19 month old with an Attitude?
I call her name, she says No!
When one of us gets home from work and doesn't give her attention RIGHT AWAY she walks away and when you go near her she says NO!. We're awesome at greeting both of kids at the door but she wants it NOW.
Also, all she wants is JUNK. Or she gets so upset , she'll cry for an hour, doesn't want us to console her, or TOUCH her, and then she'll cry herself to sleep. But make sure no one tries to comfort her or she'll go crazy!
What's up with my little one? How can I change things to better her response and attitude? And need for JUNK?
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This would be the terrible twos... Some kids get it at 18 months, some go through it around three...
They're right.. Tough love's the way to go.. Don't give her junk. She'll get hungry enough to eat regular food after a day or two. Don't give into her tantrums. Once she gets ignored, she'll give up.
It'll suck for a while, but it's what you gotta do.
This age is all about testing boundaries and seeing what they can and can't get away with.
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tough love is the only answer. Don't tolerate the word no at all (unless of course it's in response to a question). your little one needs discipline and consistency. Do not allow her to control the situation. She will she that what she's doing isn't getting her desired results, and will stop this behavior.
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I am not a parent but I can remember learning things as a child by the way my mother would handle me. I am sure it still works that way. Don't ever let her way. Only reward when she does good. But be persistant and make sure she knows the word NO. You're allowing her to rule the house, instead of you (the parent) running things. When she throws these fits, give her no attention whatsoever. She's punishing you for not allowing her to have her way, and when you try to "comfort" her, you're feeding into that sort of behavior. When she throws a fit like that, I'd put her in her crib alone with no toys, walk away for a while, and go on with your activities.
well i would say dont let her get away with it put her in the corner or watch supernanny and get some ways to make your child behave.
I know it sounds mean...but my daughter did the same thing....put your foot down...say no...and don't try to console her...she keep doing it because she is getting attention...temper tanturms shouldn't be rewarded. she is getting close to the terrible twos ...put a stop to it now or it will get worse....my son is 4 and my daughter is 2...austin being the first child i didn't know and gave in...i still have alot of problems with him...i put my foot down right away with my daughter and she is soooo goodcompared to my son...i wish i would have known with him. but i still love him and her with all my heart and no matter what they will always be my babbies.Sounds like she might need a spanking. I'm not talking about abusing her, but a spanking on the butt. She needs to remember who is in control. Most behaviors like this are learned. Does she see you & your husband/boyfriend agrue. Or it can be that lately there has been a change in her life that she's having a hard time getting use to. If you know that there is friction between you & your mate and it is observed by her - both of you need to have her in a better enviroment. If there has been something that has set her off, maybe a new sitter, death in family, etc., then seek help as to how to help her. If she is simply being a brat, spank her & let her know you're doing it because you love her. Ultimately seek prayer for guidence from God.
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Book: The Power of Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian (great book) She is learning how to control the environment she lives in. Let her play with things that are not too dangerous, life threatening, and if she gets a boo boo, she will learn not to play with it. She has learned how to control your response to help her. She says NO and you keep pleading with her to stop crying. Let her cry herself to sleep if it doesn't drive you crazy before she goes to sleep. Just let her know that crying will not do any good. Sooner or later, you will be the controller of the environment and she will go along with your way of doing things. You know what's best and she has to learn that from you. You be the teacher/parent and your daughter is the student/child.
Sounds to me like she does all that for attention. 19 months seems awful early for this temperment stage, mine is 3 and she's going through it now. But yes, every child is different. Seems like she runs the household, has you right where she wants ya. Maybe try not to act so concerned when she throws her fits. Let her be by herself when she does it. She'll realize she won't get what she wants by doing that. As far as the junk--are u meaning junk food? Just don't give it to her. Remember you're in charge, she's not. It's easier to give in, but if you stay strong, it will get easier.
Welcome to the "Terrible Twos"!! Kids at this age get frustrated because they can't always verbalize what they want, so they start to test how far they can push. It's time to establish some rules and consequences, and that all depends on your parenting style.She might also be tired. Keep her on a regular sleep schedule and make sure she gets a mid-day nap.
Above all, be patient and cut yourself some slack! If you start to get frustrated, go outside for a few minutes until you calm down. your little one is "RULING THE ROOST". Better stop it now...or not complain when they shoot someone during their teenage years...or beat you up. Give her the attention she needs....but DO NOT GIVE IN WHEN SHE PITCHES HER FITS. Walk away. Don't look at her, Don't talk to her, COMPLETELY IGNORE THE BEHAVIOR AND IT WILL STOP. SHE IS DOING IT NOW BECAUSE SHE IS GETTING THE RESPONSE FROM YOU THAT SHE WANTS. Good luck! Oh yes, DON'T OFFER JUNK, AND SHE CAN'T WHINE ABOUT IT WHEN IT'S NOT THERE!
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