1 yr old with attitude?
Question:
Do any of you recall what you went through with your 1 year old daughters in terms of attitude changes? Am I the only mother going through this or do most 1 yr olds start acting this way?
I cry day after day from the way she treats me and sometimes at night...I want my cheerful, loving daughter back who gave me hugs and kisses all the time...
Is this just a phase or will it last on through her "terrible twos" for another couple of years?
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My daughter is three now and yes, she goes through this to, I think she trys to test me at times to see what she can get away with, just get down to her eye level and tell her it's not nice and you don't like it and put her in time out, worked for me, but like your hubby, mine's gone alot to, he's in the army, gone for a year overseas right now and I've noticed when he goes away she starts a attitude with me, I think it's there way of showing us there angry, I tell her I know daddy's not here and your mad about that but you should be on your best behavior so I can tell him how great your being...Good luck, she'll out grow it, just be patient...your doing great...God bless..your welcome to email me or chat anytime...bye
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It's a phase she's just starting terrible twos early, or maybe she's just spoiled..My daughter is 21 months now and for the past 2 months has been going through her tantrums and fits
It is just a phase but if it keeps up wacks her ***! but she is teething and babies get frustrated and sgravated just like you do when she act like that. Just try to deal with her take her to a baby play area or baby gym and she will gradualty grow out of the tantrums. It is a phase. It may blend a bit with the 'terrible twos', but it won't last forever.
I know you aren't just sitting there letting a 1 year old take control of you. You have to set ground rules. if she talks back spank her tail. If she tantrums ignore her. If she breaks things take away everything then spank her she will then learn to realize that you have all control. Don't et her have her way all the time that's why she's like that b/c you spoiled her and yeah it's aweat and cute now, but it will take to her and she will have the same mentality as a teenager and take control of everything you've seen it happen, Don't let it happen to you. I've witnessed it first hand from other people
I don't think it's a phase. It doesn't sound like the terrible two's to me. The poor dear is going through something and has no way of expressing herself. Have there been any changes in your household or in your routines? If her behavior is so bad that you're crying every day, then I think you should talk to her pediatrician. There may be some underlying cause that's easily treated or that you can deal with. But, keep in mind she's still a BABY. A baby doesn't have attitude. But she could be very upset or hurting. And under no circumstances should you spank her.Ahhhh, the joys of Motherhood!...I have 5 girls, all were different, but all are worth it!.....my littlest is 4. She is what I refer to as our hellion. My lovely demon child. She was sooooooo very sweet before she figured out how fun it was to drive mom stir crazy!lol....she probably started that @ about the same age...1. She can still be nice, and sweet, and loving @ times, and when she is @ church or school the faculty all says how well behaved and angelic she is!....ha, if they only seen her @ home. Home is where sweetness, and loveliness is left @ the doorstep. She is a holy terror...hits, screams, throws things, fights with older siblings (she actually makes them cry @ times) and has been doing this since the ripe old age of 1! She learned that attention is attention whatever kind it is! She is getting better or older whichever, but still has that hellcat persona.....timeouts work, oh for about 5 minutes or until the next episode erupts!...I can say this, It gets greater later!...my kids ages are 17,15,9,8,4. So I have had experience with devil children before, just not as early as this one started!!! Good Luck and know that this too shall pass! As a mother of four,the best advice I can give you is not to let her get away with hitting you or screaming at you.If she does these things now & you let them go imagine how she will be in 5 or 10 years.When she does these things,tell her "it is not nice to hit/scream at mommy" & "you hurt mommy when you hit/scream at me".She is young & may not respond to you telling her these things,but still tell her.Also you can use a "timeout",such as a playpen or strap her in a carseat(in the house of course),when she does these things.My pediatrician gave me the best advice on disiplining my children.He said if they do something that would send an adult to jail, punish them.Hope this helps!
You spank a 1 year old???
What a crappy parent you are. You know that it is impossible to reason with and dicipline a kid that young, don't you??
You just try to make sure they don't do things that will hurt them, and take them out of situations where they are doing something you don't like. Hitting them will just teach them that hitting is the answer to everything.
You don't let them get away with things, but spanking and time-outs will not work on a kid that young. They just do not understand what you are doing, except that you are hitting them.
So, what does the baby do??? Hit you back.
They learn by example, and you are a crappy example. Is it possible she is picking up on how it makes you feel and reacting to that? Obviously, something started this . . . perhaps your husband being away, but after that, when you started crying, could she be reading that upset in you and responding with more upset herself?
Anyway, why is probably not as important as dealing with it. It's good that you discpline her. I found with my son that sometimes the best defense is a good offense. We get up, have something to eat, and get out of the house. We go to the park, or the grocery store, or the library, or just for a walk. Being in a different setting makes him less fussy.
It's not uncommon for the "terrible twos" to start by about 18 months, so your daughter could just be going through it early. But it is probably more likely the separtion from dad. Even if it is the "terrible twos", with loving disciple, she shouldn't be terrible much longer just because she's younger. Perhaps by the time she's two she'll be terrific!
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