10 yo immigrant step daughter had been genitally mutilated in her home country, Doc says it will be a miracle?

If she ever reaches an orgasm among other psychological complications she'll have to face. Earlier I asked about the above situation. Her father/my husband & supports this procedure it & according to the Doc who specialized in treating such incidents her mother probably either did it or witnessed it happily b/c they think this makes a girl more marriageable in their anti-female society. I clearly said that her entire clitoris & labia had been removed. I’ve noticed that most of the individuals here that advise me NOT to attempt to get custody of her (based on this barbaric abuse) or who say “it’s best to just let her stay with her own culture” R MALE. What if I were an American male married to a woman from a matriarchal society that advocated cutting off the penis so that no feeling could be attained AND removing the testicles. If I were an American man trying 2 decide what to do about this, wld American men advise me the same way? I think not. What do you think?

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~Re: your comment to me in another question.
I don't get paid to be a simpleton. I do it for free. It's a hobby and I'm damn good at it, don't you agree. But, I am not married to a foreigner from whom I am separated and whose children I am caring for and whom I cannot understand if he chooses to speak to others, including the children, in my presence in his native tongue. As to the interactions between the kids, you fail to mention the culture from whence he came. It's an odds on favorite that it is a culture in which women are subservient and treated as little more than chattle. Perhaps the kids understand this and that explains the girls response/reaction to her brother's comments. If I'm correct, get used to it. You will be expected to act likewise, particularly in his homeland. Were I you, I would think twice about going to his home, especially if you have children with him. But, what do I know. I am, after all, the simpleton here.

As to this question, the "mutilation" you describe is a common practice in many Middle Eastern and African and Asian societies. However, the procedure involves the clitoris only, not the labia. If the girl has undergone the surgery, she will suffer no psychological trauma from experiencing orgasm as she will not be able to achieve orgasm. As to your "what ifs", they are moot. You will have to deal with the facts (and laws and customs as they exist). You chose to marry into the culture, or at least marry a man from it. You dealt yourself the hand, play it. If you were not aware of the customs, maybe you should have learned a little about your husband and his customs before you married him. As a simpleton, I know I would have.

As to the custody issue, you have a snowball's chance in hell of winning in his country and not much better here. Step-parents have extremely limited custody (or visitation) rights and the burden of proof is incredibly difficult to sustain. The "barbaric abuse" you describe, being a common and accepted norm in the culture where it was done (with the blessing of and at the request of the parents) will not begin to get your foot in the door. But again, that's just the opinion of an (amateur) simpleton. You obviously know better. After all, you're the one in this position. PTL

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uh.... what was the question?

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