4 and a half month old son is driving me crazy?
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YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!!! There is something wrong with YOU!! You act as if he is a teen that is doing things on purpose - he's not!! You really need to seek professional help for yourself!! Maybe you have something wrong with YOU and you are taking it out on him. Everytime I read one of your questions that are this hateful toward your baby, I want to report you to CPS. I know that they have already been to your house - from one of your other questions - and I hope they take both of your children away from you and lock you up. Your idiot boyfriend should take your baby and get VERY far away from you!!
Have you ever thought that MAYBE your baby knows that you resent him and is just uncomfortable with you? Your mother is probably turning over in her grave. You are disgracing her memory with your irrational & unloving behavior! Shame on you!
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Is he teething? Have you tried a bit of Tylonol?
I'm so sorry. does he sound fussy or in pain. Do you feel like he's OK? See if you could get a second opinion. It cold be just colic and he will out grow it. It is annoying. My daughter was like that but she would be good if I held her. Best thing to do is let him cry esp. if you are upset. Good Luck.
i have twin 4 month olds, when they do that i give them baby Tylenol and it usually knocks them right out. or i put them in the bathroom when i take a shower. if all that doesn't work i let them cry. there's only so much you can do without going insane. if hes not hungry, not dirty, not hot or cold, or hurt, then you cant do anything more.
It is somewhat likely that your frustration is wearing on your son also, which is like chasing your tail. the more frustrated you get, the worse he gets. Try (and make it a real attempt) to be calm around him and be calming to/for him. Try playing Mozart music, too, that can be very calming!
listen..toddlers are like this..esp sons..try and find out where hes uncomfortable. also you must be strict with him. take strict action if reqd. plz dont hate him. nothing could be more disasterous. best of luck
I'm so sorry you've said you're starting to hate your son. Sounds like you need some you time to unwind. Have you thought about talking to someone. A shrink maybe? I've done it and it really helps!
Good luck
First off this often happens, it was the same with my brother and I. He was the older and a perfect angel, and I was well let's say not so much. I wasn't really fussy but I was always up and about, much to my parents annoyance.
I think you have to find another way to deal with your anger at it. Is there someone who can help you out? Mother, father, aunt, friend etc.? Someone who when you feel this frustrated to call on and let you rest for a little, go out and talk a walk or whatever.
I also think you should go to a different pediatrician and get a second opinion. If the most fussy of babies I haven't don't cry that much. Of course I don't deal with infants that much I could be wrong, but it might be worth it to get a second opinion, maybe there is another reason other than cholic that he is crying for.
You have to find another outlet for your anger when it builds, if you can seek some counselling if for just your own piece of mind.
If he's like I was (and am), he may just be really hungry all of the time.
My daughter was exactly the same.
Once we gave her enough calories she was much quieter and content.
Or:
He may be craving physical contact and comforting.
What things will stop his crying? Even though may be hard, do the things that make the baby content.
Try just coddling him and speaking in low, hushed, loving tones. Let him know he is safe.
At this point this is going to be very hard, I know.
But try anything you can to make the baby comfortable, content and safe.
Good Luck Dear and keep strong.
Plenty of support out here from other parents.
Sweetheart!!! I know what you are going through. You need support. My son was the same way and it drove me bananas. The main thing to remember is that he is little and helpless.He is crying for a reason he cant express to you as of yet.It sounds a lot like colic. It gets better as they get older(Trust).The best thing you can do is to eliminate all the problems you think it could be(e.g gas, soiled diaper,sleep,etc...)I tried bottles that eliminated gas,i tried johnson and johnson lavender bedtime body wash and lotion,i tried baby swing, music,there is also a teddy bear that makes the sound of a heartbeat which works wonders)Something will work for your baby!!!!! He probally is having difficulty adjusting to life outside of the comfort of his mothers body. Also do something for your self when the baby is asleep.Try a relaxing bath or soothing music to calm your stress.If you feel like you will hurt your baby or need a break.Call someone you trust to watch him for a bit while you cool down. I sympathize with you(ur not alone) Good luck!!!!!
Well I too went through this when my daughter was of the same age. She was very fussy and irritated all the time. When I finally observed I came to know she was teething! Just observe ur boy when he gets cranky. What makes him go wild. Try to divert his attention and believe me u need to have tonnes of patience! I even tried giving my little one one homeopathy medication for sleep and irritability. It worked for her. But I don't know if I cud suggest the same to u. Its called "Kindival". Now she's 10 months and a joy to be with. So don't worry its a passing phase... and very soon it will all be over and u'll love ur son more than ever.
it could be a number of things that are bothering him it could be gas which if you have ever had it you know that it doesnt feel good it could be teething which i would imagine is painful as well he could be hungry or tired you just need to figure out what is bothering him so badly because obvioulsly something is wrong it will just take some patients on your part you cannot let him make you mad enough that you break things because that means that there is a chance that he could make you mad enought that you acutally harm him try playing with him on the floor maybe he just wants to be able to move around you cannot leave him in his crib all the time it is not healthy for him at all if he irritates you that badly try walking outside and taking some deep breaths until you calm down it is just something that you will have to learn to deal with i am watching a little girl right now that is the same way but just a little younger and sometimes i just have to go outside and breathe so that i can calm down but i have to deal with it because i need the money and just because he is a fussy baby does not mean that he will be a bad child his whole life it just means that he may need your attention some more now while he is younger just try to calm down and not let it bother you so much it will pass
Whoa! I feel for you, really. I have 4 kids of my own and know what it's like not to have any time for yourself or feel like there's no way out. It's also very hard to believe that you're actually starting to "hate him". Although it seems like his behavior will never change, it will. First off, be happy that he's healthy, it could be a lot worse. A friend of mine almost lost her daughter in a near drowning accident and now her little girl can't even cry as she is in an open-eye coma.
What should be an area of concern is your temper flying off the handle, it's a good thing you leave the baby alone for a bit. Try changing your attitude to a "what can i do about this?" from a 'his driving me mad!!' attitude. Try any number of things to help him feel comforted, I'm sure your aggravated state is not soothing to him. Ex: give him a quick bath, play music loudly, try a variety of music too...my son at 6 mons loved techno and rave (heavy bass put him to sleep), turn on a vacuum, or toss a small blanket over him and lift it up playing peek-a-boo...I wish you the best of luck and more love for you both!!!! And from one mom to another who never get enough time for ourselves, I really feel for you...if all fails, have someone watch him for a day or 2. i'm sure you'll miss him.
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If I were you I would find a babysitter for part of the day to give yourself a break, and find ways to calm yourself down. Kicking holes in the wall and breaking things like a child isn't teaching your children anything positive. Babies cry, that doesn't make them bad, that means something is wrong with that poor baby. Take him to a different pediatrician and get a second opinion. He is at the right age for teething. Try teething tablets, they are homeopathic and dissolve in your babies mouth. then let him chew on a damp rag. He probably cries when you hold him because he can sense that his mother "hates" him.
Maybe you should also look into anger management classes. I know what it's like to deal with constant screaming of an infant but i couldn't imagine ever saying I hated my son. I hope everything works out for you. best of luck.
First of all, I am sorry you are going thru all this pain. It's beyond frustrating I know. But TRY to BREATH for a second and read this:
Your doctor may be prescribing you gas medicine, that stuff doesn't work.
Your best bet is to get your baby boy on Whey Hydrolysate Formula.
Whey is a certain type of protein in milk that is easier to digest than others.
Colic is one of the most frustrating things yet one of the easiest things to get rid of, I promise.
DO NOT give him soy milk, it's got aluminum content and and excessive phytoestrogen equivelant to 5 birth control pills a day.
If you tell your doctor this, they may dismiss it, it's the truth.
I am not sure where you can find this formula but you can make your own.
If you want his colic to go away and you want him to stop crying for hours to the point where you're going pull all your hair out and scream mary, try the Whey Hydrolysate Formula.
Then, remove ALL DAIRY from his diet.
Your boy is not digesting his milk. This is a very, very painful thing for him as it is for you to deal with.
Your baby needs you to fix this problem rather than break everything in the house, you need this too. You also need a break. I don't know about your situation but search and find one person you trust who can nurture your baby for 3-4 hours.
You need it.
Just remember, your baby is in pain. He's not fussy. He's in pain.
If I could, I'd make it for you but if you need me, contact me anytime.
Your baby doesn't want you to hold him b/c he's in pain, sort of like women who don't like to be touched during labor.
Massage his belly gently and esophagus when he's calm with warm olive oil.
Try the whey, it will work. Try the olive oil.
Breath woman, take care of you and baby.
Tylonel is not the answer. Tylonel is good for aches and inflammation, not what your baby is crying about.
Try this, the next feeding, try giving him warm chamomile tea or peppermint tea. See if that helps,
I know it's the milk he's drinking.
Also, for your depression and stress level, girl you need to meditate.
You don't need beads and a hum, you need time to close your eyes and concentrate on something beautiful in your mind without judgements, hate, or fear.
JUST TRY IT once for 10-15 minutes, then try it again the next day or in the morning.
You also need support. This is support so read on.
Your baby needs to feel a better aura around him, I am certain he feels your stress level.
You're not bad for saying you feel as if you hate your baby. I'm just praying that you truly don't. Think of all this rationally, it will pass, do what you can do to solve it.
Both of you are in stressed, help your baby and you will get the same.
Look into NST Therapy as well.
OOH! I FOUND IT!
Good Start by Carnation: commercial whey hydrolysate formula.
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how can you say you hate your child??? take the good and the bad. so what deal with it. if you didn't want to deal with the bad times then why have a baby. get a baby sitter if you want time to your self. take him to a family member or friend. you really dont deserve to have him. GET HELP!!!!! not for your son for you. you need to see a shrink.
Have you tried holding him like a "football"? He may just have a belly ache. Put his head, face down in the crook of your arm, and your hand on his belly, and just move him back and forth slowly, and pat his back or butt. Your hand on his belly will put a little pressure on it, and may help him feel better. Is there anyone who can take him for you for a few hours? You really need to take a break before you hurt him. Try to relax, babies sense when you are stressed out, and are more fussy. You should try to talk to someone, like in a mommy and me group, or other parents you know near you. Your anger is not healthy, especially since you are saying you hate him. Look in his little eyes, and think about how much he really need you right now! You are the one person he is learning to trust, and to love more than anything! I know how frustrating it can be, but you have GOT to control your temper, or you will end up hurting him, instead of the wall or his crib.
I hope you don't think I am being judgmental, or mean to you, cause I am not. I know how you feel, and I have been there, 4 times. I have a hard time hearing (seeing) a mom say she hates her baby! You can contact me if you want to, to vent, or just to talk, but please talk to someone!! Good luck to you, and God bless!
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Oh ..ok. the boy must be giving you a real hard time. First of all you have to calm down.. It happens with my son,.. whenever he cries it gets on my nerves and i too shout at him. After a while i realised babies can understand our mood and they can get irritated or frustrated when we are not calm. so when he cries atleast act as if you are calm. Or play music, u can jump, laugh ,dance infront of him to make him happy. Initially i was getting on my nerves when he cries. But now i try to recollect the feeling everytime when they cry that babies are like that , and they cant even express their feeling except crying. Try to think like this whenever he cries and that will change you mood soon and you will try to find a way to calm him by doing some innovative thing that will work out for ur baby. If none of the other works may be i think he wants your attention , and maybe he is scared when u lift him with anger to hold him. So before picking him up control your self and take some minutes to think of the reasons why he cries.. hunger? sleep? colic,dirty diaper or just wants to be held?? all the reasons.. Rule out one after the other . Try to be cheerful all the time while u r checking him and dont loose your tember at all. that is very important. It took me a month to learn this. I now dont get tensed at all when he cries. Take him out when he cries, change his mood some how, My son cries for half an hour everytime when he wants to nap at around 3 months.. I found this after 15 days that he doesnt know to sleep and cries whenever he feels sleepy. So i introduced him to pacifier slowly. He never takes pacifier when he cries. so I give him pacifier well before his nap time so that he wont shout and cry,that worked. so dont worry there are these silly reasons also which will never stike to a desperate mom. I am sharing all this experience to help you out. Hope it helps. Let us know ur success too.
ooh, i know the feeling. my now 3 year old son went through that for a while. i left him in the crib and closed the door, just like you. i made sure i tried everything i could at first, though. he was safe in his crib, and i needed to cool down. after that, maybe you can try try again, if you still need a break, call in reinforcements. while you're cooling down try to think about if you were in a situation where you were unhappy about something and not able to communicate it to the person who was caring for you- how frustrating that would be. poor little thing is upset or uncomfortable and can't find any relief on his own. a stressed mother cannot deal with a screaming baby, though, so if you're unable to regroup and relax, you're just gonna have to let someone else give it ago. also, try mylicon, gripe water, or colic relief drops; teething tablets, teething rings, or baby oragel.
and don't feel bad about people giving you a hard time or saying you're a horrible person about saying you are starting to hate your son. at least you're reaching out for some help. keep your head up, mom and remember this phase is just temporary. go to your doctor and see if you may be suffering from post-partum depression.
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Does he cry/scream harder when you pick him up or touch him in anyway? It's remote, but there is some type of condition that causes babies a great deal of pain when they're handled in any way. I saw an expose on one of the news shows about this about a year ago. I wish I could remember the name of it, dang it! Probably not that anyway...it's a pretty rare condition.
How long has he been doing this...since birth, or just recently started it? When he starts crying, check for things on him...does he have a tag in his shirt/shorts that's scratching him? Does he have a mosquito/flea/bug bite somewhere that's making him ithcy and cross? Did he grab a handful of your hair while playing with you or your daughter, then get it wrapped around one of his fingers or toes? Is his diaper on too tight? Did he get enough sleep the night before or with his morning/afternoon nap? I know these sound ridiculous, but hey...you have to rule out every possibility.
I was very fortunate that I got my "screamer" out of the way first. Compared with my older son, my younger one is a dream. He was a very "needy" baby...non-stop whining until we picked him up, but thankfully now that's he's crawling and starting to creep along, he can get his own toys, books, etc.
I really don't know what to tell you, other than I sympathize with you, and like most things with babies/kids...this too shall pass.
And please, don't say you hate him. You don't hate your baby. :( You hate the way he acts right now.
I know exactly how you feel. I experienced the same thing with my baby (now 9 months old). It sounds a lot like colic, also it might be extreme gas. Try Mylicon drops. If that doesn't work (and in my case it didn't), I would almost guarantee that it's colic. The pediatrician doesn't seem to know what he's talking about because colic is unexplained fussiness that seems to go on "forever". In that case, and I know you don't want to hear this, but there is not much you can do about it. That was my case. Just know that it does get better over time. Hang in there. You did the right thing by leaving the baby in the crib crying; sometimes you have to do that to keep yourself from doing something bad. There were times I felt like leaving and never returning. I know how you feel. Your not alone. If possible, get a sitter a few time a week so that you can have some time to yourself. Also, if the weather is nice, try to spend time outside, that might help do the trick. One last thing, have you tried a baby swing?
you need to seek couseling. never say you hate a child, hes teething give him some infant tylenol. he could also havew pent up gas burp him more. give him milecon drops even. try playing with him
Try putting some baby cereal in his bottles. Try liquid anti-gas drops. Gas will make a baby howl for hours. Try sitting him in a car seat and setting him up on a running dryer. Try running the vacuum. They like the noise.
Okay sweetie, here's the deal, you need to take a step back and tell your boyfriend to help you, and if his work or something like that keep him from it, then call a parent or even a grandparent and tell them what is going on, then ask them to please take him for a few hours during the week, so that your daughter can get some mommy time, like I am sure by age 8 she is used to anyways. You may be having a little touch of post partum depression for which there are numerous ways to get help with. But it sounds to me like you have fussy baby syndrome. My daughter was like that too, but her reason was much more serious than colic. We found out at age 2 1/2 months that she had a hole in her heart and leaky valve. It was really scary but I am glad that we treated her for it when we did. It turned out just to be something she grew out of. The only way I could keep her from crying was to rock her in her swing for hours on end. I thought it was bad for her spending all that time (usually asleep) in her swing. But the minute it stopped she would start in again. I learned things that really got her attention, like baths, she loved them so much, I would bathe her as many times as i could possibly stand it (that also helps with tummy aches) and usually after a bath she would nap for a while and then wake up crying again, but then I would just try something else like playing with her, or taking her for a walk in the stroller, or going for a drive, those things always seemed to help. She is 7 years old now and she is a smart, funny, outgoing, child and to be honest with you she is my "easiest child" when it comes time for bed or cleaning her room or anything like that. She is still a little whiny but I have decided that they are all that way. :) good luck and hang in there and i.m. me if you need anything else, maybe I can help.
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maybe his angry? when i was little i use to cry alot nonstop and my parents said because i got anger issues i still do maybe ur son has anger issues too.
ever think of gas???? hold him with his back to your belly and your arm SOFTLY BUT FIRM against his upper belly. that might help or call someone please don't hurt him he doesn't know any other way of communication yet!!!
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my five month old cries for about thirty mins when he's sleepy i usually lay him on a pillow in my lap and rock him
he is only 5 months old baby!!! you can't hate your baby! he is a baby of course he is gonna cry and you have to deal with it and give your love to him. maybe he cries cause he needs your love and attention
This might sound odd, but my friend had a baby that cried all the time for no reason at all, she was at the end of her tether, as you seem to be, she'd taken him to doctors, everything and they said he was fine.
Another friend suggested she take baby to a chiropractor, and it turns out baby had actually put his back out while being born!, after just one session at the chiropractors his back was back in alignment and the crying stopped!. I'd never heard of this before, but my friend said that the chiropractor said it was quite common!.
Its worth a try if all else has failed!
Does he pull at his ear/s? He could have an ear infection...That can be the reason he's so fussy
Perhaps you could see another doctor and get a second opinion. (?)
You need to go get some kind of help for your issue. Talk to you boyfriend about this and if he doesn't understand then go to someone else, you sound like you have PPD and with you saying that you're starting to hate your son, I'm worried that you might hurt him. My little girl cried all of the time too when she was that age. Good luck.
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