Do you close to routine?
Answers: My twins aged 10 own had a routine from birth and still have one very soon Thomas has autism therefore requirements a routine in place Kylie has adapted to this also we take home time for things bath reading and bed ..everyone knows where on earth they stand ..
No. Babies can't tell time, and aren't able to 'remember' that 'oh, after mommy feed me I will play for 20 minutes and then she will put me down for a nap and I'll budge right to sleep.'
I think that routines sometimes work best for parents ... and occassionally a less stressed mom may formulate for a happier baby. But in standard, listening to baby's cues and meeting his requests is better for all concerned that trying for force baby onto any but the roughest of routines. (And if you are breastfeeding, any but the roughest/most flexible of routines is possible to be disasterous for your milk supply and baby's nutrition.)
oh yes, i am a firm believer in a routine/schedule.
we started a schedule around 5 weeks old-fashioned for my baby, but all base on his cues.
he actually created his own feeding diary which he eats every 3 hrs on the dot.
he naps every 2 hrs from the time he wake up to the time he goes to bed and he goes to bed at like peas in a pod time every night (and has a hip bath at the same time before bed) - he would start to find grumpy every 2 hrs so i learned he needed to nap and it a moment ago became routine that every 2 hrs is naptime (he only take like 30 min naps)
i think this have helped to create a happy, rested newborn (and he slept through the night since we started a schedule).
it has manifestly worked for us, i think you really have to wage attention to the baby's cues and create the routine around them, they will kind of create a routine, you just own to notice it and follow it.
I think when they are elder they thrive on routine. At 4 weeks I personally found trying to get into a routine an exercise surrounded by futility. She ate when she was hungry, slept when she was tired, etc. At around 4 months we sensitive of started a routine, but it didn't always work. By 6 months we were into a great routine and she started sleeping through the darkness at that age.
Older babies and young children do well beside routines because it gives them signals as to what is coming next, and they necessitate that. No I don't like routine. I find it restricting and stressful and can't cope with living my vivacity by the clock. I'm much happier just "going with the flow", its the charitable of person I am. I breastfed on demand (still breastfeeding at 19 months!) and we co-sleep. I firmly beleive within attachment parenting. To me thats just logical and natural.
I also reject the conception that babies are "happier" with a routine - my son has never have a routine and is the happiest little lad you could wish to meet. He have never responded to any of my half-hearted attempts to put him in a "routine" (forced on me by my Health Visitor who was shocked at our free and comfortable lifestyle) - he's like me and doesn't seem to relish routine at all. What works for us is just letting things appear naturally - he eats when he wishes, goes to bed whe he wants etc (as I do). Yes I'm tired but as I've said I can't live my vivacity by the clock, I'm just not that kind of personality.
I also really object to the way some folks put themselves before their kids and "need" a routine just so they know that they can cast out their kid upstairs at 7pm and "have time to themselves". My son is my life.
If you call for a routine, thats fine, go for it. But I really dislike the way that parents who inevitability a routine try to make out that they are doing it for their baby's sake and that everyone else should do it to. Routine is there for the parent, not the child and not everyone like routine. I don't need or want one.
Yeah I think they work. It give our kids security and surety. Just don't make it too strict otherwise when an event comes up and it interferes beside the routine it can make your child difficult to handle for an example: If they solely ever sleep in their own bed and have to spend a hours of darkness elsewhere they may not sleep at all until their in their own bed. Even something as simple as a bath at a certain time every hours of darkness, if for some reason you don't bathe them for a hours of darkness it might make them restless and unsettled.
So basically yes I do approaching routines but I am teaching my kids to be flexible as well. I regard as older children do well on routine, but I prefer to parent on constraint. I was a firm believer in routine until that time he was born, but that pretty much went out the porthole when he was a colicky newborn. Now that he is 6 months there are unconscious patterns in his light of day, but no forced routine and certainly no scheduled nap or feedings. He eats when he is hungry, sleeps when tired and plays when alert. We go out when we want to and don't verbs that he needs a bath at 7 and to nurse at 7:15.
If this works for your children, great...but not for us.
My go was routineless before kids. I couldn't own cared less going on for when and where and why. After kids? My life is one big huge chirpy routine!! Babies thrive on routine. And in my case, mom thrives on it too! It's nice to enjoy something in place that you can count on (most of the time) in a existence full of unpredictability! :D Obviously, you have to be flexible, but YAY ROUTINE! I had a primary routine, none of this routine stuff with everything up to the type of music to play at bath time lol
I reckon it was better, I was doing routine, but it's gone t!ts up at moment and you can see it lol - my culpability.
It's better and keeps you in control of things so you know when you can verbs etc inbetween hours, more convinent
ABSOLUTELY
Children need routine, if they dont have it their wee worlds are turned upside down, everything runs much more smoothly beside routine
My children are 6 and 3 and come Friday routine goes out the window and they are fine beside this but they know come 7pm Sunday evening routine is back again
My family are glad and this works for us and when baby no3 arrives I will be putting them into a routine aswell
Personally I think they are and they thrive on knowing what is coming subsequent and when. I also think you benefit from it too, as from my experience they tend to sleep a lot better from human being in a routine too. Yes defiantly, i have a set routine for both my babies and they both slept and fed well and be quite content, i still have a routine to a faultless extent now and they are 6 and 3. Its good for you and the child.
i think it is hard to create baby with a routine. my son does not resembling it. but his doctor said he should learn. we try, but failed. he other sleepy. if i want him to wait until the time he should sleep. he will cry and overtired. Yes i think children and parents are happier when they enjoy a routine. My son is 14 weeks, i still feed on demand but we own a routine for everything else. x
As long as it's mostly child centred, yes, I think most except all children thrive on routine, it avoids a lot of meltdowns and melancholy! Yes. My son has had a routine he kinda created for himself since year one and we just stuck with it. We are both happier near knowing what he wants to do at about indistinguishable time every day.
im much happier having her contained by a routine. i have ppd and knowing an approximate time when my baby will sleep or go to bed makes the daylight much easier to get through. Yes I do like routine for the babies especially, it make life easier.
I love routine, but my kids have never like it, lol. No. Definitely yes for babies though.
yes definitely it makes it easier for you and your child/children i reason and children do need a routine. Good luckxxx yes, good luck
Yes. Don't mess next to the system!
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