane! They agreed, then started back up 30 SECONDS later. Some voices R deep & thunderous. Neighbors sometimes beat on the walls at around 10PM b/c they R so loud. Told husband this. He said "No that's not my kids! You are lying!".Since they R older is it alright 4 me to put on earphones (w/classical music or something) after I help with their English & homework? Anyone have any other suggestions please?

Answers:
I would record the boys at night while their father is as work, that way the next time he says "no that's not my kids!" you can show him that his little heathens aren't such angels after all. Then I would tell him that he needs to step up and help you be a parent because if he doesn't you will handle it the way you see fit and he will have no right to be mad at you if he doesn't like the way you deal with the situation. Then because they are older I think it's perfectly acceptable to listen to music after your done helping them with homework and stuff.
I would also go to your neighbors and tell them the next time the boys are to loud for them to come over and knock on the door to let you know, then when they do go get the boys and let the neighbors tell them how rude they are being, maybe hearing it from a stranger will make them see they are being to loud.

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Boys, talking! I thought that was suppose to be girls. But I can understand the loudness and rowdyness. Give them consequences if they don't behave, but really the dad should be stepping in if he's the bio-father. Step parents should never be the primary discipliner. Your husband needs to take action, and he needs to let them know there will be consequences if they do not behave around you.

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