11 month old temper tantrums!?
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Hi there! My son started temper tantrums at about the same age. Babies this age are exercising their independence that's why tantrums start. My son screams, actualy more like shrieking, when he can't get what he wants. You are right about discpline though, they are too young at this point. The extent of discipline you can do is to divert the attention and suffer through the screaming. If she can't have what she wants, pick her up and place her with the toys she likes playing with. Sometimes this works, and sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't work, just do your best and keep distracting her...otherwise you just wait it out. It is also important at this stage to be firm about things that she can't have or play with like dangerous cords or strings or plastic bags.
I also suggest starting to explain the reasons why can't have certain things. Like "no, it's hot", "no, it'll give you an owwy", or "no, this is not a toy" etc.
I saw on one of your answers that you are an admirer of Dr. Sears.. I think their website may have a few suggestions on dealing with babies at this age. Good luck!
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Don't satisfy the behavior. As long as she thinks the tantrum will work, she'll use it as a tactic to get what she wants. Don't give in...it's VERY hard, but just let her wail it out and she'll give it up.
Let her cry herself out. It tears your heart to let your baby cry, but she needs to learn early on that tantrums will not work, or else the problem will only get worse. actually dicipline is the answer, put her in her room, in her crib and walk away. Close the door if you must, just let her know her tantrums don't affect you and only get her a trip away from other people.
You just got to ignore it. It is tough at that age, but if you start it now it won't be as bad she gets older.
If at all possible just go on about what you were doing before the tantrum. Act like nothing is different, you might even continue to talk to her like you would if she was not throwing a fit. Say if you were about to cook dinner, go on cooking it and ask so do want this or that for dinner (if she normally helps decide) don't give any specific attention to the tantrum. If she gets nothing from throwing the tantrum she will soon give up on them. BUT if she even gets a little special at tension from it (even negative) she will continue them for the attention.It sounds like you have been at my house watching my daughter. She is exactly the same. Don't listen to any advice that says you should punish her as this may screw her up. It has been shown that these tantrums at the end of the firsat year of life are evidence of an emerging sense of self. Basically she is starting to realise that people all think different things and want different things. She will be about five by the time she has a near full understanding.
What to do, try calming her when she is having a tantrum,. and above all talk to her. She can understand a lot at this age. If it is during a diaper chnage then stop what you are doing, tell her softly what you are doing and when she calms a little then continue changing her.
This will pass but only if you tackle it gently, if you come down to heavy then you risk having real problems later in childhood.
Above all remember that her brain doesn't think like yours. Every time she gets angry just tell yourself that she isn't doing it on purpose, she is just learning the rules of her world.
Plenty of patience and calm communication and your daughter will start to comply as she understands what you want from her. She will do it because you will have taught her how to behave, not because of fear.
PS don't ignore her tantrums either, she will just up the ante and although it might eventually seem to work the costs could be high to her self esteem
Have you ever tried wearing your baby? It has been done for thousands of years, only the last few American generations have not practiced it. She somehow thinks that the world revolves around her. If you wear her and let her see that the world is so big and that other things need to be done, she will see that she is not the center of attention and once you begin doing a chore or what have you, she will have her attention on what you are doing. She will learn faster this way and will be happy to be so close to you. The best part, when she is sleepy, she'll fall asleep. Your natural body movement lulls her to sleep. When she's hungry, she let you know either by squirming, sulking, or something that is not a tantrum. She can't throw a tantrum if her arms are in a wrap or sling. Seriously, it is worth a shot. Take a look at these websites to learn more:
(The 1st one tells about it and the 2nd one tells how to)
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/t051100...
http://www.mamatoto.org/
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